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Since October 7, 2023, the conflict between Israel and Hamas has escalated into one of the most devastating periods in the history of the region, with dire consequences for the civilian population in Gaza and the broader Palestinian territories. This escalation is not an isolated incident but rather part of a long-standing struggle that dates back to the mid-20th century. Historical Context The roots of the conflict can be traced to 1947, when the United Nations proposed a partition plan to create separate Jewish and Arab states in Palestine. This plan was rejected by Arab leaders, leading to the 1948 Arab-Israeli War and the establishment of the state of Israel. In the aftermath, hundreds of thousands of Palestinians were displaced, an event they refer to as the Nakba, or "catastrophe." Since then, the region has witnessed repeated cycles of violence, territorial disputes, and a series of wars and uprisings. The Current Escalation Gaza, home to some 2.3 million people, bears little resemblance to what it was a year ago. Israeli attacks have reduced entire neighbourhoods to rubble, erased centuries-old mosques and churches and destroyed vital agricultural lands. The scale of destruction in this small area of just 365sq km (141sq miles) is so immense that many residents cannot return home - and likely won't be able to for the foreseeable future. Humanitarian Impact The human cost of this recent conflict has been catastrophic: Casualties: As of now, thousands of Palestinians have been killed, including a significant number of women and children. Hospitals in Gaza report that they are overwhelmed with the influx of injured civilians. In contrast, Israeli casualties have also been significant, including both military and civilian losses. Displacement: The violence has caused massive displacement within Gaza, with hundreds of thousands fleeing their homes in search of safety. Refugee camps are overcrowded, lacking essential supplies like food, water, and medical care. The Israeli military has repeatedly hit the camp of some 116,000 registered refugees, with United States-made 2,000-pound bombs, killing hundreds of people. These bombs are among the largest and most destructive and can leave craters with a diameter greater than 40 feet (12 metres). Infrastructure Damage: Critical infrastructure, including schools, hospitals, and residential buildings, has been severely damaged or destroyed. This has resulted in widespread homelessness and has crippled access to essential services. The destruction of healthcare facilities is particularly alarming, as medical staff struggle to cope with the influx of patients and shortages of supplies. In the past year, Gaza's Government Media Office has recorded the complete destruction of at least 611 Masjids and the partial destruction of 214 Masjids due to Israeli attacks. Not far down the road from the Old City, in the heart of Gaza City's Remal neighbourhood, is the Islamic University of Gaza (IUG). IUG, together with al-Azhar University, are the two top universities in the Gaza Strip, providing higher education to tens of thousands of students each year. While both universities have been targeted in previous wars, this latest war has left their campuses completely devastated. Of Gaza’s 12 universities, none is left standing. In Remal neighbourhood is al-Shifa Hospital, the largest medical complex in the Strip and one of the first hospitals to come under attack. On November 15, Israeli soldiers surrounded the medical complex where thousands of Palestinians were sheltering. Five months later in April, it came under a two-week siege that left the hospital in ruins and hundreds of people dead. Over the past year, at least 114 hospitals and clinics have been rendered inoperative, leaving many patients without access to essential medical services. In central Gaza, lies Deir el-Balah, one of Gaza's main agricultural hubs, known for its cultivation of oranges, olives and, notably, dates. Israel has killed at least 41,000 people and injured nearly 100,000 others in bombings, by destroying healthcare that could have saved them, and by starvation. More than half (60 percent) of Gaza's farmland - crucial for feeding Gaza’s population of which 96 percent is food insecure, has been damaged or destroyed by Israeli attacks. Utter Destruction In just one year of war, the landscape of Gaza has altered almost unrecognisably. Almost 60 percent of Gaza has been damaged or destroyed. An estimated 75,000 tonnes of explosives have been dropped on Gaza with experts predicting it could take years to clear the debris amounting to more than 42 million tonnes, which is also rife with unexploded bombs. What Should We Do? The greatest means to attaining victory is strong Iman and good deeds. Allah’s promise of victory is reserved for those whose Iman is firmly embedded. This is because when Iman becomes deeply rooted in the believer’s heart, one is willing to sacrifice his desires and his personal gains for the sake of Allah’s din. On the eve of the Battle of Qadisiyyah, Sayyiduna Umar bin al-Khattab radiyallahu anhu advised Sayyiduna Saʿd bin Abi Waqqaṣ radiyallahu anhuma and his army: “Fear your sins more than you fear the enemy as your sins are more dangerous to you than your enemy. We Muslims are only victorious over our enemy because their sins outnumber ours, not for any other reason. If our sins were equal to those of our enemy, then they would defeat us due to their superior numbers and resources.” How many of our own transgressions are contributing to the weakness and predicaments facing Muslims around the world? Let us not allow our sins and failure to observe the fundamentals of Islam correctly become a stumbling block for the progress of the Ummah. Pray every single fardh Salah on time. Perform Salah in jama-ah in the Masjid, including Fajr. Ensure that Zakah is discharged timeously and correctly. Do not disobey your parents. Do not harm your spouse or children. Do not look at Haram. Be honest in dealings and transactions. Make sincere repentance. May Almighty Allah alleviate the struggles our brothers and sisters are enduring, remove the hardship and pain they are experiencing, bring them complete ease and immediate victory and destroy the enemies of Islam with a humiliating and crushing defeat, Ameen. Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians
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Good marriages require patience, kindness, humility, sacrifice, empathy, love, understanding, forgiveness, and hard work. Following these basic principles should help any marriage to improve. The essence of them all can be summed up in one sentence: Always treat your spouse the way you would like to be treated. Amidst busy schedules and tasks on the parts of both women and men, Muslim husbands and wives tend to forget the real reasons behind marriage and likewise the rights of each other. Subsequently, they deprive themselves, their mates and their children of the happiness and tranquillity that is the bedrock of a successful family. This unbalanced vision towards a couple’s ideal relationship is bad enough to plunge the family into a situation laden with troubles and worries. 1) Negative Relationship between Husband & Wife Some Muslim spouses relate to each other like adversaries rather than life time partners. The husband assumes the position of dictator, and whatever he says is law. The wife on the other hand feels that she must squeeze everything she can out of her husband. Some wives do not express their gratitude to their husbands irrespective of how much the man may do for her. Instead they adopt an attitude of ‘never enough’ and make the husband feel like a failure if he does not provide every want and desire their extravagant lifestyles dictate. Some husbands speak very harshly to their wives, humiliate them, and even physically abuse them. Their wives have no voice or opinion in family matters. Moreover certain husbands become so cold and miserly that even the basic expenditure for the house is difficult to come by. 2) Nikah – A divine institution The Nikah bond has been divinely established for the welfare and upkeep of a healthy and progressive community. This divine prescription has been unjustly utilised as a vehicle to perpetrate oppression, deception, humiliation, and abuse. Allah Ta’ala describes marriage very differently in the Noble Quran: "And from his signs are, He created for you wives from among yourselves, so that you may live in tranquillity with them, and instilled love and mercy between your (hearts)…“ (30:21) 3) Head of the Home The position Islam has accorded to the man as the head of the home is a responsibility which will be accounted for, rather than a privilege which should be abused. We are taught to treat our wives well. Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) has reported to have said: "The person possessing the most perfect faith is one who has excellent behaviour, and the best among you are those who are best towards their wives”. (Mishkaat) 4) Be Partners in Decision Making Follow the principle of ‘Shura,” (consultation) and make decisions as a family. Implementing this Sunnah within the home increases harmony and love between family members. It will also assist in enhancing trust and loyalty between spouses and the children. 5) Abuse Abstain totally from every form of emotional, mental, or physical abuse to your spouse. 6) Watch Your Words Be very careful what you say when you are upset. The wounds afflicted to the heart of a person by words will never heal and remain a lifelong memory. Sometimes you will say things that you would never say when you were not angry. Apply the directives found in the Hadith for suppression of anger. 7) Work Together in the House Occasionally Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) occasionally assisted his wives with household chores. When Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wasallam) did not consider the housework trivial, how can we today obligate our wives to all the house work and much more? 8) Communication is Important Talk to each other, communicate, have a dialogue, but do it respectfully. Husbands and wives need to talk to each other. It is better to deal with problems early and honestly than to let them pile up until they explode. 9) Live Simply Do not envy or cast your gaze towards those spouses who seem to be living a more luxurious life than your family. Be pleased with what you have. The grass will always look greener on the other side. The wealthiest person is the one who has attained contentment of heart. To develop the quality of contentment, look at those people who have less than you, not those who have more. Repeatedly thank Allah Ta’ala for the many blessings in your life. 10) Admit Your Mistakes When you make a mistake, admit it. When your mate makes a mistake, excuse him or her easily. If possible, never sleep angry with each other. 11) Past Problems Everything that has happened is history. Repent for the past and live for the future. Do not focus discussion on the past unless it is something that will make both of you laugh. The Dua for a blissful marriage: Rabbana hab lana min azwaajinaa wa zurriyyatina qurrata a-ayun waj-alna lil muttaqeena imaama (O Allah! grant us such wives and offspring who will be a source of coolness for our eyes, and make us leaders of the Allah-Fearing). Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians
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Killing of Hezbollah leader Hassan Nasrallah is the latest salvo in a decades-long battle By Al Jazeera Staff Published On 18 Sep 202418 Sep 2024 The conflict between Hezbollah and Israel – which have been exchanging fire across the border of Israel and Lebanon since the start of the war on Gaza last October – has descended into “war”, Al Jazeera’s Zeina Khodr has reported from Beirut. Hezbollah confirmed that its leader, Hassan Nasrallah, had been killed in an Israeli air strike on residential buildings in Beirut, which Israel claimed were above Hezbollah’s headquarters, on the night of Friday, September 27. Ali Karki, the commander of Hezbollah’s southern front, and other Hezbollah commanders, were also killed in the massive air attack on Beirut’s southern suburb of Dahiyeh on Friday, the Israeli military claimed. Continue here: The history of conflict between Hezbollah and Israel | Hezbollah News | Al Jazeera
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The history of Jerusalem The history of Jerusalem is the history of a living city perhaps unlike that of any other in the world. History A capital question UN resolutions The old city of Jerusalem Al-Jazeera
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An Upbringing of Piety (Mother of Moulana Sayyid Abul Hasan ‘Ali Nadwi [rahimahumallah]) The greatest accomplishment of Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah) and the highlight of her life was perhaps the exemplary manner in which she raised and moulded her son, Moulana Sayyid Abul Hasan Ali Nadwi (rahimahullah). Moulana was orphaned at the tender age of nine. It was thus his mother who single-handedly attended to his upbringing. Khairun Nisaa was extremely kind and compassionate towards her son, especially since he had lost his father. However, there were two aspects regarding which she was unrelenting and extremely strict. The first was Salaah In this regard, she would not tolerate even the slightest negligence or laziness. If her son ever fell asleep without performing his Esha Salaah, she would wake him up and make him perform it, even if he was in a very deep sleep. Similarly, she would wake him up at the time of Fajr Salaah and send him to the masjid. Thereafter, when he would return after salaah, she would make him sit and recite the Quraan Majeed. The second aspect regarding which she was very strict and firm was his behaviour with the servants and the poor. If he ever ill-treated a servant or the servant’s child, or displayed arrogance and treated them rudely, she would force him to ask them for forgiveness and beg their pardon. Moulana explained the great impact that this had on him throughout his life in the following words, “This (approach, which my mother adopted,) benefited me greatly in my life and instilled within me the intolerance for pride, arrogance and oppression. It also impressed upon me the seriousness of the sin of looking down at people and treating them badly. Furthermore, due to this, it was always easy for me to acknowledge my mistakes (throughout my life).” When Moulana went to Lucknow to study, his mother continued to monitor his progress and check on him through his step-brother. She also continued to write letters to him, advising him and giving him guidance in various areas of his life. Lessons Although it outwardly seems as though she was only strict regarding two aspects, the reality is that she actually impressed to her son the importance of the entire Deen. The reason is that Deen is primarily divided into the duties of Allah Ta‘ala and the duties of the creation. By being strict on salaah, she instilled the importance of the first category of duties in his heart, and by being strict on his behaviour with the servants and the poor, she instilled the importance of the second category in his heart. Even after Moulana grew older and left home to pursue his Deeni studies, his mother remained concerned over his progress and continued to check on him and advise him. This is because the parents’ concern for their child is until they die. Hence, parents must never stop making dua for their children, and so long as they are able to, they must continue to advise them and encourage them towards righteousness. UswatulMuslimah
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This brings solace and hope.... Unknown author AWAITING THE KNOCKOUT BLOW: A QURANIC PARALLEL The disappearance of "Israel" from existence is a Quranic truth and a prophetic promise. Therefore, the question is not if it will disappear, but rather when will the final round come? It is not my belief to sit back and wait for miracles. Instead, I believe that miracles come only after the believer has exhausted all their efforts. When falsehood seems to have all the power and victory seems certain, the truth holds on to its last shred of steadfastness. The believer may appear on the brink of defeat, but it is in that moment that Allah intervenes and eventually the miracle arrives. Throughout the Quran, we see a consistent theme: the struggle for influence is distinct from the struggle for belief. In the battle for influence, Allah allows human beings to rely on their resources and power. The stronger party typically prevails, but the conflict over belief operates under a different divine principle. In this realm, the balance of power does not determine the outcome. Quranic Parallels of Divine Intervention: When Allah SWT destroyed Pharaoh, He did so not by shifting the balance of power but at the height of Pharaoh’s pride. Pharaoh declared himself the supreme lord, leading his mighty, well-equipped army. Yet, Allah drowned him and his forces in the Red Sea, showcasing Allah’s might over human arrogance. Similarly, when Allah dealt with Nimrod, it was not in a moment of weakness for Nimrod but at the peak of his defiance, when he proclaimed, “I give life and I cause death.” Allah’s power struck him down at the height of his arrogance. The tribe of Aad met their fate while boasting of their strength, saying, “Who is stronger than us?” Allah’s punishment came not by changing the causes but while they stood in their might. Likewise, Thamud was destroyed as they confidently roamed the rocks in their valley, oblivious to their imminent doom. The Battle of Faith and Endurance: During the battle of Khandaq, the believers were besieged, their hearts heavy with fear as the enemy surrounded them (Surah Al-Ahzab 33:10-12). The earth, vast as it was, felt narrow to them. Yet, it was at this moment, when all seemed lost, that Allah sent a wind and unseen forces, scattering the enemy and granting victory to the steadfast (Surah Al-Ahzab 33:9). The War in Gaza: As the war on Gaza began, I initially thought it would be just another round in a long series of conflicts, ending as the previous war had. But now, I sense that this could be the final round, the knockout blow. This war, like those before it, may seem under human control, but it has long been beyond our hands and Israel. It seems the hand of Allah is directing it. I am not against rationality, reasoning, and accepting reality. But rationality alone cannot account for the steadfastness, strength, and stability displayed by the people of Gaza thus far. Consider this: Under relentless high-tech bombing, great powers would have melted into extinction. How could a small, narrow stretch of coastline withstand such constant bombardment? With its flat geography, devoid of mountains, valleys, or forests, it should be a military target’s delight, a vulnerable zone for the first attack from a massive arsenal dominating the sea, air, and land. Given that Israel’s previous wars against united Arab nations ended in a matter of days or even hours, speaking of realism now seems like a misplaced materialistic belief. This war, regardless of how it ends, will lay the foundation for the eventual knockout. But one thing is certain: the outcome is no longer in human hands. The hand of Allah is at work, guiding the course of events toward His will. Just as He has done throughout history, He will bring about His plan in His time, and those who trust in Him will see His deliverance, InshAllah - VERY SOON There is no occupier that remains in its occupation. This is an established fact that no one can deny, regardless of the beliefs of the owners of the land!
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Israel Will Not Survive...
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The mother said to her son's wife, smiling after the honeymoon: You were able to make my son commit to praying in the mosque. You succeeded in thirty days, while I failed in thirty years. Her eyes filled with tears. The son's wife replied, saying: Do you know, mother, the story of: The Stone and the Treasure? It is said that there was a large stone blocking the way for people to pass. .. So a man volunteered to break it and remove it. The man tried and hit the stone with an axe 99 times, then he got tired... Then a man passed by him and asked him to help him... And indeed, the man took the axe and hit the large stone, and it split from the first blow. .. The surprise was that there was a bag full of gold under the rock, so the man said: It is mine, I split the stone... So the two men argued before the judge, the first said: Give me some of the treasure, I hit the stone 99 times and then got tired, and the other said: The whole treasure is mine, I am the one who split the stone... The judge replied: The first one gets 99 parts of the treasure, and you, the one who split the stone, get one part... Oh man, if it weren't for his 99 strikes, the stone wouldn't have split a hundred times. 💚 Thirty years, and the mother urges her son to pray without despair.. Then she rejoices that her son prayed out of affection for his wife.. even though he disobeyed her for thirty years!! 💚 Then how beautiful is the behavior of the son's wife and how great is her morals when she did not attribute the credit to herself, but rather made the mother completely confident that her efforts were not in vain and that she was the one who laid the foundation stone and built brick by brick until the last brick remained that the son's wife completed..
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Is it permissible to take your wife’s opinion?
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Incident where Nabi sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam took the advice of his wife Umm Salamah RA The incident took place during the journey to Makkah to perform the Umrah and the Muslims were prevented from entering Makkah and which led to the signing of the Treaty of Hydaybiyyah. When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had ratified the treaty, he commanded his Companions to get up, slaughter their sacrificial animals, and shave their heads, but none of them got up. (The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was telling his Companions to end the state of ihraam which they had entered in order to perform 'Umrah. They had been prevented from entering Makkah, and were to wait until the following year to perform 'Umrah, but they did not want to abandon their hope of performing 'Umrah on this occasion. They did not want to accept the deal that had been struck with the Quraysh, hence they were reluctant to end their ihraam.) He told them three times to do this, but not one of them responded. He went to his wife Umm Salamah, and told her what he was facing from the people. At this point the wisdom and intelligence of Umm Salamah become quite clear. She told him, The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) took her advice, and did as she suggested. When the Sahaabah saw that, they rushed to sacrifice their animals and shave their heads -
When I will be considered as a Musafir to offer Qasr Namaz?
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Q. I was discussing a matter with my friend and there were two reasonable options before me. I said I will consider my wife's opinion and then decide accordingly. My friend said that this is incorrect and goes against the teachings of Islam. Is there anything wrong with seeking one's wife's opinion? If it is acceptable to do so, could you please provide the evidence from Islamic teachings? Also, I would appreciate any additional insights on the matter. A. There is nothing wrong with seeking the opinion of your wife or any other family member, and it is certainly not against the Quran or Hadith. In fact, taking advice from those close to you, especially your spouse, is not only permissible but also recommended in Islam. One of the most profound examples of this can be found in the life of our beloved Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam. When Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam received the first revelation in the cave of Hira, he was deeply shaken and unsure of what had just happened. He immediately went to his wife, Sayyidatuna Khadijah (Radhiyallahu Anha), seeking her comfort and advice. It was Khadijah (Radhiyallahu Anha) who reassured him, reminded him of his good character, and supported him during this crucial time. She played a vital role in comforting him and in helping him understand that what he had experienced was a divine message from Allah Ta’ala. This incident is a clear example that seeking the counsel of one’s wife is not only permissible but can be of great benefit. The Quran also encourages mutual consultation. In Surah Ash-Shura (42:38), Allah Ta’ala praises those who conduct their affairs by mutual consultation. The verse says: "And those who have responded to their lord and established prayer and whose affair is [determined by] consultation among themselves, and from what We have provided them, they spend." This verse highlights the importance of Shura (consultation) in making decisions, and this principle applies within the family as well. There is also a Hadith that supports the importance of consultation. Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam said: "The one who seeks counsel is never disappointed…" (Narrated by al-Tabarani in al-awsat) This Hadith emphasizes that consulting others, including one's spouse, is a means of avoiding disappointment and making sound decisions. In summary, seeking the opinion of your wife or any other close person is not only permissible but is encouraged in Islam. The example of the Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam and the teachings of the Quran and Hadith all point to the wisdom and benefit in mutual consultation, especially within the family. And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best Mufti Muhammed Hamza Farooqui Mufti Taahir Hansa (The answer hereby given is specifically based on the question asked and should be read together with the question asked. Islamic rulings on this Q&A newsletter are answered in accordance to the Hanafi Fiqh unless otherwise stated.) Fatwa Department Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians
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When I will be considered as a Musafir to offer Qasr Namaz?
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Fights happen in marriage. It’s a normal part of the deal. Marriage consists of two people, and as such, they will naturally differ and disagree on things from time to time. The real question is: HOW do we disagree? What should these arguments or fights look like? Should they be a free for all? Or are there some ground rules, guidelines for how to conduct ourselves as husbands and wives when we do fight? Here is what I’ve learned from my own marriage and the marriages I’ve seen around me: Do not fight dirty. What’s fighting dirty? Some people, when they get mad, aren’t able to contain their anger or control themselves. They feel their anger building and let it rage into a blazing inferno, raging out of control. In this state, they let loose, allowing themselves to say whatever comes to their angry mind. They deliberately target what they know their spouse is sensitive about, what will devastate and wound the spouse. They go for the jugular. They have no filter in that moment and will say literally anything and everything they can think of in order to hurt the other person and “win” the fight. But there is no winning like this. Even if you “win” like this, you’ve lost. You’ve lost the trust and love of your spouse, you’ve damaged the relationship, you’ve sacrificed your marriage to score some cheap points in the heat of anger. This is fighting dirty. If a couple gets into the mode of fighting dirty, it can be hard to fix. Some things, once said, cannot be unsaid. Once your spouse has heard you belittle, disrespect, or mock him or her in a certain way, he or she cannot un-hear that. The damage is done, despite the apologies that might come later. Not all jabs are erased by even a sincere apology. Some things cut deep, and leave lasting marks. This affects the relationship quality, weakens the marriage bond. Here are some concrete things you should NOT do while fighting with your spouse: 1. No cursing, swearing, cussing. We don’t use the f-word or other filthy language, no matter how angry we feel. 2. No name-calling. 3. No using what you know is going to really truly hurt and devastate your spouse. Don’t use the intimate details they shared with you in confidence once against him or her, just to twist the knife now in a fight. 4. No bringing in other stuff not related to the current fight. Focus on the issue at hand without piling on other stuff that’s irrelevant. 5. No dragging up past mistakes your spouse made, if you’ve already forgiven him or her. This is unfair. 6. No threatening divorce willy nilly. Don’t keep bringing up the possibility of leaving the other person during every small and big argument. This is unnecessary. 7. No involving the kids. Go have your fight in the privacy of your own room, especially if it gets heated. 8. No belittling or mocking your spouse in the presence of others. Show respect and restraint even if you’re mad. 9. No mocking things your spouse genuinely can’t control or help, like an illness he or she has, a fertility problem, being too short/ tall, being dark or light-skinned. These are unchangeable features of your spouse that were determined by Allah who created him or her; this cannot be helped. It’s not his or her fault. You knew this before marriage. Don’t come now and mock it because you’re mad. This is a cheap shot. 10. No attributing intentions to your spouse. You cannot know someone else’s intentions, because the niyyah is in their heart, known only by themselves and by Allah. You can say what it looks like, but you cannot just assign a specific (malicious) intention to the other person when you can’t know that since you can’t see into his or her heart. These are the top ten etiquettes that are important to stick to during marital disagreements. It’s not a free for all. We don’t go wild. There are certain red lines we never cross, even at the height of anger. The Muslim has taqwa of Allah, even when angry or in the middle of a heated fight. A Muslim is not foul-mouthed, vulgar, or merciless. Rasulullah Sallallahu alayhi was sallam said, “The believer is not one who insults others, nor curses others, nor is vulgar, nor shameless.” [Tirmidhi] If done right, with restraint, self-control, and taqwa, a couple can actually get closer and more aligned after having a fight. If done wrong, fights can destroy a marriage entirely. May Allah grant us all taqwa of Him even during moments of anger, and bless the marriages of this ummah, ameen. muslimskeptic.com