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الْفَتَّاحُ Translation الْفَتَّاحُ is translated as The Opener and The Revealer and also The Decider i.e. One who makes decisions or judgments. It also comes for victory – فَتَاح Linguistically it means to open but this word has multiple meanings originating from the essential meaning of “Opening”. A lot of names have a Tashdeed and are in the superlative form. This pattern has the meaning in the intensive form of that word. Therefore One Who is the Most Powerful Opener or The Opener of all things and in all matters. The Opener of Rizq and Rahmah – The Being Who opens the doors to the means leading to Rizq and Rahmah. He opens the hearts and eyes to see and recognize the truth. Allah ta’ala also closes the doors of His Rahmah and Ne’mah due to sin though He does not close the door altogether or immediately. For Believers it is opening doors to the Ma’rifat of Allah ta’ala. What we go through in life, good or bad, productive experiences or destructive, these should all be a means of doors opening in our heart one after another to recognize our purpose in this world, the realities and the Ma’rifat of Allah ta’ala. For the sinning believers Allah ta’ala keeps the doors of Maghfirat open. Doors are opened again and again through granting us Ramadhaan, special nights, Hajj, Umrah and feelings of sorrow and remorse. Ibn Qayyim (رحمه الله) says it is opening the doors to understanding the commands of the Shari’ah and opening our Taqdeer. According to another Scholar it is that Being Who makes decisions and judgments. In the Qur’an It is mentioned in different ways and in different contexts in the Qur’an. The word الْفَتَّاحُ (The Opener) is not used as much as “opening” In Surah Saba, (verse 26) it is mentioned in the context of decision making and judging: قُلْ يَجْمَعُ بَيْنَنَا رَبُّنَا ثُمَّ يَفْتَحُ بَيْنَنَا بِالْحَقِّ وَهُوَ الْفَتَّاحُ الْعَلِيمُ Say: "Our Rabb will bring us all together, then He will rightly judge between us. He is the Judge Who knows everything." Allah ta’ala will open up the reality and the truth of the differences between us because He is الْعَلِيمُ – He knows and His knowledge surpasses everyone’s knowledge. Verse 2 of Surah Faatir is in context of Allah ta’ala opening doors of Rahmah and when He opens doors to something, no one can stop it. مَا يَفْتَحِ اللَّهُ لِلنَّاسِ مِنْ رَحْمَةٍ فَلَا مُمْسِكَ لَهَا "That which Allah openeth unto mankind of mercy none can withhold it." This verse brings peace and consolation that it is Allah ta’ala Who is controlling the opening of doors. He has the keys to this invisible world of Rizq, be it materialistic Rizq or spiritual, happiness, love etc. No one has the power to close these doors. A lot of the problems that we have with people or with our own negative thinking is because mentally we have given the keys of our hearts to other people. We have given other people the power when actually they do not have any power and we only think they do. It is Allah ta’ala Who has the power. So if someone is making us happy or sad, they are the Asbaab (means) and it is Allah ta’ala Who has the key and He is in control of all affairs. وَأَنَّهُ هُوَ أَضْحَكَ وَأَبْكَىٰ - that it is He Who grants laughter and tears [ Surah Najm: 43] Therefore we should worry about our relationship with Allah ta’ala. Sometimes Allah ta’ala uses this word in the context of punishment i.e. when He opens doors to Rizq and happiness in order to loosen hold on people who have turned away from Him. He lets them commit more sin and then suddenly turns the tide against them. Allah ta’ala mentions in Surah An’aam the episode of a community who forgot the advices of the Ambiyaa and turned away from Tawheed and goodness. Allah ta’ala says He opened doors to everything for them until they became happy and then suddenly punished them. It is a sign of danger when people turn away from Allah ta’ala and He is still giving them in abundance. So this concept of “Opening” is not just for Rahmah. It is also for punishment. Another word which also means “to open” is شَرَحَ i.e. opening the heart. It has more of a spiritual meaning. أَفَمَن شَرَحَ اللَّهُ صَدْرَهُ لِلْإِسْلَامِ فَهُوَ عَلَىٰ نُورٍ مِّن رَّبِّهِ Is he whose bosom Allah hath expanded for the Surrender (unto Him), so that he followeth a light from His Lord, (as he who disbelieveth)? [Surah Zumar: 22] رَبِّ اشْرَحْ لِي صَدْرِي ۔ وَيَسِّرْ لِي أَمْرِي ۔ وَاحْلُلْ عُقْدَةً مِّن لِّسَانِي۔ يَفْقَهُوا قَوْلِي۔ My Lord, put my heart at peace for me and make my task easy for me and remove the knot from my tongue, that they may understand my speech. [20:25,26,27,28] “Opening/expanding of the heart” is often translated as Tawfeeq, the ability to do good so when Allah ta’ala opens up the heart then it is easy to do good deeds and have good Akhlaaq. That is why there are Du’a which mentions the opening of the heart and the opening of doors i.e. the Du’a for entering the Masjid: اللَّهُمَّ افْتَحْ لِي أَبْوَابَ رَحْمَتِكَ – Oh Allah, open the doors of Your mercy for me. اَللّٰهُمَّ افْتَحْ اَقْفَاْلَ قُلُوْبِنَا بِذِكْرِكَ وَاَتْمِمْ عَلَيْنَا بِنِعْمَتِكَ وَاَسْبِغْ عَلَيْنَا مِنْ فَضْلِكَ وَاجْعَلْنَا مِنْ عِبَادِكَ الصَّالِحِيْنَ O Allah! Open the locks of our hearts by Your Zikr and complete upon us Your bounties, and make us perfect with Your Fadhl (bounties) and make us of Your righteous and pious servants. Importance of Knowing the Names of Allah ta’ala It is part of Aqeedah to believe it is only Allah ta’ala Who opens doors. He uses means however Allah ta’ala is the One Who opens doors. People sometimes think a person has stopped them from progressing or stopped something good through black magic or the evil eye. They actually believe it and it is embedded in their minds and hearts but they should reflect on these verses. That is why it is so important to know the names of Allah ta’ala as it is not just using the names during some difficulty by reciting them a certain number of times. We should know the meanings and it is a means of getting closer to Allah ta’ala. The Qur’an is Allah ta’ala’s Kalaam and the best way is to reflect on its verses and know what Allah ta’ala says about Himself in it. He opens hearts and doors of Rahmah and Ne’mah for different reasons, either to make people happy or to punish. If it is a mercy the person will feel closeness to Allah ta’ala and will do things to please Him and if He opens doors to punish then the person will feel His distance and maybe they have a good life in this world but what about the Aakhirah? In the Qur’an Allah ta’ala mentions in various ways that do not assume that when a person has a lot, it is a sign of Allah ta’ala’s pleasure. Unfortunately people do assume without knowing what their spiritual life is like. We should make Du’a when we see this that Allah ta’ala opens up their hearts for Hidaayah and Tawfeeq. Story related in Hadith – Good Deeds become a means of invoking Allah ta’ala (Taken from here with advices: http://dailyhadith.adaptivesolutionsinc.com/hadith/The-Cave-of-Death.htm) In a Hadith Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “Three men from among those who were before you, set out together till they reached a cave at night and entered it. A big rock rolled down the mountain and closed the mouth of the cave. They said (to each other), ‘Nothing can save you from this rock but to invoke Allah by giving reference to a righteous deed which you did (for Allah's sake only).’ So, one of them said, ‘O Allah! I had old parents and I never provided my family (wife, children) with milk before them. One day, by chance I was delayed, and I came late (at night) while they had fallen asleep. I milked the sheep for them and took the milk to them, but I found them sleeping. I disliked to provide my family with the milk before them. I waited for them and the bowl of milk was in my hand and I kept on waiting for them to get up till the day dawned. Then they got up and drank the milk. O Allah! If I did that for Your Sake only, please relieve us from our critical situation caused by this rock.’ So, the rock shifted a little but they could not get out.” “The second man said, ‘O Allah! I had a cousin who was the dearest of all people to me and I wanted to have sexual relations with her but she refused. Later she had a hard time in a famine year and she came to me and I gave her one-hundred-and-twenty Dinars on the condition that she would not resist my desire, and she agreed. When I was about to fulfill my desire she said, ‘It is illegal for you to outrage my chastity except by legitimate marriage.’ So I thought it a sin to have sexual intercourse with her and left her though she was the dearest of all people to me, and I also left the gold I had given her. O Allah! If I did that for Your Sake only, please relieve us from the present calamity.’ So, the rock shifted a little more but they still could not get out from there.” “Then the third man said, ‘O Allah! I employed a few laborers and I paid them their wages with the exception of one man who did not take his wages and went away. I invested his wages and I got much property thereby. (Then after some time) he came and said to me, ‘O Allah's slave! Pay me my wages.’ I said to him, ‘All the camels, cows, sheep and slaves you see are yours.’ He said, ‘O Allah's slave! Don't mock me.’ I said, ‘I am not mocking you.’ So, he took all of the herd and drove them away and left nothing. O Allah! If I did that for Your Sake only, please relieve us from the present suffering.’ So, that rock shifted completely and they got out walking.” [Bukhari] Advices This hadith tells us about pious deeds and their effects. Three men got trapped in a cave whose opening got blocked so completely that if the rock hadn’t moved from its mouth the cave would have become their grave. At such times man forsakes all means and agencies and looks only to the Creator of the means and agencies. From the example of the first man we see that there is no limit to kind treatment of parents as long as one does not commit sins in order to please them. Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) tremendously rewards those peope who are kind and considerate to their parents. From the example of the second man we learn the value of Taqwa. Taqwa is that a man refrain from sin only because he fears Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala), although he has the means and ability to sin, is surrounded by a sinful atmosphere, and is not afraid of being caught or punished in this world. This man was able to put a check on his desire, although he longed for that woman, only because of being reminded of Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala). This is how Believers are: “When Allah is mentioned their hearts are filled with fear.” [Quran 8:2] As a result of this man’s Taqwa, Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) removed the rock from the mouth of the cave a little more. Allah says: “And whosoever fears Allah, He appoints a way out for him.” [Quran 65:2] From the example of the third man we learn that those people are very dear to Allah (subhanahu wa ta’ala) who recognize the rights of their fellow men and give them their rights faithfully. As an employer, the man not only kept the wages of his employee safely but also invested them profitably although it was not binding on him to do so. He gave to his employee many times over the principal amount, an example of excellent dealings with a fellow-man. Can the greedy world present an example of such a character today? Therefore even small good deeds done only for the pleasure of Allah ta’ala becomes a means of invoking Allah ta’ala in difficult situations. The interesting part of the Hadith is that none of the men said, “O Allah, I prayed so much or gave so much in charity for You.” It was simple deeds connected to the rights of human beings. We should use this name in our Du’a when we are in situations where we are not progressing and we should remember that Allah ta’ala’s door is always open. Another episode This is regarding a pious man of the 6th century who was known for making Du’a which was accepted. Someone asked him to intercede for himself with another person for some need of his so the saint said to him, “O my brother, why don’t you stand with me and we will pray two Rakat Salaah and we will make Du’a. Why don’t we ask Allah ta’ala? Why should we leave an open door for a door that is closed?” He meant that why not ask Allah ta’ala instead of a man who may not want to help and may even shut the door. So first ask Allah ta’ala to open the door and He will create the means for the need to be fulfilled. Episode related to a Tabi’ee – Ata abi Rabah He met a Scholar who was on his way to see some governor or leader and he said to him, “Do not present your need to someone who keeps the door closed and who has doormen. Rather present your need to that Being Whose door is always open and Who says to you, ‘Ask Me, I promise to return your Du’a’” Therefore present your needs to Allah ta’ala and ask Him to open doors to Asbaab through which your need will be fulfilled and your problem solved. Sometimes we see how we make Du’a and we wonder how it will work out and suddenly the phone rings or you get a message and the problem is solved. So الْفَتَّاحis a very beautiful and comprehensive word with many layers of meanings. *~~*~~*

Components of a perfect repentance Hakim al Umma Mawlana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) said instructing a seeker, There are five components of perfect repentance (توبہ کاملہ) , 1. Acknowledgement of the wrongdoing 2. Feeling remorse for this 3. Asking forgiveness 4. Reaffirming determination not to do it again 5. Planning for rectification(اصلاح) [of the blameworthy morals that led to indulgence in it]. (Husn al Aziz, volume 1, part 2, p 152)

There are many that experience immense pain with the challenges of their children but put up a smile in front of their children. Children have no idea of the grief and pain hidden in their hearts. They love their children and wish well for them. Listen to your parents and trust in their love for you. They only wish the best for you. The relationship with the outside world is superficial and temporary. No one will sacrifice for you like your parents - Mufti Ebrahim Desai (Hafidhahullah)

Question: Is it allowed to wait 24 hours after the last bleeding to determine if my haidh is over? (I have an irregular one) Also, if it was all clean during these 24 hours and then I took ghusul, should I make qada for the salahs I missed during these 24 hours? Answer: In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful. As-salāmu ‘alaykumwa-rahmatullāhiwa-barakātuh. In principle, a woman will apply her honest discretion to determine whether her haidh has terminated or not. She will act according to her determination. She does not have to wait for 24 hours to make that determination. Once she has determined that her haidh has terminated, she will make ghusl and perform Salaah from that time onwards. If she did not perform salaah after making that determination, she will make qadha of her missed Salaah. And Allah Ta’āla Knows Best Checked and Approved by, Mufti Ebrahim Desai. ذخر المتاهلين و النساء ( 19-11-1440| 22-07-2019 [1] 83) البحر الرائق شرح كنز الدقائق ومنحة الخالق وتكملة الطوري (1/ 221) [منحة الخالق] لما في التتارخانية فجاءت تستفتي وهي لا تعلم موضع حيضها ولا موضع طهرها وتعلم عادتها في الحيض والطهر أو لا تعلم فإنها تتحرى إلخ وسنذكر عنها حكم ما إذا علمت في مسألة الصوم المحيط البرهاني في الفقه النعماني (1/ 250) وإذا كانت للمرأة أيام حيض وطهر معروفة، فاستحاضت فلم تهتم لرؤيتها حتى أتى عليها زمان ثم ندمت على ما فرطت، فجاءت تستفتي وهي موضع حيضها ولا موضع طهرها، وتعلم عادتها في الحيض والطهر أو لا تعلم، فإنها تتحرى عندنا تبيين الحقائق شرح كنز الدقائق وحاشية الشلبي (1/ 62) وكصاحبة العادة إذا استمر دمها وقد نسيت عدد أيام حيضها أولها وآخرها ودورها في كل شهر فإنها تتحرى وتمضي على أكبر رأيها [1]الأصل للشيباني ط قطر (2/ 43) [1] ولو أن امرأة لم تكن تحيض فيما مضى فأول ما رأت الدم رأته خمسة أيام، ثم انقطع، فإنها تنتظر إلى آخر الوقت أدنى مواقيت الصلاة منها، ثم تغتسل وتصلي ويأتيها زوجها, ولا بأس بذلك، وليس عليه أن ينتظر إلى آخر العشرة لأن هذه لم يكن لها أيام معروفة فقصرت عنها. إنما أحب لزوجها أن لا يطأها إذا كانت لها أيام معروفة فقصرت عنها. فكذلك لا أحب لها أن تزوج إن كان هذا آخر عدته فتاوى التاتارخانية (1/259) ان كل زمان تيقنت بالحيض فيه تترك الصلاة و كل زمان يتردد فيه بين الحيض و الطهر لا تترك المكتوبات الفقه الحنفي(1/142) فالاصل فيه انها متي تيقنت باالطهر في وقت صلت فيه كتاب الفتاوى(2/100) فتاوى عبادر الرحمن (1/463) http://idealwoman.org/2019/waiting-24-hours-to-determine-if-the-haidh-is-over/

سلسلہ مواعظِ رشید نمبر 5 علم کے مطابق عمل کیوں نہیں ہوتا قسط نمبر 11 2⃣ دوسری قسم توجہ کی القائی ہوتی ہے - توجہ انعکاسی میں تو اثر اسی وقت تک رہتا ہے جب تک مبدأ فیض اور مستفیض ایک ہی مجلس میں موجود ہوں- ظاہر ہے کہ چراغ کی روشنی اپنے ماحول میں موجود اشیاء ہی کو منور کرے گی- لیکن توجہ القائی میں طالب کی استعداد بڑھانے کے لئے اہل اللہ اپنے ارادے اور ہمت سے اس کے قلب میں نیکی کے رجحان کی القاء کرتے ہیں اور اس کے لیے دعاء بهی فرماتے ہیں، جس کا اثر مجلس سے اٹھ جانے کے بعد بھی کچھ دیر تک رہتا ہے- 3⃣ تیسری قسم توجہ اصلاحی ہے- توجہ القائی کے امتداد سے رسوخ حاصل ہو جاتا ہے تو اب اہل اللہ کے لیے مزید دعاء اور توجہ سے کام لیتے ہیں جو توجہ اصلاحی کہلاتی ہے جس سے وہ کیفیت پیدا ہو جاتی ہے جس سے نیکیوں کا صدور آسان اور برائیوں سے اجتناب سہل ہو جاتا ہے- 4⃣ چوتھی توجہ اتحادی کہلاتی ہے- اس میں سالک کی استعداد چونکہ رفتہ رفتہ ترقی کر کے مستحکم نہیں ہوتی اس لیے اس توجہ کا تحمل مشکل ہوتا ہے اس لیے عام طور پر توجہ انعکاسی، القائی اور اصلاحی ہی سے کام لیا جاتا ہے- توجہ کے اثر سے کسی کو بهی انکار نہیں ہو سکتا- رات دن مشاہدہ میں آتا رہتا ہے- مسمریزم کیا ہے؟ یہی تو توجہ ہے- صحبت کی تاثیر زمانہء قدیم سے مسلم چلی آتی ہے شاعر جاہلیت طرفہ کہتا ہے اذا کنت فی قوم فصاحب خیارهم ولا تصحب الاردی فتردی مع الردی اقبال نے بھی کیا خوب کہا ہے وہ فریب خوردہ شاہیں جو پلا ہو کر گسوں میں اسے کیا خبر کہ کیا ہے رہ ورسم شاہبازی غرضیکہ علم کے مطابق عملی قوت بیدار کرنے کے لیے اہل اللہ کی صحبت لازم ہے بدوں اس کے نرا علم کافی نہیں- ایک اور بات خیال میں آ گئی وہ یہ کہ بعض لوگ میرے علم میں ایسے بهی ہیں جو کسی ایک گناہ سے بچنے کا بہت اہتمام کرتے ہیں مگر دوسرے کئی گناہوں میں مبتلا ہیں، ان سے بچنے کا انہیں کبهی خیال تک نہیں آیا ، مثلاً ایک صاحب بینک اور بیمہ کے ملازمین سے لین دین اور ان کے ہاں کهانے پینے سے بہت پرہیز کرتے ہیں، ذرا ذرا سی بات پر مجھ سے پوچهتے رہتے ہیں مگر ان کی صورت مسلمانوں کی صورت کے خلاف ہے، ڈاڑھی منڈاتے ہیں، ان کو اس طرف کوئی توجہ نہیں، اور بهی اس قسم کی کئی مثالیں ہیں کہ بس کسی ایک گناہ سے بچنے کی تو بہت فکر ہے مگر دوسرے گناہوں سے بچنے کی طرف التفات نہیں، اس کی وجہ یا تو یہ ہے کہ انہیں دوسرے گناہوں کا علم ہی نہیں، یا علم تو ہے مگر ان کے قلب میں ان گناہوں سے بچنے کی اہمیت نہیں بلکہ ان کو ہلکے سمجھتے ہیں، ان میں یہ مرض اس لئے ہے کہ کسی اللہ والے کی صحبت میں نہیں بیٹھتے- اہل اللہ ان کو اس مرض سے متعلق اس لئے کچھ نہیں کہتے کہ بدوں خاص تعلق کے امید قبول نہیں، نیز اس طرح کسی کو کہنے میں اس کی سبکی بهی ہے، اگر ایسے لوگ کسی اللہ والے کی صحبت میں بیٹھنے کا معمول بنا لیں تو بہت آسانی سے ان کے اس مرض کی اصلاح ہو جائے - (جاری ہے)

🌷 آپ کے پاس اللہ کی دی ہوئی نعمتوں کا بہت بڑا ذخیرہ ہے 🌷 لطائف اللہ و ان طال المدی۔۔۔۔کلمحة الطرف اذا الطرف سجی شعر کا مفہوم ہے۔۔۔۔۔کہ اللہ تعالیٰ کی رحمت اور اس کا لطف پلک جھپکنے سے پہلے آجاتا ہے چاہے پریشانی کا وقت جتنا بھی طویل ہو جائے۔ میری بہن! ہر مشکل کے ساتھ آسانی ہے، ہر آنسو کے بعد مسکراہٹ ہے اور ہر رات کے بعد صبح ہے۔ لہٰذا پریشانیوں کے بادل چلے جائیں گے، غم کی رات روانہ ہو جائے گی، مشکلیں ختم ہو جائیں گی تو ان شاء اللہ آسانیاں آ جائیں گی۔ اور یہ جان لیں کہ ہر حالت میں تمہارے لیے اجر لکھا جا رہا ہے۔ اگر آپ ماں ہیں تو آپ کے بیٹے اسلام کے مددگار اور دین و ملت کے خادم بنیں گے۔ اگر آپ نے ان کی اچھی پرورش و تربیت کی تو یہ بچے بڑے ہو کر آپ کے لیے سجدہ میں دعا کریں گے، شفقت و رحمت والی ماں کتنی عظیم القدر نعمت ہے۔ آپ کو یہ فخر کافی ہے کہ حضور صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم کی والدہ بھی عورت ہی ہیں جنہوں نے پوری انسانیت کو رسول کریم محمد صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم ہدیہ میں پیش کیے۔ آپ کے اندر وہ صلاحیت ہے کہ آپ دوسری عورتوں کے لیے دین اسلام کی دعوت دینے والے بن جائیں اور اپنے اخلاق و سیرت اور اچھی باتیں کرکے دین و اسلام کے راستہ پر دوسری عورتوں کو لانے والی بن جائیں۔ کتنی وہ عورتیں ہیں جو کسی محلّہ میں جا کر رہیں تو ان کے دین، پردہ، حیا، اخلاق، پڑوسی پر رحمت اور خاوند کی اطاعت جیسے امور میں ان کی نقل کی گئی اور محلّے کی دوسری عورتوں نے ان سے بہت کچھ سیکھا۔ ایسی عورتوں کی اچھی سیرت کو مثال کے طور پر بیان کیا جاتا ہے جو اپنی جیسی عورتوں کے لیے اچھا نمونہ بن جاتی ہیں۔ فائدہ: مرجھائے ہوئے پھول خوشنما ہو جائیں گے، پریشانیاں دور ہو جائیں گی اور امن پھیل جائے گا۔ (ماخوذ از: دنیا کی سعادت مند عورت) تحریر: ✍🏻راشد محمود عُفِیٙ عٙنْہ (سکونِ دل)

BR120-S13 - [English Discourse] Harms of disobedience... This session will go over: *#22- A disobedient individual is deprived bounties of Allah and calamities befall* *#23- A disobedient individual becomes target for bad titles* *#24- A disobedient individual gets overwhelmed by attacks from devils* *#25- A disobedient individual looses contentment of heart* *#26- A disobedient individual is deprived of saying Kalimah at death* *#27- A disobedient individual gets despondent of Mercy of Allah*

BR120-S12 - [English Discourse] Harms of disobedience... This session will go over: *1- A disobedient individual is deprived of du'as of angels* *2- A disobedient individual becomes a means for corruption in the land and sea* *3- A disobedient individual looses modesty, honor and chastity* *4- A disobedient individual looses honor and awe of Allah from heart*

BR120-S11 - [English Discourse] Harms of disobedience... This session will go over: *Those disobedience which incur the curse from Rasulullah صلی الله عليه وسلم, Allah and Mala'ikah*

Hadhrat Moulana Husain Ahmad Madani (RA) lived in the house of his ustaadh, Sheikhul Hind (RA), when he was a young boy. Being a minor, purdah [hijab] was not observed between him and the wife of his ustaadh. When Hadhrat Sheikhul Hind (RA) returned from Maalta, his wife was overjoyed to hear that Hadhrat Moulana Madani (RA) had taken care of and served her husband in prison. She requested to meet him so that she could pass her hand over his head in appreciation for what he had done. When she put forward this request to Hadhrat Sheikhul Hind (RA), he broke down in tears and said, “I also wish that you could express your feelings to him in this way. I guarantee you that if we had our own son he would not have served me as Moulana Husain Ahmad has done. But the Shari’ah has not permitted him to come in front of you.” Source: Hadhrat Mufti Mahmood Hasan Gangohi (Rahmatullahi Alayh) – His life and works, pp. 11 – 12

AN AMAZING INCIDENT OF POSSESSIVENESS AND SELF HONOURQuestionCould you mention the source of this incident?On one occasion a lady made a claim of five hundred gold coins against her husband in the court of Judge Musa ibn Ishaq, which the husband denied. The wife’s lawyer proved the claim by producing witnesses. However one of the witnesses insisted that he has to see her face (which was veiled) in order to give witness in her favour. Therefore he stood up to see her face and she stood up as well.Witnessing this, the husband’s self honour and dignity drove him to exclaim: ‘Why should a strange man’s eyes be allowed to gaze at my wife? I personally confess in the presence of the judge that I do owe my wife five hundred gold coins as her dowry, but I will never allow my wife to reveal her face to a strange man.’ Hearing this self honour and dignity of her husband, the wife replied that I make those present as witness that I have gifted the entire amount to my husband.The judge Musa ibn Ishaq exclaimed that this should be included among the incidents of exemplary character.AnswerImam Bayhaqi (rahimahullah) has recorded this incident with a reliable chain of narrators.(Shu’abul Iman, Hadith: 10313) And Allah Ta’ala Knows best.Answered by: Moulana Suhail MotalaApproved by: Moulana Muhammad Abasoomar

Ibn al Qayyim al Jawziyyah, summarised the meaning of ghayrah in the following words, ‘The foundation of the religion is ghayrah, and the one without ghayrah is one without religion, for ghayrah protects the heart and enlivens the limbs and shields one from evil and lewdness, and lack of ghayrah kills the heart so that the limbs die, so that there remains not even shielding from [the minor things]. And the example of ghayrah in the heart is the example of the strength that shields one from sickness and fights it off, so if the strength leaves, he will be faced with the sickness, and will not find anything to protect himself from it, so it will establish itself [within him] and destroy him.’ [Al Da’ Wal Dawa]

God tells us in the Qu’ran, ‘Men are the protectors and maintainers of women.’ [4:34]. Out of His infinite wisdom, this is the general and natural order that God has chosen for the mutual co-existence of the sexes in this world. The word ‘قَوَّامُونَ’ in the verse carries the meaning of protector, caretaker, and guardian. To be a protector or guardian over someone necessarily demands a strong sense of responsibility, and is associated with the qualities of honour, dignity and correct moral conduct. These are essentially intertwined with the attribute of modesty, which in turn, is a fundamental aspect of one’s very faith, for the Prophet ﷺ said, ‘Modesty is a branch of faith.’ [Muslim].

Ghairah of Sa'ad bin 'Ubadah رضي الله عنه Saad bin Ubadah (RA) once said: “If I saw a man with my wife, I would strike him with my sword, and not with the flat side of it.” News of that reached the Prophet (PBUH) to which replied: “Are you surprised at the jealousy of Saad? By Allah, I am more jealous than him, and Allah is more jealous than me. It is because of His jealousy that Allah forbade immoral deeds, both open and secret.” (Al-Bukhari 7416).

Ghairah of Sayyidina Umer رضي الله عنه Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (رضي الله ) narrates: "While we were in the company of the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم), he said, 'While I was asleep, I saw myself in Paradise and there I beheld a woman performing ablution beside a palace, I asked, "To whom does this palace belong?" They said, "To 'Umar Ibn al-Khattaab (رضي الله عنه)." Then I remembered 'Umar's ghayrah (i.e. jealousy over women), and so I hurried away from that palace.' (When Sayyiduna 'Umar (رضي الله عنه) heard this from the Prophet (صلى الله عليه وسلم)), he wept and said, "Do you think it is likely that I would have feeling of ghayrah because of you, O Messenger of Allaah (صلى الله عليه وسلم)?"'" (Reported by al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Ghairah of Sayyidina Zubair bin Awaam رضي الله عنه and Asma bint Abi Bakr رضي الله عنها To further understand the quality of Gheerah, we can look at an incident that Asmaa' (RA) the daughter of Abu Bakr As-Siddeeq (RA) and sister of Aisha (RA), relates about herself. Abu Bakr was a wealthy merchant and he married his daughter Asmaa' to the great companion Az-Zubayr ibn al-'Awwam (RA) who was a very poor man but a man of great piety and one of the companions who were promised Paradise. Asmaa' relates: "When az-Zubayr married me, he had neither land nor wealth nor slave…", so Asmaa' had to work very hard kneading dough, going far off to get water. "And I used to carry on my head," she continues, "the date stones from the land of az-Zubair which Allah's Messenger (SAW) had endowed him and it was a distance of two miles from Madeenah. One day, as I was carrying the date-stones upon my head, I happened to meet Allah's Messenger (SAW), along with a group of his Companions. He called me and told the camel to sit down so that he could make me ride behind him. I felt shy to go with men and I remembered az-Zubair and his Gheerah and he was a man having the most Gheerah. The Messenger of Allah (SAW) understood my shyness and left. I came to az-Zubair and said: "The Messenger of Allah (SAW) met me as I was carrying date-stones upon my head and there was with him a group of his Companions. He told the camel to kneel so that I could mount it, but I felt shy and I remembered your Gheerah." So Asmaa' declined the offer made by the Prophet (SAW). Upon this az-Zubair said: "By Allah, the thought of you carrying date-stones upon your head is more severe a burden on me than you riding with him." (Related in Saheeh Bukhari)

The Ghairah of Allah The attribute of ghayrah and the ‘setting of boundaries’ due to it, is also affirmed for God and the Prophet ﷺ, as the Prophet ﷺ said, ‘By Allah, I am more jealous than him [Sa‘d bin ‘Ubadah], and Allah is more jealous than me. It is because of His protective jealousy that Allah forbade immoral deeds, both open and secret’ [al Bukhari], He ﷺ also said, ‘Allah has protective jealousy, and the protective jealousy of Allah is provoked when the believer does something that Allah has forbidden.’ [al Bukhari, Muslim]

Protective Jealousy (Ghairah) Definition of Ghairah: This arabic word covers a wide meaning – self-respect, jealousy (as regards women) and it is a feeling of fury with great anger when one's honour and prestige is challenged or injured. Ghayrah (الغَيْرَةِ) carries the meaning of protective jealousy, honour, and earnest concern. It is a positive trait, especially in a man in regards his female family members. The dayyuth (الديُّوث) is its opposite, generally referring to a man who has no protective jealousy and honour over his female family members.

The essential instructions for mureed Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) said, ‘After bayiah (spiritual allegiance) the things that need to be rectified upfront include, arrogance, negligence in fulfilling the rights of others (huqooq al ‘ebad), envy, hatred, creating adversity (fitna) between people, etc. However, nowadays no restrictions are instructed for these things. Whereas, previous pious elders (Mashāyikh) used to give priority to these things from first day. The litanies & recitations (wazaif) were instructed after many years. Moreover, these restrictions were not merely verbal instructions, they recommended various practices to uproot these spiritual ailments from the heart. Like, if they saw an individual afflicted with self adoration (زینت پرستی) he was instructed to sweep and tidy up the spiritual lodge (khanqah) or streets. Similarly, if they saw arrogance in an individual, he was instructed to tidy up the shoes of people coming to pray. These acts of humility have the ability to create humbleness in heart. ‘ Infas e Essa, volume 1, pg43 Taken from ashrafiya.com

سلسلہ مواعظِ رشید نمبر 5 علم کے مطابق عمل کیوں نہیں ہوتا قسط نمبر 10 توجہ کی قسمیں توجہ کی کئی قسمیں ہیں: 1⃣ پہلی توجہ انعکاسی کہلاتی ہے- اس کی مثال ایسی ہے جیسے ایک چراغ روشن ہے تو اس کی روشنی چاروں طرف آس پاس پڑ رہی ہے اور جہاں تک روشنی کا اثر پہنچ رہا ہے وہاں تک تاریکی مٹ رہی ہے اور جو اشیاء روشنی کے حلقہ اثر میں ہیں وہ منور ہو رہی ہیں-یا یہ کہ کوئی خوشبودار پھول رکها ہوا ہے تو اس کی مہک چاروں اطراف کو مہکا دیتی ہے- کیا رات کی رانی کو آپ نے نہیں دیکها کہ کس طرح رات میں سارا محلہ اس کی خوشبو سے مہک اٹهتا ہے- اسی طرح اہل اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ کے ساتھ رہنے والے بهی ان کے نور باطن کے انعکاس سے اپنے قلوب میں انوار و برکات کی حرارت محسوس کرتے ہیں اور اپنے زنگ آلود قلوب میں جلاء اور نور دیکھتے ہیں- حضرت گنگوہی رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ جب حاجی صاحب رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ سے بیعت ہونے لگے تو عرض کیا کہ حضرت مجهے ذکر سے مستثنیٰ فرما دیجیے - کیونکہ پڑهنے پڑهانے اور علمی کاموں کی مشغولیت اس قدر ہے کہ ذکر کرنے کی فرصت ہی نہیں مل سکے گی- حضرت حاجی رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ نے فرمایا کہ کوئی بات نہیں آپ ذکر نہ کریں- جب بیعت ہو گئے تو حضرت حاجی رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ نے فرمایا کہ خواہ آپ ذکر نہ کریں مگر طریقہ تو سیکھ لیں- اس میں کیا حرج ہے؟ کبهی موقع مل گیا تو کر لیا کریں ورنہ نہیں- حضرت گنگوہی رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ نے کہا ہاں اس میں مضایقہ نہیں- حضرت حاجی صاحب رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ نے حضرت گنگوہی رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ کو ذکر کرنے کا طریقہ تلقین فرما دیا- رات کو جب سونے کا وقت آیا تو حاجی صاحب رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ نے خادم سے فرمایا کہ ان کا بستر میرے بستر کے ساتھ لگا دیں- جب سونے کے لیے دونوں حضرات لیٹ گئے تو حضرت گنگوہی رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ کی نیند غائب - کروٹوں پر کروٹیں بدل رہے ہیں مگر نیند کا نام تک نہیں- آخر کافی دیر کروٹیں بدلتے گزر گئی تو سوچا کہ نیند تو نہیں آ رہی ہے لاؤ ذکر ہی کر لیتے ہیں- آٹھ کر ذکر کرنا شروع کر دیا- ذکر میں اس قدر لذت محسوس ہوئی کہ پهر ساری زندگی ذکر کا ناغہ نہیں فرمایا- یہ تها حضرت حاجی رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ کے ساتھ بستر لگانے کا نتیجہ- جب ایک سینے میں عشق کی آگ دہک رہی ہو تو ناممکن ہے سامنے بیٹھنے والا اس کی حرارت محسوس نہ کرے جس قلب کی آہوں نے دل پهونک دیئے لاکهوں اس قلب میں یا اللہ کیا آگ بهری ہوگی جو آگ کی خاصیت وہ عشق کہ خاصیت اک خانہ بخانہ ہے اک سینہ بسینہ ہے (جاری ہے)

🌷 سعادت کسی کے لیے کامل نہیں ہوتی اور نہ ہی اچھائی کسی کے لیے کامل ہوتی ہے🌷 اطردی الھمَّ بذکر الصَّمدِ۔۔۔واھجری لیل الھوی وابتعدی شعر کا مفہوم ہے کہ "غم اور پریشانی کو اللہ تعالیٰ کے ذکر سے بھگائیے اور رات کے برے خیالات کو چھوڑ کر دور بھاگ جائیے۔" آپ اکثر غلطی کرتی ہیں جب یہ سوچتی ہیں کہ زندگی لازماً میری رہنمائی کرے تو ایسا کبھی نہیں ہو گا۔ دنیا میں زندگی ایک نسبت سے رہنمائی کرتی ہے تو زندگی میں آپ کی ہر مراد پوری نہیں ہوگی بلکہ لازمی طور پر کوئی نہ کوئی پریشانی، مشکل، بیماری یا امتحان رہے گا، سو آپ مشکل کے وقت صبر کرتی رہیں اور خوشی کے وقت شکرا ادا کرتی رہیں۔ ان خیالی خیالات میں نہ رہیں کہ کسی بیماری کے بغیر ہمیشہ صحت رہے گی یا فقر و فاقہ کے بغیر زندگی گزرے گی یا مشکلات کے بغیر سعادت مل جائے گی یا ایسی دوست مل جائے جس میں کوئی خامی نہ ہو یا ایسا خاوند مل جائے جس میں کوئی عیب نہ ہو ایسا قطعی طور پر نہیں ہو سکتا۔ آپ اپنی عادت بنالیں کہ ہمیشہ غلطی اور خامی کو پس پشت ڈالتی رہیں اور ہمیشہ اچھائی اور خوبصورتی کی طرف نظر رکھیں۔ میں آپ کو اچھا گمان رکھنے، کسی کی غلطی پر عذر ڈھونڈنے اور اللہ تعالیٰ پر اعتماد رکھنے کی نصیحت کرتا ہوں۔ بعض لوگ اس بات کے نااہل ہیں کہ ان پر اعتماد کیا جائے یا انہیں اپنے کام سپرد کیے جائیں۔ اللہ تعالی فرماتے ہیں: اِنَّھُمۡ لَنۡ یُّغۡنُوۡا عَنۡکَ مِنَ اللّٰهِ شَیۡئًا. ترجمہ: "وہ اللہ کے مقابلے میں تمہارے ذرا بھی کام نہیں آسکتے۔" (ماخوذ از: دنیا کی سعادت مند عورت) (ایسی بات پر کبھی راضی نہ رہیے کہ آپ کی زندگی میں کسی جگہ اندھیرا ہو، کیونکہ روشنی تو موجود ہے۔ آپ کو یہ چاہیے کہ روشنی کا بٹن تلاش کرکے اندھیرے کو روشنی میں بدل دیں۔) تحریر: ✍🏻راشد محمود عُفِیٙ عٙنْہ (سکونِ دل)

A very beneficial document for anyone who wants to become a counselor or therapist: https://archive.org/download/000IntroductionToPsychology/counselling.pdf

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