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  2. سلسلہ مواعظِ رشید نمبر 5 علم کے مطابق عمل کیوں نہیں ہوتا قسط نمبر 3 2⃣( واصبر نفسک مع الذین یدعون ربهم بالغدوة والعشی یریدون وجهه ولا تعد عیناک عنهم) (١٨.٢٨) ترجمہ : "اور آپ خود کو ان لوگوں کے ساتھ مقید رکها کیجیے جو صبح و شام (یعنی علی الدوام) اپنے رب کی عبادک محض اس کی راضا جوئی کے لیے کرتے ہیں-" صبر کے معنی ہیں باندھ کر رکهنا، مقید رکهنا- رسول الله ﷺ کو ارشاد ہو رہا ہے کہ اپنے آپ کو اصحاب رضی اللہ عنهم کی تربیت کی خاطر مقید رکهیں ان کو اپنی صحبت بابرکت سے مستفیض ہونے کا موقع دیں تا کہ لوگ دین حاصل کر سکیں اور نبوت کے انوار و برکات سے اپنے دلوں کو مجلی کر سکیں - علم کتابوں اور رسالوں کی مدد سے بهی حاصل ہوتا سکتا ہے لیکن اس پر عمل جب ہی ہو سکتا ہے کہ کسی باعمل کے پاس بیٹھ کر دیکها جائے - یہاں پر ایک نکتہ یہ بهی معلوم ہوا کہ اہل اللہ کی پہچان ایک یہ بهی ہے کہ ان کا دل حقیقت میں لوگوں میں بیٹھنے سے خوش نہیں ہوتا ان کو تو بس خلوت محبوب ہوتی ہے کہ ذرا موقع ملے اور وہ اپنے محبوب حقیقی سے لو لگائیں لیکن جب اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ کا حکم ہوتا ہے کہ مخلوق کو فائدہ پہنچاؤ تو وہ مجبوراً باامر الٰہی اس کام پر آمادہ ہوتے ہیں اور حقیقت میں ان کا میلان خلوت گزینی ہی کی طرف ہوتا ہے تا کہ وہ زیادہ سے زیادہ محبوب حقیقی کے جلوہ سے اپنی آنکهیں ٹهنڈی کریں -لیکن جب محبوب حقیقی حکم فرما دیتے ہیں کہ اب ان کے جمال کو آئینہ میں دیکهیں تو اہل اللہ اہل دنیا کی اصلاح کی طرف متوجہ ہوتے ہیں- 3⃣ اهدنا الصراط المستقيم کی تفسیر میں فرمایا : صراط الذین أنعمت علیهم، اس سے ثابت ہوا کہ منعم علیهم بندوں کی مصاحبت سے صراط مستقیم پر چلنے کی توفیق ہوتی ہے- 4⃣( ومن یکن الشیطن له قرینا فساء قرینا )(٤-٣٨) اور (یویلتی لیتنی لم اتخذ فلانا خلیلا )( ٤-٣٨) سے ثابت ہوا کہ صحبت بدکا اثر ہوتا ہے- 5⃣ انها کانت من قوم کفرین (٢٧-٤٣) سے یہ بتانا مقصود ہے کہ ملکئہ سبا کفار کے ماحول میں رہنے کہ وجہ سے کفر میں مبتلا تھی- 6⃣ (یلیتنی اتخذت مع الرسول سبیلا) (٢٥-٢٧) *"کاش میں رسول کے ساتھ ہو کر اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ کا راستہ پکڑ لیتا-"* اس میں صحبت رسول اللہ ﷺ کا اثر بتایا گیا ہے- 7⃣ جب رسول اللہ ﷺ کی بعثت ہوئی اور آپ ﷺ نے نبوت کا اعلان کر کے تبلیغ کی ابتداء فرمائی تو کفار نے یہ اعتراض کیا کہ یہ ہمارے جیسے بشر ہیں، رسول تو کوئی فرشتہ ہونا چاہیے تها اور یہ کہ قرآن دفعتاً لکھا لکهایا ہم پر نازل ہوجاتا- اور ہم خود پڑھ کر اس کو سمجھ لیتے- اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ کے دست قدرت سے بعید نہ تها کہ وہ اسی طرح کر دیتے کہ ایک فرشتہ کو رسول بنا کر بهیج دیتے اور ایک کتاب لکهی لکهائی نازل فرما دیتے تا کہ ان کفار کے لیے حجت پوری ہوجاتی اور ہو سکتا تها کہ ان کا یہ مطالبہ پورا ہوجانے پر کچھ لوگ مسلمان بهی ہو جاتے لیکن اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ کی حکمت اعلیٰ اور اس کی انسانی فطرت سے واقفیت خود انسانوں سے بهی زیادہ گہری ہے اس لیے اس نے ایک بشر کو رسول کی صورت میں مبعوث فرمایا تا کہ لوگ یہ نہ کہہ سکیں کہ ہم تو اس بار شریعت کے متحمل نہیں ہو سکتے کیونکہ ہم فرشتوں کی طرح نہیں ہیں- اس کے علاوہ انسان کسی انسان ہی کی صحبت میں کچھ سیکھ سکتا ہے-اس لیے انسانوں کی ہدایت کے لیے انسانوں ہی کو رسول بنا کر مبعوث کیا جاتا رہا- 8⃣ حدیث میں اچهی صحبت کے فائدے اور بری صحبت کے نقصان کو ایک عجیب مثال سے سمجهایا گیا ہے: ( عن ابی موسی رضی اللہ عنہ عن النبی ﷺ قال مثل الجلیس الصالح والسوء کحامل المسک ونافع الکیر فحامل المسک اما ان یحذیک واما ان تبتاع منه عاما ان تجد منه ریحا طیبة ونافع الکیر اما ان یحرق ثیابک واما ان تجد ریحا خبیثة ، رواہ البخاري وفی روایة یحرق بدنک او ثیابک) #_ترجمہ : "رسول الله ﷺ نے فرمایا صحبت صالح کی مثال ایسی ہے جیسے مشک والے کی صحبت، وہ تجهے ہدیہ دے دے گا یا تو اسے خرید لے گا ورنہ کم از کم مشک کی خوشبو تو پائے گا ہی اور صحبت بد کی مثال لوہار کی بهٹی جیسی ہے کہ وہ تیرے بدن کو یا کپڑوں کو جلا دے گہ ورنہ اس کی خراب ہوا سے تو نہیں بچ سکے گا- " (جاری ہے)
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  5. By Mufti Taqi Usmani All praise to Allah. We praise Him and seek His help and His forgiveness and we believe in Him and rely on Him. We seek refuge with Him from the mischief of our selves and the vices of our deeds. There is none to lead him astray whom Allah guides and there is none to guide him whom Allah lets go astray. I bear witness that there is no God but Allah alone and that He has no partner. I also bear witness that our master, our authority, and our Prophet and our master, Muhammad is His servant and His Messenger. May Allah bestow upon him, his household and his Companions. His mercy and blessings in abundance. And Almighty Allah said: "But consort with them in kindness". (4.19) "You will not be able to deal equally between (your) wives, however, much you may wish to do so. But turn not altogether away (from one), leaving her in suspense, If you do good and be righteous, then surely Allah is ever Forgiving, Merciful." (4:129) Importance of the rights of the servants (of Allah) Allamah Nawawi [ra] is commencing a discussion of the rights of the servants (of Allah) in the light of these verses and the traditions of the Holy Prophet I have already mentioned repeatedly that “the Rights of the servants are a very important branch of religion. Its importance lies in the fact that “the Rights of Allah” may be pardoned by repentance. If God forbid - some negligence ever occurs in the matter of Allah’s rights, it is very easy to remedy this negligence by means of repentance and seeking Allah’s pardon with a feelings of remorse and regret. The negligence can thus be remedied. As for the rights of the servants, if they are violated, they are not pardoned by repentance and feelings of remorse and regret and by seeking pardon, unless the usurped rights are restored to the right-holders or the latter willingly forgoe their rights in his favour. Therefore the matter of rights of people is a matter of serious consideration. Negligence in the matter of the Rights Serious indeed is the subject of the rights of the servants of Allah, yet equally serious is the negligence of people towards this subject in our society. There are only a few aspects of worship that we have taken as Deen (Faith), e.g. Prayer, Fasting, Hajj, Zakat, Remembrance, Recitation of the Holy Qur’an, the recital of some sacred names or words. We regard these items as Deen but we have excluded from Deen the Rights of the servants; similarly we have also excluded from Deen the rights concerning social living. One who is negligent in the discharge of these rights does not feel that he is committing any serious offence. Backbiting is a violation of People’s rights Take a simple example. If a Muslim is addicted (God forbid) to drinking wine he will be looked down upon by every Muslim who has even the least touch with the faith and the drunkard himself will feel ashamed that he is committing a sin. On the other hand a person who is addicted to backbiting is not hated in the society like the drunkard, nor does the backbiter himself feels that he is a sinner or criminal, although both the sins are equally heinous and base. But no, backbiting is more vicious sin than drinking wine: firstly, because it comes within the definition of the rights of the servants and secondly, because Almighty Allah has used for it in the Holy Qur’an a very horrid similitude the like of which He has not for any other sin. He has thus said in surah Al-Hujarat. verse no 12: "And do not spy: nor backbite one another. Would one of you love to eat the flesh of his dead brother: you would then abhor that. (49.12) Thus a backbiter has been compared to one who eats the flesh of his dead brother. So vicious is this in! Yet it has become common in the society. There is hardly an assembly where this sin is not committed. What is worse, it is not condemned at all as if the faith has nothing to do with this sin. ‘Ihsan is desirable at all times Hazrat Dr. Muhammad Abdul Hai may Allah exalt his status. is my spiritual Guide (Shaikh or Pir). One day he related the following incident: A man called on me and told me with a gusto of pleasure and pride that thank God, he had attained the rank of “Ihsan”. “Ihsan” is a very exalted status, as is mentioned in a tradition: (Sahih Bukhari the book of belief-chapter Inquiry in Hadith Jibrael tradition no: 50). This means that you should worship Almighty Allah, as you are seeing Allah and if this be not possible worship Him with the belief that He is seeing you. This is the rank of “Ihsan”. That gentleman told the respected Doctor Sahib that he had attained the rank of “Ihsan” Hazrat Doctor Sahib congratulated him on the attainment, as it was a great blessing of Allah and put to him this question: Do you realise the blessing of “Ihsan” only during the prayers or do you realise it also during your dealings with your wife and children that Almighty Allah is seeing you? He replied: What the Tradition says is that while pray one should feel that one is seeing Allah, or Allah is seeing him. I thought that “Ihsan” is related with worship only and not with other activities of life. Hazrat Doctor Sahib said to him: That is why I put this question to you, because it is generally misunderstood that “ihsan” is required during prayers, remembrance or recitation only, although it is required at all times and in all stages and walks of life. If you are sitting in a shop doing some business, “Ihsan” is required there also. You should realise in your heart that Almighty Allah is seeing you. “Ihsan” is also required when you are dealing with your subordinates. You should feel that Allah is seeing you even when you are dealing with your wife, children friends and neighbours. This is really what “Ihsan” means. It is not confined only to prayers and worship. That woman shall enter Hell It should be borne in mind very well that the teachings of the Holy Prophet cover every branch of life. It is narrated that once the people inquired from the Holy Prophet about a woman: O Prophet of Allah, there is a woman who remains engaged with worship all day and night. She is mostly busy with optional prayers, remembrance of Allah and recitation of the Holy Qur’an, she is always seen engaged in these acts of devotion. What do you think about the fate of this woman? The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] asked that Companion about her dealings with the neighbours. The Companion replied that she did not behave well with the neighbours. The women of the neighbourhood are not pleased with her. The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] said: She will enter the Hell. (Bukhari p.48 tradition no: 911, chapter Does not trouble his neighbour) That woman shall enter Paradise At another time a question was put to the Holy Prophet about a woman who did not observe many items of optional worship and remained contented only with the obligatory and essential duties and sometimes she performed the Sunnah Muakkadah (the confirmed sunnah) prayer. She did not observe the optional prayers, rememberance, recitation, etc. more than this. Her dealings with the neighbours and others were however, amicable. The Holy Prophet replied: She will enter the Paradise. Who is a Pauper? The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has explained in these traditions that if anyone observes optional prayers it is very good, but if he does not do so he will not be asked in the Hereafter why he did not observe such and such optional forms of worship. This is because the very word Nafl (optional) means that if anyone performs this optional worship, he will receive reward, and if he does not do so, there is no sin on him. On the other hand the rights of the servants (of Allah) are something about which the people will be questioned on the Day of Judgement. The entry into Paradise or Hell depends on the nature of replies given to these questions. The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has explained in a Tradition as to who is a pauper; he is reported to have said: A person will bring with him on the Day of Judgement lots of good deeds; but in the world he usurped someone's rights, spoke ill of someone, injured someone’s feelings and hurt someone's heart. The result of all this will be that he will have to pay to others all the good deeds he brought with him and will have to take upon himself the sins of others while he has no good deeds left with him to compensate his creditors. The matter of the rights of the servants (of Allah) is thus a very important matter in the Shari'ah. (Tirmidhi. chapter on Accounts taking and Ransom Tradition no: 2533). The Rights of people are three-fourths of DEEN It has already been pointed out that if the “Islamic Jurisprudence” which deals with the injunctions of the Shari'ah is divided into four equal parts, only one part will be found to deal with matters relating to worship. and the remaining three parts will be found to contain injunctions with regard to matters that are related to people and their life. You may know the name of ‘Hidayah’ which is a renowned book of Hanafi jurisprudence in four volumes. The first volume deals with forms of worship in which poblems concerning Purity (Taharat), Prayer (Salat), Fasting, Zkat and Hajj have been discussed. The remaining three volumes are concerned with the subjects dealing with people and their rights, social living and the rights of the servants (of Allah). It can be easily inferred from this that the subject of the rights of the servants represents one-fourth of Deen (Faith). Therefore, a very important chapter is now commencing. May Almighty Allah help us, by His mercy, to read and listen to it with a firm mind, to act upon the injunctions. May He also help us to discharge the rights of the servants (of Allah) according to His pleasure and will. The miserable condition of women before Islam The first Chapter which Allamah Nawawi has included is the “Chapter of counsels about women”, meaning those counsels which the Holy Prophet has given about the rights of women. The reason for allotting this subject in the first chapter of the book is that the greatest shortcoming and negligence are committed in the matter of women’s rights. During the Days of Ignorance, before the advent of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam], women were treated like cattle, devoid of humanity, deprived of all rights, whatsoever. In those days of darkness the people did not recognise any rights due to women who were tolerated in the houses no better than pet animals like goats and sheep: but the conditions totally changed after the advent of Islam and under the sacred teachings of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam]. Amicable behaviour with women At that time the world was unaware of heavenly guidance. It was the Holy Prophet who for the first time made the world alive to the rights due to women whereunder they should be accorded nice treatment. At the very out set Allamah Nawawi [ra] has cited a verse of the Holy Qur’an that is very comprehensive on this subject: "But consort with them in kindness." (419) \ Almighty Allah has addressed all Muslims, comhanding them to behave, and consort with women in kindness; associate with them in life with goodwill and sympathy and never give them trouble. This is a general guidance. This verse is, as it were, the heading and the text of this chapter. The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has explained this verse by his words and practice. He gave such importance to the need of showing misbehaviour to women at that he is reported to have said in a Tradition: "Meaning: The best of you are those who behave well with their women and I am best of you in behaving well with my women. (Tirmidhi - chapter on right of a women over her husband Tradition no. 1172) The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] attached so much importance to the protection of the rights of women and ensuring good behaviour with them that he has explained this matter in many Traditions. The first Tradition on this subject is one narrated by Hazrat Abu Hurairah wherein the Holy Prophet is reported to have said: "I advise you to wish well for the women. You should accept this advice of mine." The Holy Qur’an enunciates only the principles Before proceeding ahead it is better to advise that the Holy Qur’an generally gives the basic principles, without going into the minute details of the issue. This procedure is followed even in describing the injunctions about the prayer which is such an important pillar of Deen (Faith) to the establishment of which reference has been made in the Qur’an at seventy three places. Yet the Holy Qur’an does not furnish any details about how prayer (salat) is offered. how many Rakaat should one offer and other injunctions validating or invalidating the salah. The Qur’an itself has not detailed these factors but left it for the Holy Prophet who taught the companions these details both by his words and practice. The same is the case with Zakat which has also been mentioned in the Qur’an almost at the same number of places. The Qur’an, however, does not clarify the prescribed value on which Zakat becomes due for payment, nor it speaks of possessions on which it is leviable. Like the prayer these details about Zakat were also left for the Holy Prophet to explain. Thus it becomes clear that generally the Qur’an mentions only the basic principles and does not go into minute details. Domestic life is the Foundation of the entire civilisation The relationship between man and woman and among the members of the family are so important that the Qur’an has described in clear terms its minutest details and has spoken in details relating to this important topic. Thereafter the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has explained fully those points. The edifice of the entire human civilisation stands on the relations between man and woman and on the domestic life of man. If the relationship between man and woman is sound, smooth and one discharges the rights of the other, then the affairs of the household shall run smoothly and the children shall be brought up on the right lines and this ensures the betterment of society on which stands the edifice of the social living as a whole. On the other hand, if the household affairs are mismanaged and there are differences and disagreements between husband and wife the children are affected adversely and you may very well imagine about the standard and character of the nation manifested by such spoilt and ill mannered children. The rules and regulations governing this aspect of the society are called family laws or household regulations. In view of their importance, the Holy Qur’an has dealt them in details: Is the woman born of crooked Rib? The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has set a nice example for this — an example that is unique in its effect and import. Some have explained it by saying that first of all Allah created Hazrat Adam [alayhis salaam] then He created Hazrat Hawwa (Eve) from his rib. Some learned men have said by way of explanation that the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has compared a woman to a rib which is crooked to see but its beauty and health consist in its crookedness. If anyone tries to remove its crookedness by straightening it, it will break and cease to be a rib. To restore to its previous state, it will have to be made crooked then joined together with plaster. The same idea has been beautifully expressed in a Tradition: "That is, if you want to straighten it. you will only break it." "And if you want to enjoy it you may enjoy it despite its crookedness." The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] has, thus set a wise example that its crookedness is its beauty and health which will be destroyed by straightening it. It is not a defect of woman Some people use this saying against women as being their defect in a woman. In other words, they say that since a woman has been created from a crooked rib, so is she crooked in her conduct and character, by her nature. This is, however, not the meaning of the Tradition of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam]. The deviousness of women is natural It needs to be borne in mind that Almighty Allah has created man and woman, each with different tendencies and attributes. On account of this difference between the nature and temperament of the two, man thinks about a woman that she is opposed to his masculine nature and sentimentality, although this natural tendency of a woman against a man’s natural bent and tendency is not a defect. It is the natural requirement of her nature that she should reflect in her character some innocent crookedness. That is why the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] said: If you find in a woman something which is against your natural tendency on account of which you think that she is crooked, do not condemn her on this account: rather ignore it by thinking that it is the natural demand of her nature. If you want to straighten her she will break: if you want to benefit by her you can do so despite her crookedness. “Negligence” is a part of beauty in a woman Today the times have changed; as a result the values have also changed. A defect in a man is more often looked upon as a point of virtue and beauty in a woman. If we go through the Holy Qur’an carefully we shall see what, is generally considered a defect in a man is considered a point of beauty in a woman. For example. it is a defect in man to be ignorant and negligent, on account of which he is unaware of what is happening in the world. A man has been entrusted with the affairs of the world. To discharge these he needs learning and awareness. If he is devoid of these qualities and abilities, he is faulty and defective to this extent. As for a woman, negligence has been considered by the Qur’an as an item of beauty for her. Allah has said: "Surely, as for those who slander virtuous, negligent believing women..." (24:23) The word “negligent’ meaning that they are unaware of what is happening around them in the world. The Qur’an has considered here “negligence” or “unawareness” as an attribute of beauty. It is obvious from this that if a woman is ignorant of the affairs of the world, duties. excepted. this is not a defect but an attribute of beauty as described by the Qur’an. Do not try to straighten her bent by force Thus we see a defect in man is not considered a defect in woman and what is not a defect in man is sometimes looked upon as a defect in woman. A man is, therefore, not allowed to be harsh to a woman and misbehave with her if he finds her behaving in her womanly way. The very meaning of her comparison with a rib is that, by nature, she should be different in temperament from you. So now do not try to straighten her by force. The root cause of the entire conflict The above is based on a Tradition of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam]. Who can claim to know more about the nature of man and women than the Prophet of Allah? He diagnosed the root cause of all the conflicts between man and woman.Man insists that a woman should be exactly like himself in all her behaviours. This is not possible as she has been created different from him. Be conscious of her good habits In another tradition of this chapter Hazrat Abu Hurairah radhiallaahu anhu] has narrated: (Sahih Muslim-Book of suckling chapter counsel about women) In this Tradition the Holy Prophet has mentioned a wonderful principle that a believing man should not hate a believing woman altogether. In other words, the man should not condemn her totally on the false plea that she is no good. If she has some undesirable triats in her conduct she must have in her some desirable traits also. The first principle which the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has taught is that when two persons live together, some habit of the one is pleasant and some other habit unpleasant to the other. If the woman has some unpleasant habit in her, then do not condemn her on account of that habit altogether, rather look for and remember her pleasant habits and thank Almighty Allah for them. If you follow this practice it is quite possible that the hatred in your heart for the dark side of her conduct and character may gradually lose its severity and importance. Man, in fact, is ungrateful. If he finds any defects in her he totally changes his opinion about the person concerned and forgets about his good qualities. In view of those few faults and defects, he is always critical about him and misbehaves with him. Such attitude is unreasonable. Everything has virtues and vices in it There is nothing in the world which is all virtue and all vice. Almighty Allah has, by His wisdom, endowed everything of His creation with virtue and vice. You are sure to find some good qualities in every person, may he be an infidel, an idolater or even worse. An English proverb The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has said: A word of wisdom is a lost property of a believer. He must pick it up wherever he finds it. So there is no harm in picking up a word of wisdom even from an English Proverb. The proverb said that even a watch which has gone out of order speaks the truth at least twice every day. Suppose that the watch stopped at 12 hrs., 5 mts,. As the time 12-5 occurs twice during the 24 hours, the dead watch shall tell the correct time twice at 12-5 hrs, although it will remain silent at other times. The moral we draw from this English proverb is that if one is in search of goodness with hope and sincerity one can surely find this goodness even from the most condemned and throw-away objects. There is nothing bad in the workshop of Nature My father Mufti Muhammad Shafi’ Sahib [ra] used to recite frequently the following Urdu couplet of the late Dr. Muhammad Iqbal: There is nothing useless in the earth There is nothing bad in the workshop of nature. Whatever Almighty has created has created it with His wisdom and by His will. If you reflect on it you will surely find in Allah’s creation point of Wisdom and benefit. Instead man looks for faults and shortcomings only and ignores the good points and bright sides of things. Thus he becomes pessimistic and commits transgression and injustice. Always look for the good qualities of women Almighty Allah has said in His Book: "For if you hate them, it may happen that you hate a thing wherein Allah has placed much good." (4:19) If for some reason you do not like those women whom you have married, yet it is just possible that Almighty Allah may have endowed them with much goodness and blessings. Hence this command that you should look only for the good qualities of women. so that you may receive solace and comfort from them and thus the doors of mistrust and misbehaviour may not be opened. Educative story of A saint Hazrat Maulana Shah Ashraf Ali Thanawi [ra] has related the story of a saint who had a very ill mannered and aggressive wife. She always found faults with her hushand. Whenever the saint entered his house the wife started quarrelling with him. Someone asked him why he did not get rid of those daily wrangles and squabbles by resorting to divorce. The saint replied: it is very easy for me to divorce her but there is one reason for not doing so. Despite all her defects, she has one very good quality which prevents me from parting with her; and that is the quality of loyalty with which Almighty Allah has adorned her. Supposing I am arrested and imprisoned for some crime, for a term of fifty years, she will not move even an inch from the corner to which I confine her, and she will never cast a glance at anyone else. This This quality of loyalty is invaluable. Mirza Mazhar Jan-e-Jan’an and his over-sensitiveness Hazrat Mirza Mazhar jan-e-Jan an [ra] was a renowned saint of the Indian sub-continent. He was so touchy and over-sensitive in his temperament that if anyone put the glass on the pitcher in a tilting position or if he saw his bedding creased he would feel headache, unfortunately he had to deal with an ill-mannered wife. She was always murmuring something against her husband. Strange are indeed the ways whereby Allah tests His servants and raises their ranks. The wife of this pious saint was an ordeal for him which he tolerated with patience throughout his lifetime and expected that Allah may pardon his sins as a recompense for this ordeal. The women of our society are Nymphs of Paradise Hakimul Ummat, Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanawi [ra] used to say that the women of the Indo-Pakistan are like nymphs, because they are endowed with the qualities of faith and loyalty. Although these qualities are slowly fading under the impact of the modern Western civilisation and culture, yet the spirit of loyalty is so deep-rooted in them that they are always ready to sacrifice their lives for their husbands in all circumstances. and they can never cast their glances on anyone other than their husbands. In fact the saint, referred to above demonstrated obedience to the injunction implied in the following Tradition. If one habit of the woman is unpleasant, there must be some pleasant habit in her which should be taken into consideration and good treatment should be meted out to the woman on account of this one pleasant habit in her. People generally look at the dark side in the conduct and character of their women and lose sight of the bright side in them. This tendency is the root cause of the bitterness prevailing in our society. It is immorality to beat one’s wife The third Tradition of this chapter is as under: (Sahih Bukhari the book of marriage - It is hateful to beat women tradition no 5204) Once the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] delivered a sermon in which he mentioned many important topics of Islamic behaviour. The following is the point which he touched on the subject under discussion: He said: It is very bad that one of you beats his wife as a master beats his slave and on the other hand he uses the same wife to satisfy his sexual desire. Then how immoral and shameless it is that one should beat one’s wife so severely! Three steps of reforming a wife As I have already stated, the Holy Qur’an has taken great care to mention in detail concerning husband-wife relations: The differences and disagreements between husband and wife start when the husband feels offended at some action or habit of the wife. The Qur’an advises that in such a situation the husband should look for some lovely and pleasant quality in the character and dealings of his wife. If the husband fails to discover in his wife any such good points and feels that correction and reform are needed, then the Holy Qur’an has prescribed the following course to reform and rectify it. "As for those (women) from whom you fear disobedience, admonish them and banish them to beds apart (from yours) and beat them." (4:34) First of all you should advise them in a lenient and polite manner and with love to give up their bad habits and reform themselves. This is the first step of reform. If they respond favourably to admonition and accept your advice, do not go further and treat the chapter closed. If this does not help and they insist upon their misconduct then the second step is to separate your bed and give up sleeping with them on the same bed. If they have sense, they will surely reform themselves and act upon advice. (Details of separating the bed will follow shortly). Physical punishment to a wife If the second step of the reform also fails then it will be necessary to resort to the third step, which is to inflict on the wife some physical punishment; but what kind of physical punishment and to what extent? The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] answered these questions in his sermon on the occasion of his Farewell Hajj in which he said: "(beat them very lightly so as not to injure them". To sum up, effort should be made so as to settle matters without the expedient of this punishment. If it is found unavoidable, it is permitted only with the condition that it should be very light, the intention being only to enforce discipline and not to inflict pain and injury. It is not lawful beating one’s wife in a way that should leave a mark on the body. (A Tradition on this subject follows). The behaviour of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] When the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] passed away from this world he left behind nine sacred wives. These wives were not angels sent down from the heaven: they were members of this world and society. Sometimes, bitterness occurred among them as is usual and natural among co-wives. Sometimes such problems also arose as usually arise between husbands and wives. Hazrat Ayesha [radhiallaahu anha] has narrated: Not only did the Holy Prophet ever raise his hands on any of his wives, but it was also his habit to enter the house with a smiling face. The Prophet’s Sunnah (practice) It is the Sunnah (practice) of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] that men should not raise their hands at women (to beat them). The permissibility of punishing physically is restricted only to abnormal and unavoidable situations. In fact beating women is not the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam]; his Sunnah is what Hazrat ‘Ayesha has narrated. A miracle of Dr. Abdul Hai [ra] Hazrat Dr. Abdul Hai my spiritual guide sometimes related to us, by way of a lesson, that a period of fifty-five years had passed of his marriage, he never talked to his wife during these fifty five years in an angry tone. The walking of a man on the surface of the water and his flying in the air is taken as a miracle. It is more surprising that one should not talk to his wife even in an adverse tone for as long as fifty five years. And his respectable wife says that her husband, Dr. Sahib. never asked her to bring to him a glass of water. She, however, served him as best as possible of her own sweet will and as a blessed and virtuous duty. Tariqat is nothing but public service Hazrat Dr. Sahib used to say: I consider myself to be a servant whom Allah has sent to this world for service. This is my belief and with this belief I want to serve others and depart from this world. I am duty bound to serve all my friends, acquaintances, associates and pupils. I was not sent to this world as a master to be served by others. He considered the position of a servant of people to be an elevated rank. He then recited the famous persian couplet: Tariqat (spiritual way) is nothing but public service. It does not consist in the robes and the prayer-rag and the saintly garments (signs of godliness). Tariqat in fact, stands for public service. Dr. Sahib used to say: When I understood that I am a servant and not a master, how can a servant order others to do this and that? He spent his entire life by doing his personal work without the assistance of anyone else. This is a practical example of how the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] should be followed. As for ourselves we do follow the Sunnah in rituals only. It is necessary to follow the sunnah in dealings with others social living and in every mode of leading our private life. Verbal claim is not enough Living according to the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] is highly rewarding. Through such living man can smoothen his worldly life as well as his life in the Hereafter. But this success cannot be attained only by making empty claims. "This means that everyone claims to love Laila, but Laila herself does not acknowledge their claim)." This is achieved only by means of sincere work and devotion. By his character, conduct and practice man should ensure that he does not cause the least harm even to the person with whom he happens to be on unfriendly terms. In short, the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has illustrated, by his own practice. the THIRD STEP of reforming an errant wife. Throughout his lifetime he never raised his hands on any one of his sacred wives. However he was sometimes irritated by their behaviour, but he never reacted to it. Those who beat their wives are declared the worst men by the Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam]. (Tirmidhi book of Tafsir. chapter Surah Taubah Tradition no: 3087). Prophetic Address in the Farewel Pilgrimage In the above Tradition an extract has been given from the Farewel address of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam]. In this address he addressed the assembly of the companions in clear words that after that year he might not see them at that place. So in this address he included all those points that he feared that the Ummah might deviate from the right path, and thus he wanted to leave behind for the guidance of the Ummah a perfect code of life to be followed. In this address he tried to block all the possible paths of deviation and error. The address is quite lengthy but different parts of this address have been stated on different places. This is also a part of it in which the various aspects of relationship of man and woman has been discussed. Special stress has been laid on the need that men should acknowledge the rights of women and honour them. You may realise the importance of these rights from the fact that he delivered that sermon on the occasion of the Last Pilgrimage when he indirectly informed people that the next year he may not get an opportunity to address the people. Thus the mutual rights of men and women are one of the topics which he selected for discussing towards the close of his life on account of their importance. He wanted his Ummah to honour and follow the injunctions in all circumstances. Mutual relations between husband and wife This shows the importance of husband-wife relations in human life and how the law-maker the Holy Prophet himself felt this importance. If the husband and wife do not discharge each other’s rights properly and, instead, usurp these mutual rights, not only will this result in the violation of each other’s rights, but it will also adversely affect both the families as well as the children whose proper upkeep, development, mental and moral growth will be affected. As the family is the foundation of the entire civilisation, with its ruination civilisation is itself ruined. That is why the Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has laid great stress on the importance of mutual relation between husband and wife. Women are in your confinement Hazrat Umr bin al-Ahwas al-Jashim [radhiallaahu anhu] has narrated that in the Farewel sermon the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] praised Almighty Allah, offered consels and delivered a speech and then said: "Beware! I advise you to do good to women. Accept this advice." This is the sentence which occurred in the previous Tradition. His next sentence was: "because those women live with you confined in your houses." The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has mentioned an attribute of women that if man reflects over this attribute only, he can never think of misbehaving with them. A Lesson from an Ignorant Girl Our dear Hazrat Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanawi used to tell his disciples to learn a lesson from an ignorant, uneducated girl who surrenders herself to a stranger after uttering at the time of the Nikah only two words of acceptance. She honours these two words so solemnly and completely that she leaves her mother, father, brothers and sisters and the entire family and becomes inseparably tied to and confined with her husband. An ignorant girl honours these two words so truly and sincerely that she surrenders herself to one person, her husband but you could not honour our pledge of these two words by surrendering yourself to Almighty Allah. This girl is much better than you. She honoured so completely her pledge of Nikah, but you did not honour your pledge of the two words of the article of Faith. Sacrifices of the woman for your sake The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has said in this Tradition. “How tremendous sacrifice the woman has undergone for your sake. If the matter was just the reverse and it were said to you, you would have to leave your family. your parents, after your marriage what an awkward situation it would be for you. As for the woman she has become confined to a strange surrounding, a strange house and a strange person and that, too, for the whole of her life. That is why the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] said in his tradition: Will you not mind this sacrifice? Do take heed of this and treat her well and with love. You have no claim upon them Thereafter the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has spoken a very serious sentence of far-reaching consequences. When the meaning of this sentence is explained to men they get annoyed. That sentence is: "This means that according to the laws of the Shari'ah the only demand you can make of them is that they should live with you in your house". You have no other claim upon them Cooking is not the duty of a wife From this Tradition the Jurists have deduced a ruling of delicate nature and which makes men annoyed. The ruling lays down that according to the Shari'ah it is not the responsibility of a woman to cook food for the household. For this purpose the Jurists have divided women into two classes. Women of one class are those who do household work, including cooking food in their parent’s houses. The other class consists of women who do not cook food in their father’s house where cooks are employed for this work. If after marriage a woman of the latter class goes to her husband’s house she is not at all responsible to cook food, religiously, legally, morally or otherwise. On the other hand, that wife may ask her husband to hire a cook for her as man is obliged to provide her with food along with other necessaries of life. The Jurists write: "It is the responsibility of the husband to provide his wife with cooked food." The wife cannot be forced to cook food neither by force, nor by the law, because the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has said in clear words: "This means: You have a right to keep them in your house which it is not lawful for them to leave without your permission." With this exception the laws of the Shari'ah have imposed no responsibility on them. However, If she belongs to the first category the one who used to cook food in her parents’ house she too is not legally responsible to cook food i.e. she cannot be compelled by law to cook food. However, the responsibility falls on her only morally. In such a case the husband is responsible only to provide the food materials. Even then it is not her responsibility to cook food for the husband and the children. A wife in this class cannot ask her husband to provide her with cooked food. However, if she refuses to cook food for her husband and the children, the court cannot force her to do it. The respected Jurists have explained these problems at great length. Serving the In-laws is not obligatory There is another fact worthy of notice about which much negligence is observed among the people. When a wife is not responsible to cook food for her husband and his children, then she is more appropriately not responsible to cook food for the parents of the husband and his brothers and sisters. A custom has gained currency in our society that the parents of the son think that their right over the daughter-in-law has a priority over the right of the son. Therefore she is bound to serve them, no matter if she serves her husband or not. Such a misleading conception gives rise to quarrels and disputes among the daughter-in-law and other members of the family. The negative results of this conception are obvious to require any comments. To serve In-Laws is a virtue for a woman Bear in mind well that it is the responsibility of the son to serve his parents. It is, however, a matter of blessing and virtue for the daughter-in-law if she serves the parents of her husband willingly, as a righteous deed and source of reward for her in the Hereafter. The son does not have any right to force his wife to serve his parents in case she does not feel inclined to serve them of her own sweet will. It is also not lawful for the parents to force their daughter-in-law to serve them. As already mentioned, if the daughter-in-law voluntarily decides to serve her in-laws for the sake of recompense in the Hereafter she is welcome to do so. This will create happy and pleasant atmosphere in the household. Appreciate the services of a daughter-in-law If a daughter-in-law is serving his father and mother-in-law, she is doing favour out of her moral character because she is giving this service to them only of her free will and she is not in any way liable for such services. Her in-laws should, therefore, appreciate this voluntary service from her. They should try to requite her for this and encourage her. Ignorance of these rights and liabilities create various problems in social life which play havoc to the solidarity and welfare of families through quarrels and disputes. All these troubles are taking place simply because the people have banished from their minds the limits of these mutual rights and liabilities which the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has fixed in his Traditions. A Surprising Incident Hazrat Dr. Abdul Hai Sahib [ra] one day related a very wonderful event. He said that among his acquaintances, there was a couple who used to visit his assembly and receive spiritual training and instructions from him. One day both of them invited him to a dinner at their house. It was the habit of respected Dr. Sahib to utter at the end of the feast a few words of praise in favour of the lady who cooked the food just to encourage and please her. The lady who had prepared the food came and stood behind the curtain and greeted him. After replying to the greeting Dr. Sahib uttered a few words of praise and appreciation about the quality and taste of the food and the art of cooking. Dr. Sahib heard the woman sobbing from behind the screen. It was disturbing. Was there anything in Dr. Sahib’s words that pinched her? On being asked to state the cause of her grief and sobbing, she said, "I have been living with my husband for the last forty two years, but during this long period of association, I never heard from him a word of appreciation about my cooking. When I heard these words from you sir, I could not control myself from sobbing." The respected Dr Sahib used to relate this story in his assemblies off and on to emphasise that such callousness can never be expected from a husband who is able to realise that it is a great favour on the part of his wife that she is serving him so selflessly and faithfully of her own sweet will and is doing all this service for which she has not been made legally responsible by the Shari'ah. A man who thinks that his wife is a maid servant and has to serve him at any cost, has no need to drop a word of praise and appreciation if she is an expert cook and sincere worker. The Husband should serve his parents himself A question arises as to who should serve the parents when they are old, weak or otherwise helpless on account of sickness when there is none in the house except their son and his wife? Even in such a situation, the daughter-in-law is not bound, according to the Shari'ah to serve her in-laws. It is, however, a matter of blessings and virtue for her if she serves them of her own free will with the belief to please Allah and to receive reward in the Hereafter. The son should, however, realise that it is his responsibility to help and serve his parents personally or by employing a servant for this purpose. If the wife is looking after his old parents, the husband must appreciate this service and be thankful to her. Husband's permission for going out But here is another requirement to note in order to understand the true position. After knowing only one side of a case and being ignorant of the other side people begin to take undue advantage. It has already been explained in detail that it is not obligatory for a wife to cook food, according to the laws of the Shari'ah. In his Tradition the Holy Prophet has said that “women remain confined to your houses like captives”. It means that it is not lawful for them, to go out of the house without the permission of their husbands. Just as the jurists have explained in detail the issue of cooking food, in the same way they have also explained in detail that women cannot leave the house for meeting kinsmen, even their parents without the permission of their husbands. If the parents visit the house of their son-in-law to meet their daughter, the husband cannot prevent them from seeing her. The jurists have prescribed limits for such casual visits. The parents may visit their daughter only once a week and go back after seeing her. This is their daughter’s right which a husband cannot deny, yet she cannot go out of the house without her husband’s permission. Thus Almighty Allah has, in His mercy, created a balance between the rights and responsibilities of husband and wife. On the one hand the wife is not legally bound to cook food and, on the other hand, she is legally bound not to go out of the house without her husband’s permission. Mutual Co-operation is vital for smooth life Whatever has been stated above is only the legal side of the matter; but the beauty of mutual behaviour with each other is that each should try to please the other. Hazrat Ali and Hazrat Fatimah [radhiallaahu anhuma] had distributed the duties of the household between them in such a way that Hazrat Ali did all the outdoor work, while Hazrat Fatimah performed the indoor work. This is exactly the Sunnah (practice) of the Holy Prophet which should be followed. Husband and wife should not always involve themselves in the implications of the law. The best way is that both should behave with each other open-heartedly. The division of work between husband and wife on outdoor and indoor basis is a natural division to enable them both to keep the vehicle of life going smoothly. If she commits the immodesty If these women commit open lewdness, that lewdness cannot be tolerated in any case. In such a situation they should be dealt with according to the injunction laid down by the Holy Qur’an. First of all they should be admonished, then, if they insist-on their sin, let their bed be separated. If they still do not accept the admonition and continue in their Lewdness, then it is permitted to inflict them with light beating which should not cause any injury. If they refrain from the lewdness and mend their ways, then one should not find fault with them, but they should be let off, without further pinching them. Beware! These women have rights over you that you behave with them well. Be generous in discharging your obligations in the matter of providing them with clothes, food and their other needs. This does not mean that you should meet only their basic needs; you are expected to be generous and liberal in supplying their lawful needs. Pocket money for a wife Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanawi [ra] has dealt in his guiding sermons with some topics with special emphasis. I intend to reproduce two or three of these in this discourse, as they are generally overlooked by the people. Firstly. the liabilities about a wife does not mean that she should be provided only with food and clothes. It is also a part of this cost that she should be paid a suitable amount as pocket expenses in addition to the cost of living, making her free to spend this additional amount as she likes. There are persons who arrange for food and clothes but do not care for pocket expenses. Hazrat Thanawi has said that payment of some amount as pocket money is also necessary, because there are many items when a person feels ashamed to disclose to other that she needs a certain thing. The wife should, therefore, must have some extra amount as pocket money so that she may not seek other means to satisfy her needs. Hazrat Thanawi [ra] has warned that those who do not provide pocket money to their wives are blamable. Being generous for Family Another point to note is that one should be generous and liberal in spending money on the needs of the household. One must not limit expenses to basic needs. One should provide money with a generous hand so that the expenses of the household may be met with ease and freedom according to the financial means of the house-keeper. Some people complain that, on the one hand, there is stress that one should not be extravagant and at the same time there are instructions not to be miser in spending money on the household. A question now arises as to what is the line of demarcation between the two. What is extravagance and what is not extravagance? Simple or comfortable accommodation both are lawful To remove this confusion Hazrat Thanawi [ra] has said: that accomodations are of two kinds, a place which is just enough to accommodate the members of the family. It may be an ordinary hut, it is possible for a man to live some how even in such structures. This is lawful in the first degree. The second kind is that the house should provide living accommodation as well as a reasonable degree of comforts. For example, the house should be concrete-built, equipped with fans and electric lights. If a person provides this service in his house in order to make life easy and comfortable, this cannot be regarded as extravagance. Decoration is also lawful In the third degree, along with means of comfort a house should also have some decoration. For example, a man has a concrete built house with plastered walls, electricity and fans, but it has no paint on it. Even an unpainted house like this is fit for living, but without white-washing and proper painting it lacks in decoration. If the house owner gets the house colour washed and painted for the sake of decoration this too is lawful in the laws of the Shari'ah. In short to live in an ordinary house is lawful, it is also lawful to live in a house provided with certain comforts and amenities as well as some decoration. Decoration here means some additional improvement made in the house, like painting, etc, which is pleasing to the eyes and cheering to the heart. There is no harm in this and is permissible in the Shari'ah. Show off is not lawful Then follows the fourth degree which is mere “Show off’. The house-owner is doing something which aims neither at comfort, nor at decoration; the aim is to show his riches. Thereby he wants to impose his superiority on others and to show that he is a big thing. All this comes within the definition of “Show off’ which is not lawful in the laws of the Shari'ah. It is also extravagance. The limits of extravagance These four categories also apply to food and clothes, and in all other things of life. A man wears costly clothes in order to receive comfort, to please himself and the members of his household and his acquaintances, friends and visitors, there is no harm. On the other hand there is a person who wears valuable clothes with the intention that he may be considered a rich and wealthy man, a man of exalted position in society, then this is mere exhibition and show and therefore it is prohibited. Hazrat Thanawi [ra] has therefore drawn a clear line of demarcation between the two extremes. If money is spent on something for the sake of meeting a necessity, providing comfort or for decoration for his own pleasure and satisfaction, it is not extravagance. This is not Extravagance Once it so happened that I was coming back to Karachi from some other city, and it was the hot summer season. I requested someone to have my seat booked in an airconditioned coach and I gave him the required amount of money. Another man who was sitting nearby at once objected to this because in his opinion I was committing extravagance by sitting in an airconditioned coach. Many people are under the wrong impression that to travel in a higher class is extravagance. Bear in mind that if travelling in an upper class is for comfort, e.g. to save oneself from heat in the summer season, and the man can afford it. It is neither extravagance nor a sin. If one travels in an upper class simply to show that he is rich, then it is extravagance and it is unlawful. The husband should therefore, keep in mind these degrees in meeting the cost of living of his wife with generosity and liberality. Capacity differs from man to man, Maulana Maseehullah Khan Sahib [ra] once observed: There is a man who is all alone in this world, without relatives, without friends and without acquaintances. For such a man a bed, a dish and a jug are sufficient to pass his life. If he collects more articles, it will mean a show and will be reckoned as extravagance in his case. There is a man who receives guests, has a large circle of acquaintances and friends, and has many relatives. The standard of his needs and extent of requirements will be quite different. If such a man has in his house at times even one hundred sets of pots and beddings, not a single piece of this will be counted as extravagance, because all these are necessities of life. The standard of life differs from man to man. Where to search Allah Hazrat Ibrahim bin Adham [ra] was once a great Ruler but he renounced the world in search of Allah. There are some people who seek from his life arguments to prove their stand. The story runs as follows: One night Hazrat Ibrahim bin Adham saw a man walking about on the roof of the palace. Hazrat Ibrahim bin Adham [ra] caught him and asked him what he was doing on the roof of the palace. The man replied: I have come here to search my lost camel. Hazrat Ibrahim bin Adham said: Stupid fellow! Are you searching your camel on the roof at this hour of night? How can you find the camel here? The man asked with some surprise: Can I not find the camel here? Hazrat Ibrahim bin Adham [ra] answered: certainly not! How can you find the camel on the roof of the palace? The man then retorted: If the camel cannot be found in this palace and the man who is searching the camel in this palace is a fool, how can you find Allah while staying in this palace? If I am a fool you are a greater fool than me. This answer of the stranger shocked the heart of Hazrat Adham. He at once relinquished his kingdom and took his way to the jungle. He took with him only a bowl and a pillow, so that he might eat food and drink water from the bowl and use the pillow while lying down on the ground. After walking some distance he saw a man drinking water from the river with his palms cupped together. He saw that he could also drink water in that way, so he threw away the bowl and resumed his journey. After walking some distance he saw that a man was sleeping on the ground with his hand placed under the head to serve for a pillow. He felt that he could very well do without the pillow so he threw it away, too. Emotions should not be followed After listening to this story some people may misunderstand that keeping a bowl and a pillow is also extravagance. May Allah exalt the rank of Hazrat Thanawi [ra] who has at his credit of separating right from wrong and wheat from chaff. He has advised that none should compare himself with those of Hazrat Ibrahim bin Adham [ra]. Firstly, because the change that had come over him was due to an ecstatic state of rapture. A man in this condition should not be followed, because the man so overwhelmed goes out of himself and loses his normal consistency of thought and feeling. We are not, therefore, to follow in the footsteps of Hazrat Ibrahim ibn Adham [ra], because he was not at his normal when he decided to leave the palace. Besides, such renunciation of worldly relation is not permissible in Islam generally. It would mean that Allah cannot be found in palaces. Moderate way of spending The requirements of one man is different from that of other. The standard of spending also differs from man to man. The standards of a man with low income, and of a man with a moderate income or a man with a high income are different from one another. The liberality in spending of each person should, therefore, be proportionate to his income. It should not happen that the husband is a man of moderate means and his wife is asking for items of comforts and luxuries which she sees in the house of rich men that her husband cannot afford. Demand for such articles of luxury is not lawful. The husband should, however, try to meet the demands of his wife as far as possible within his means and should not be niggardly towards his wife. The rights of the wives over husbands? (Abu Dawud, the Book of Marriage - chapter on the Right of the wife over her husband, Tradition no.2142) Hadhrat Mu'amiyah ibn Hidah [radhiallaahu anhu] has narrated that he asked the holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] of Allah, What are the rights of our wives over us? The Holy Prophet said: when you take food, feed her also and when you wear clothes, provide her also with clothes to wear. Do not beat her on the face, nor curse her. Do not part with her but her but only within the (bounds of the) house. Leave sleeping with her as punishment As has already been explained, if you ever observe in the wife some lewdness, try first to admonish her. If she does not mind your admonition, then leave her bedding, and sleep on a separate bed. Leaving the bed does not imply that you should go out of the house; you should separate your bedding while remaining in the house. You may, however, change the room by way of a psychological punishment and as a sort of protest, and thus keep yourself aloof from her for some days. A proper way of separation The learned jurists have explained the meaning of this Tradition also by advising that on such occasions her bed may be separated, but the talking terms should not be terminated totally. The separation should not be so strict as not to offer salutations to each other from time to time and not to return the greeting if one bids it, nor to avoid answering important questions. A separation of this kind is not lawful. Wife’s permission for a long period journey While explaining this Tradition the learned Jurists have gone to the extent of saying that it is not lawful for the husband to leave the house for more than four months without the permission and pleasure of his wife. As such, Hazrat Umar [radhiallaahu anhu] had promulgated this order throughout his empire that the freedom-fighters who take part in Jihad should not remain away from their homes for more than four months. The jurists have, therefore, deduced that if anyone is going on a journey for a period not exceeding four months, it is not necessary for him to obtain his wife’s permission. If the journey takes longer than four months, it is essential for him to obtain his wife’s permission, no matter how desirable that journey may be. This ruling is applicable to the journey for the Hajj (Pilgrimages). If the pilgrim returns from the journey within four months no permission from his wife is necessary, but if he prolongs his stay in the Holy city beyond four months the wife’s permission must be taken. This ruling is also applicable to journeys undertaken for Tabligh, Da'wah and Jihad. If the wife’s permission is necessary for such blessed journeys then her permission will all the more be necessary for a journey undertaken for the sake of employment, business, etc. If journeys exceeding four months are taken without the wife’s permission it will be a violation of her rights and, therefore, unlawful in the laws of the Shari'ah. Who are the Best People? (Tirmidhi Book of Suckling, Chapter on the rights of a wife over her husband tradition no. 1162) Hazrat Abu Hurairah [radhiallaahu anhu] has narrated that the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] said: The most accomplished of the believers in respect of Iman (Faith) is one who is the best of them in conduct and character. The more refined a man is in behaviour and character, the more accomplished he is in Iman (Faith). Perfect Iman, therefore, demands that a man should behave and deal with others politely. The best of you are those who are the best in their behaviour and dealings with their wives and women. The meaning of “Good Character” in the modern age We see that in our days the meanings of things have greatly changed and the values of all things have been reversed. Hazrat Maulana Qari Muhammad Tayyib Sahib [ra] of Deoband used to say: As compared with the past everything has turned upside-down in the present age. For example, in the olden days there was darkness beneath the lamp and now there is darkness above the bulb. Today values have changed and so has changed the import of everything, so much so that even the meaning of character has undergone a total change. Today only some outer acts and expressions of modern etiquettes are regarded as tokens of good character. For example, it is regarded sign of good character to meet someone with a smiling face or to utter formal pleasing words. I am very glad to see you, it is pleasing to meet you, etc. while the heat of enmity, jealousy and hatred is burning in the hearts. Today this way of behaviours has been named good behaviour and character. It has been recognised as an art, how to deal with others so as to make them impressed with our personalities. Books are being written today on the art of winning over sympathies of others. All energies are being utilised to achieve this aim: Do all that is possible to get others attracted by your superficial personality. This is called “character”. Bear in mind well that all this formal show has nothing to do with high morality which the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has enjoined upon his followers. This is a mere hypocrisy, ostentation, a trick to attract others to one’s own personality. This is nothing but love for honour, fame and regard and this desire, in itself, is a disease and immorality. This has nothing to do with Islamic concept of morality. Morality is a quality of the Heart Morals are in fact a particular state of the heart which find expression in the movements of the limbs and the organs. The heart should be tilled with the feeling of welfare for the creation of Allah and love for them, irrespective of what they are, friends foes, believers or unbelievers. One should remain alive to the fact that every being on the earth is a creation of His Master. Allah. This originates a kind of love for all in ones heart. This conception, in turn, generates good actions and deeds, and then man does good to others. Now the smile shining on ones face on account of this feeling is not artificial, nor is it displayed to arrest public attention: it rather springs up from the heart as a result of heart-felt longing and emotion. Thus. there is a world of difference between the morals taught by the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] and the artificial and superficial show of morals in modern society. How to acquire High Morals? Only reading books or listening to lectures is not enough to attain the standard of the desired degree of morals. For this purpose it is imperative to seek the company of some spiritual reformer and guide. The order of Tasawwuf (Mysticism) and the system of becoming a disciple of a spiritual Guide (Piri-Muridi) has been handed down from the past men of Allah. It aims at inculcating in high morals and eliminating the germs of immorality from a man. Anyway, the most accomplished in the realm of Iman (Faith) are those individuals who posses high morals, whose hearts generate right motives and these right motives are reflected in their acts and deeds. May Allah admit us all into the company of these perfect personalities Aameen! Do not beat the Maids of Allah (Abu Dawud. Book of Marnage. chapter on beating women Tradition no 2146) Hazrat Iyas bin Abdullah [radhiallaahu anhu] has narrated that the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam], while delivering a sermon said: Do not beat the maids of Allah, because beating women is not desirable. When the Holy Prophet prohibits something, the act becomes totally unlawful for one who heard the prohibition direct from the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam]. Now it is not lawful for him in any circumstances to beat women. Two kinds of Holy Traditions It may be noted carefully that there is a category of Traditions which we hear from someone or read in the books. They reach us through a long chain of authorities: giving us the names of the reporters in ascending order carrying to the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam]. The Traditions of this category are called Zanni because they reach us through a channel of reporters. It is obligatory to act upon the injunctions contained in such Traditions; and deviating from this is a sin. Traditions which the Companions heard direct from the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] are not Zanni (conjectural), but are Qatie (confirmed). If any one denies such Traditions, not only will he be a sinner, but he will also become an unbeliever. According to the juristic ruling the denier of an order of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] at once turns to be an infidel. Sometimes we entertain the foolish desire in our hearts to have lived at the blessed time of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam], to reap the virtues and blessings of that blessed time. We should remember that whatever Almighty Allah does, He does it in His infinite wisdom and it is He who has raised us in this later age. If He had raised us in the time of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam], who knows what would have happened to us. There is no guarantee that we would not have fallen into the dare ditch of ignorance? May Allah save us. The question of Iman in those days was a very delicate issue. A slight turn from the right path could change the destiny of man. The devotion with which the sacred Companions [radhiallaahu anhum] of the Holy Prophet rallied round him was exclusively their distinction. It was due to this that they reached the unique rank. Allah alone knows what would have been the fate of our selfish far-seeing and ease-loving persons as we are. It is indeed a great favour of Almighty Allah that He saved us from ruin and raised us up in an age in which we enjoy many facilities. We are in an age in which we have Zanni Traditions. If anyone denies it he will only be a sinner and not an unbeliever. As regards the sacred Companions, if anyone of them heard some Tradition from the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] and denied it he would instantly become an unbeliever. May Allah save us from such a fate. The Audacity of the women When the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] ordered the Companions not to beat their women, this punishment was totally suspended. It was not possible for the Companions to continue an act which the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] had forbidden them to do. Thus when the Practice of beating women ceased then after some time Hazrat Umar [radhiallahu anhu] called on the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] and said: "O Prophet of Allah , these women have now become lions (i.e. fearless and bold) with their husbands, because you have stopped us from beating them. Now none beats his wife, nor does he ever threaten her with that. That is why they have become fearless, are violating their husbands’ rights, and are misbehaving with them. So what are we to do now?" Then the Holy Prophet permitted them to beat their wives, if they violate their rights and when beating was unavoidable. Only a few days after the restoration of the order of beating, the women began to approach the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] and complained to him that their husbands were taking undue advantage from the permission of beating and were beating them severely. They are not good men Mentioning his own name, the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] said: Many women are repeatedly visiting the house of Muhammad complaining against their husbands’ misbehaviour with them that they severely beat them. You should note it very carefully that those who resort to this beating are not good men. It is not the work of good believers to beat their wives. The Holy Prophet made it quite clear to the gathering that permission was given to beat their wives as the last alternative only in unavoidable circumstances and subject to the condition that the beating should be light, so as not to cause injury and leave its mark on the body. Despite this, it is the Sunnah of the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] and also his sincere desire that no man should raise his hand to beat a woman. The mothers of the believers have narrated that the Holy Prophet never raised his hands at any woman. Therefore, this is what the sunnah demands. The Best thing in the world is a “virtuous Woman” (Sahih Muslim. Book of suckling chapter-the best object of the world a virtuous woman) Hazrat Abdullah bin Amr bin Al’Aas [radhiallaahu anhu] has narrated that the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] said: This world as a whole is an enjoyment, profit and advantage. The Almighty Allah has said in the Holy Qur’an: It is Allah who has created whatever there is in the world for your benefit, enjoyment and for meeting your needs. (Al-Baqarah. 29) The best of all these objects is a virtuous woman created for your service and enjoyment. The Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has said in another Tradition: (Kanzul-Ummal. Tradition no 18913) Of all the things of your earth there are three things that are dearest to me: (Here note the Phrase “Your earth” as he said about his approach this world in these works) viz., a woman, scent, and the coolness of my eyes lies in the prayer. Thus the foremost among the blessing of the world are these things. In another place he said: (Tirmidhi, the Book of Abstinence. Tradition no 2378) "What have I to do with the world? I am like a rider who takes rest for a short time under the shade of a tree. then he sets off, leaving behind that tree." Seek refuge from a bad woman In short one of the three desirable gifts is a virtuous woman, because the Holy Prophet [sallallaahu alyhi wasallam] has sought refuge from bad woman. "O Allah! I seek refuge from that woman who will make me old before I attain the old age. I also seek refuge from a child who proves to be a trial in the Hereafter. May Allah save us from them. Aamen! So if you are in search of a woman for yourself or for one of your children, try to find out one who is religious, virtuous and righteous. If God-forbid she is not righteous, then she may prove a distress. If a man is lucky enough to get a virtuous wife. he should value her, and should never degrade her. To value her means that you should fulfil her rights and behave with her nicely. May Almighty Allah assist us in acting upon these injunctions, Aameen! And we close with the call that all praise be to Allah. the Lord of the worlds. Madrasa In'aamiyyah
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  7. Through Thick and Thin - The wife of Nabi Ayyoob Alayhis salaam The incident of Nabi Ayyoob (‘alaihis salaam) is well known to one and all. Initially, Nabi Ayyoob (‘alaihis salaam) was enjoying great prosperity. He had abundant animals and crops, many children and numerous homes. Allah Ta‘ala then decided to test Nabi Ayyoob (‘alaihis salaam). Hence, he lost all his wealth and even his children. Allah Ta‘ala even tested Nabi Ayyoob (‘alaihis salaam) with an illness that afflicted his entire body. The only two limbs of his body that were spared from this illness were his tongue and his heart. Nevertheless, even in this condition, he would keep his heart and tongue engaged in the remembrance of Allah Ta‘ala. While Nabi Ayyoob (‘alaihis salaam) was patiently enduring this test, most of the people abandoned him, until he was left alone in a corner of the town. However, his loyal wife never left him or abandoned him. She remembered his favour upon her when conditions were favourable, and hence she remained at his side through thick and thin, ever loyal and faithful. She would patiently tend to him and see to all his needs. In some narrations, it has even been mentioned that when her wealth was eventually depleted, she began to carry out domestic work in peoples’ homes in order to earn a living and see to her ailing husband’s needs. Together with this, she had lost her children and her husband was extremely sick. Through all these tests, she remained patient and did not complain, even though she went from a life of comfort and happiness to one of difficulty and sadness. (Al-Bidaayah wan Nihaayah vol. 1 pg. 262) Lessons: 1. The proverb “a friend in need is a friend indeed” is often quoted, highlighting the fact that a true friend is one who will remain with you in difficult times as well as good times. We can well imagine that if such loyalty is expected of a good friend, then what must be the high level of loyalty that is expected of a true spouse? After all, the relationship between the husband and wife far surpasses any friendship! Hence, a true, loyal wife is not one who will abscond to her father’s house when “the goings get tough”. Rather, she will patiently remain with her husband and assist him, to the best of her ability, as she would expect of him had she been in difficulty. 2. Undergoing tests is an unavoidable occurrence in life. We cannot choose the nature or time of our tests – but we can choose to pass the tests. To do so, we will have to hold firmly to sabr (patience) and remain pleased with the decision of Allah Ta‘ala. uswatulmuslimah
  8. سلسلہ_مواعظِ رشید نمبر 5 علم کے مطابق عمل کیوں نہیں ہوتا ؟ قسط نمبر 2 صحبت صالح کیوں ضروری ہے ؟ کسی عالم باعمل کے پاس بیٹهنا کیوں ضروری ہے اور اس سے کیا فائدہ ہوتا ہے-اس کے لیے چند دلائل بیان کیے جاتے ہیں تاکہ مقصود آسانی سے سمجھ میں آ جائے، پہلے دعاء کر لیجیے کہ بات سمجھ میں آ جائے اور دل میں اتر جائے اور پهر عمل کی توفیق بهی ہو جائے- اس سلسلے میں سب سے پہلی دلیل اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ کا ارشاد: 1⃣ (یَا اَیُّهَا الَّذِیْنَ آمَنُوْا اتَّقُوْا اللہ َوَکُوْنُوْا مَعَ الصّٰدقِیْن ) ( ١٩.٩ ) یہاں لوگ *"اتقوا اللہ"* کے معنی *"اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ سے ڈرو"* کر دیتے ہیں-حالانکہ تقویٰ کے معنی ڈرنے کے نہیں بلکہ بچنے کے ہیں- اب معنیٰ ہوگیے : *"اے ایمان والو! اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ سے بچو"* اس کا مطلب یہ ہے کہ اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ کے غضب سے بچو، اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ کے عذاب سے بچو اور چونکہ انسان بچتا وہیں ہے جہاں ڈر ہو اس لیے مجازاً ڈرنے کے معنی ہو گیے- تقویٰ کا مطلب یہ نہیں ہے کہ بس تسبیح ہاتھ میں لیے اللہ اللہ کرتے رہو یا کثرت سے نفل عبادات کرتے رہا کرو بلکہ تقویٰ کا مطلب ہے برائیوں کو چهوڑ دینا ، گناہوں سے بچ جانا- یہی تقویٰ ہے - اگر کوئی گناہوں کو تو نہیں چهوڑتا اور ساری ساری رات عبادت کرتا اور دن کو روزے رکهتا ہے تو وہ نجات کے لیے کافی نہیں کیونکہ اللہ تبارک و تعالیٰ کو راضی کرنے کا ایک ہی راستہ ہے کہ اس کی نافرمانی کو ترک کر دیا جائے اور اس کی نافرمانی کا ترک گناہ چهوڑ دینے ہی سے ہو سکتا ہے، پهر فرمایا: ( کونوا مع الصدقین ) - یعنی سچے لوگوں کے ساتھ رہ پڑو- یہاں پر صادقین سے وہی لوگ مراد ہیں جن کا عمل علم کے عین مطابق ہے- ایسے لوگوں کے ساتھ رہنے کو فرمایا گیا- صرف رہنے کو نہیں بلکہ وہاں پڑ رہنے کا حکم فرمایا گیا - یعنی کافی مدت ان کے ساتھ گزار جائے، ان کی صحبت میں رہا جائے جب ہی کچھ فائدہ ہوگا- صادقین ایسے لوگ ہوتے ہیں کہ جو کہتے ہیں اس پر ان کا عمل بهی ہوتا ہے- اس پر ایک قصہ یاد آیا- غالباً شاہ اسماعیل شہید رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ کا واقعہ ہے کہ انہوں نے ایک دفعہ نکاح بیوگان سے متعلق وعظ فرمانے کا ارادہ کیا- یہ ایسے حضرات تهے کہ جو کہتے تهے پہلے خود اس پر عمل کرتے تهے لہٰذا حضرت نے وعظ فرمانے سے پہلے سوچا کہ پہلے خود اس پر عمل کرنا چاہیے اور پهر دوسروں کو وعظ ، چنانچہ آپ کی پهوپهی یا کوئی اور راستہ دار خاتون بیوہ تهیں اور وہ بوڑهی بهی ہو چکی تهیں، حضرت شہید رحمہ اللہ تعالیٰ ان کے پاس تشریف لے گئے، اپنا مقصد بیان کیا کہ بیوہ عورتوں کے نکاح کے بارے میں وعظ کرنا مقصود ہے لیکن اس سے پہلے اپنے خاندان سے اس کی مثال ملنی چاہیے چنانچہ یہ خاتون باوجود کبرسنی کے بیوہ عورتوں کے نکاح نہ کرنے کی جو قبیح رسم پڑ گئی تهی اس کو مٹانے کے لیے تیار ہو گئیں اور کہا کہ اچها کر دو ہمارا کسی سے نکاح- شاہ صاحب نے پہلے ان کا نکاح پڑهوایا پهر وعظ فرمایا- ایسے حضرات کے کہنے کا اثر بهی ہوتا ہے اور سننے والوں کو عمل کی توفیق بهی ہو جاتی ہے- صحبت کی مثال ایسی ہے جیسے مقناطیس- مقناطیس کے اثر سے خام لوہا بهی مقناطیس بن جاتا ہے لیکن اس طرح سے نہیں کہ مقناطیس کے ساتھ لوہے کو کچھ دیر رکھ دیا پهر ہٹا لیا- پهر تهوڑی دیر رکھ دیا اور ہٹا لیا بلکہ مقناطیس کے ساتھ لوہے کو رکھ کر رگڑا جاتا ہے اور کافی دیر تک یہ عمل کیا جاتا ہے- جب اس میں مقناطیسیت کا اثر سرایت کرتا ہے- اسی طرح آم کی معمولی قسم عمدہ قسم کی صحبت سے ویسی ہی عمدہ بن جاتی ہے مگر معمولی قسم کے پودے کی شاخ کو قلمی آم کے پودے سے بار بار چهونا کافی نہیں بلکہ ایک مدت تک اس کے ساتھ باندهنا پڑتا ہے- اس طرح طویل مدت تک صحبت اپنا رنگ دکها کر رہتی ہے اور وہ مشہور مثل ہے کہ خربوزہ کو دیکھ کر خربوزہ رنگ پکڑتا ہے- (جاری ہے)
  9. ☆بسْـــــــــــــــــــمِ ﷲِالـــرَّحْمَنِ الرَّحِـــــيـــم☆ سلسلہ مواعظِ رشید نمبر 5 علم کے مطابق عمل کیوں نہیں ہوتا قسط نمبر 1 اَلْحَمْدُ للہِ نَحْمَدُہُ وَنَسْتَعِیْنُهُ وَنَسْتَعْفِرُهُ وَنُؤْمِنُ بِهِ وَنَتَوَکَّلُ عَلَیْهِ وَنَعُوْذُ بِاللهِ مِنْ شُرُوْرِ أَنْفُسِنَا وَمِنْ سَیِّاتِ أَعْمَالِنَا مَنْ یَّهْدِهِ اللُه فَلَا مُضِلَّ لَهُ وَمَنْ یُّضَِْلْهُ فَلَا هَادِیَ لَُه وَنَشْهَدُ أَنْ لآَّ إِلَهَ إِلَّا اللهُ وَحْدَهُ لَا شَرِيْكَ لَهُ وَنَشْهَدُ اَنَّ مُحَمَّداً عَبْدُهُ وَرَسُوْلُهُ صَلى الله عليه وسلم وعلی آله وصحبه أجمعين. اما بعد فاعوذ باللہ من الشیطان الرجیم بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم (یَااَیُّهَا الَّذِیْنَ آمَنُوْا اتَّقُوْا اللہ َوَکُوْنُوْا مَعَ الصَّدِقِیْن) (١٩.٩) :ایک اہم سوال اور اس کا جواب کل میں نے مولوی صاحبان سے ایک سوال کیا تها- امید ہے کہ مولوی صاحبان کو اس کا جواب معلوم ہوگا-آج آپ حضرات کے سامنے اس کا جواب بیان کرنا مقصود ہے چونکہ سوال اور جواب دونوں نہایت اہم ہیں اس لیے اس کو معلوم کرنا نہایت مفید اور نافع ہوگا ان شاء الله تعالیٰ- سوال یہ تها کہ" علم کے مطابق عمل کیوں نہیں ہوتا؟ " یہ سوال تو علماء حضرات جانتے بهی ہیں ، پڑهتے پڑهاتے بهی رہتے ہیں- لیکن اس کے باوجود ان باتوں پر عمل نہیں ہوتا مثال کے طور پر ٹخنوں سے نیچے پاجامہ نہ رکهنا کسے معلوم نہیں، کتنی صحیح حدیثیں اس بارے میں وارد ہیں جنہیں علماء حضرات رات دن پڑهتے پڑهاتے ہیں پهر بهی بعض علماء کا خود اس پر عمل نہیں حالانکہ حدیث میں صاف طور پر آیا ہے: ( مَا اَسْفَلَ مِنَ الْکَعْبَیْن ِمِنَ الْاِزَارِ فِی النَّارِ ) آج کل لوگوں کو یہ غلط خیال ہو گیا ہے کہ ٹخنوں کو کهلا رکهنا صرف نماز کی حد تک ہی ضروری ہے حالانکہ ٹخنوں کا ڈهانکنا مرد کے لیے مطلقاً ممنوع ہے خواہ وہ نماز کی حالت میں ہو یا غیر نماز کی- حدیث کا یہ مطلب نہیں کہ ٹخنوں سے نیچے جو کپڑا ہوگا وہ جہنم میں جائے گا بلکہ مطلب یہ ہے کہ ایسا لباس پہننے والا جہنم میں جائے گا - یہی معاملہ تصویر کے ساتھ ہو رہاہے، جس عالم کو دیکهو تصویر کهنچوائے جا رہا ہے ، اخبارات میں تصویریں چهپ رہی ہیں- اسی طرح دیگر باتیں بهی علماء میں شائع ہو گئی ہیں- مثلاً حسد، بغض، غیبت وغیرہ- :شیطان کی منڈی :اس پر ایک قصہ یاد آیا شیطان کو لوگوں نے ایک بوڑهے کی صورت میں دیکها کہ ایک اونٹ پر بوجھ کے کئی گٹهے لادے چلا جا رہا ہے- لوگوں نے پوچها کہ اس میں کیا ہے؟ تو کہا کہ مال تجارت ہے لوگوں نے پوچها کہ بتاؤ تو سہی کہ کیا مال ہے ہو سکتا کچھ ہم بهی خرید لیں- شیطان نے جواب دیا کہ تمہارے کام کی کوئی چیز نہیں ، لوگوں نے اصرار کیا کہ آخر کار کچھ تو بتاؤ کہ کیا چیزیں ہیں جو ہمارے کام کی نہیں اور ہم جس کے خریدار نہیں ہو سکتے بڑے اصرار کے بعد اس نے بتایا کہ یہ جو مختلف گٹهے نظر آرے ہیں ان میں سے ایک میں عجب ، ایک میں حسد، ایک میں غیبت اسی طرح ہر گٹهے کو رذیلہ بتایا - لوگوں نے کہا بهلا ایسی چیزوں کا بهی کوئی خریدار ہو سکتا ہے! شیطان نے جواب دیا : ہر تاجر اپنی منڈی کو جانتا ہے کہ اس کے مال کی نکاسی کہاں ہوگی - ابهی علماء کی کسی مجلس میں چلا جاؤں گا، سارے کا سارا بوجھ خالی ہو جائے گا - یہاں علماء سے خطاب ہے کہ اس لئے یہ قصہ بتایا دیا ورنہ عوام کو یہ نہ سمجهنا چاہیے کہ علماء حضرات میں برائیاں ہی برائیاں ہوتی ہیں - علماء بہرحال محترم ہیں، ان ہی کے دم سے دین کا ستون قائم ہے اور ان سے سوء ظن رکهنا اپنی عاقبت خراب کرنا ہے- اعمال امت کا جائزہ اب عوام اپنا جائزہ لیں- کون سا ایسا مسلمان ہے جس کو یہ نہیں معلوم کہ نماز فرض ہے لیکن کتنے لوگ ہیں جو نماز پڑهتے ہیں- اسی طرح سب جانتے ہیں کہ بد نظری گناہ ہے-رشوت اور سود حرام ہیں ، چوری ڈکیتی گناہ ہیں-لیکن دیکهئے کس قدر ان برائیوں میں لوگ مبتلا ہیں، رات دن کیسے کیسے واقعات دیکهنے اور سننے میں آتے رہتے ہیں- ان سب سے بڑھ کر موت کے بارے میں کون نہیں جانتا کہ یقیناً ایک روز مرنا ہے- یہاں تک کہ اگر اسپیشلسٹ ڈاکٹر کی ایک جماعت بهی کسی شخص کو یہ کہہ دے کہ تم کبهی نہیں مروگے تو وہ ماننے کے لیے تیار نہیں ہوگا بلکہ کہے گا کہ تم سب غلط کہتے ہو مرنا تو ایک دن ہے ہی- اس میں تو کسی کمیونسٹ کو بهی انکار نہیں ہو سکتا لیکن کتنے ایسے لوگ ہیں جو موت کے لیے پہلے تیاری کر رکهتے ہیں-ذرا سا سفر درپیش ہو، چند میل بهی کہیں جانا ہو تو دنیا بهر کا سامان سفر اکٹها کر لیا جاتا ہے کہ اس کی بهی ضرورت پڑے گی ، اس کی بهی ضرورت پڑے گی، فلاں چیز بهی نہایت ضروری ہے-لیکن وہ سفر جس کے بعدبزندگی کی تمام جدوجہد ختم ہو جاتی ہے اور پهر کوئی کہیں کا سفر باقی نہیں رہتا یعنی سفر آخرت کے لئے کتنے لوگ ہیں جو پہلے سے اہتمام میں لگے ہوئے ہیں- بلکہ سب سے زیادہ غفلت تو اسی معاملہ میں ہوتی ہے- جتنا زیادہ یقینی علم موت کا ہوتا ہے اتنی ہی زیادہ بےفکری اس بارے میں دیکهنے میں آتی ہے- سوال یہ ہے کہ ایسا کیوں ہوتا ہے کہ لوگ جانتے بوجهتے غفلت میں پڑ جاتے ہیں اور جو باتیں معلوم ہیں، جن کا اچهی طرح علم ہے ان پر عمل بالکل نہیں ہوتا یا عمل میں کوتاہی ہوتی رہتی ہے- اس کا سبب معلوم کرنا اور اس کی وجہ دریافت کرنا نہایت ضروری اور اہم ہے، جب کسی چیز کا سبب اور وجہ معلوم ہوجاتی ہے تو اس کا علاج بهی آسان ہو جاتا ہے، ہمت بلند ہو جاتی ہے اور عمل آسان ہو جاتا ہے- یہ بات کہ لوگ کسی بات کا علم رکهنے اور جاننے کے باوجود اس پر عمل کیوں نہیں کرتے، اس کا ایک ہی سبب اور ایک ہی وجہ ہے اور وہ کسی عالم باعمل کی صحبت کا نہ ہونا - بس اس بے عملی کا یہی علاج ہے کہ کسی ایسے علم والے کے پاس بیٹها جائے جس کا عمل اس کے علم کے عین مطابق ہو، وہ جو کہے اس پر خود بهی عمل کرتا ہو- (جاری ہے) ثواب کی نیت سے آگے پهیلائیں
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    As-Salaam alaikum, The Noble Messenger of Allah, Sallallahu alaihi Wasallam, said:-- "Man should call upon Allah alone to provide for all his needs, so much so that even if a shoe-lace is broken, he should pray to Allah to provide a shoe-lace, and if he needs salt, he should beseech Allah to send it to him." [Tirmidhi].
  11. As-Salaam alaikum, Ali Ibn Abi Talib, may Allah be pleased with him, quotes the Prophet, Sallallahu alaihi Wasallam, as having said:-- "There is none whose final abode is not known to Allah from beforehand-- whether it is going to be Hell or Heaven." The audience said, "Should we not then hang on to the scroll of destiny and suspend action?". The Prophet, Sallallahu alaihi Wasallam, stated: "No, do your part for what is pre-ordained for one has been made easy for him. If he is fortunate, the path of goodness has been smoothened for him but if he is doomed, evil deeds are equally facile to him." He then recited the ayat, "But as for him who gives (in charity) and fears (Allah), and accepts whatever is good, We surely will smoothen the path of happiness." [Bukhari and Muslim].
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  14. Gone Fishing Imagine a newly wed couple who are together for the first time. The husband spends the entire night praising his wife and expressing words of love to her. However the very next morning he is gone fishing or golfing with his friends, leaving his wife all alone. This makes one wonder what the entire nights praises and "I love you" were all about? Did it come from the heart or was it mere lip service? Likewise when proceeding to Makkah Mukarramah we shout out "lab-baik", and out of love we announce "We are present O Allah Ta'ala." But then we slip out to Jeddah for some sight seeing, or for every one tawaaf we make of the Ka`bah, we end up making ten tawaafs of the shopping malls. Let not our "lab-baik" be an empty slogan of love. Let it be followed by sincere actions and dedication. uswatulmuslimah.co.za
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  20. Please click on the title to go to the relevant subjects WOMEN'S Issues during Hajj & Umrah What Are The Differences Between A Male And Female When Performing Hajj? Queries and Conditions Concerning Female Pilgrims Women performing Hajj during menses Women trimming each other’s hair in Hajj How much hair does a female required to cut? Are Women Required to Wear Certain Types of Clothing and Colors During Umrah and Hajj? Is It Permissible For A Woman To Wear Jewellery In The State Of Ihram? How Should A Menstruating Woman Perform Hajj? Covering The Face Of A Woman In The State Of Ihram Q/A Taking Pills In Hajj to stop Menstruation Hajj Without A Mahram? Women Performing salaah in the Haram of Makkah Tawāf Al-Ziyārah & Haydh (Menstruation) Omitting Tawaaf-e-Widaa’ due to Haydh or Nifaas
  21. Part Fifty The Inscription on His Ring: Hazrat ‘Amr bin ‘Uthmaan (rahimahullah) mentions that the ring of Hazrat ‘Uthmaan (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) had the following words inscribed on it, “I have brought Imaan in that Being who has created everything in its due proportion.” (Siyar A’laam min Nubalaa 2/156) Demise: Hazrat ‘Uthmaan (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) was approximately 82 years old when he was martyred. (Taareekh-ul-Islam 2/481) He was martyred on Friday the twelfth of Zul-Hijjah in the year 35 AH (Siyar A’laam min Nubalaa 2/162) Period of His Khilaafah Hazrat Qataadah (rahimahullah) reports that the period of the khilaafah of Hazrat ‘Uthmaan (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) was twelve years. (Siyar A’laam min Nubalaa 2/161)
  22. May Allah protect us all from this fitna. Ameen
  23. Absolute Submission Sayyiduna Mugheerah bin Shu’bah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) reports the following incident: On one occasion, I sent a proposal to marry a girl of the Ansaar. When I mentioned this to Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), he asked me, “Did you see the girl?” When I replied in the negative, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) recommended to me, “Look at her, for it is more likely that there will be affection and love between you (i.e. if you marry her after looking at her and finding her pleasing to your eye, there will be a greater chance of your marriage prospering).” I thus proceeded to the girl’s home and told her parents what Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) had mentioned. Hearing that I wanted to look at their daughter, the parents were reluctant. Hence, I stood and began to leave their home. As I was leaving, the girl asked her parents to call me back. When I returned, she stood at the edge of the curtain and said, “If Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) instructed you to look at me then I permit you to do so. If not, then I strictly forbid you to look at me.” Accordingly, I looked at her and married her. Subsequently, she was extremely beloved to me and honoured in my sight. (Ibnun Najjaar – Kanzul ‘Ummaal #45619) Lessons: 1. The hayaa (modesty) of the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) and their protectiveness over their womenfolk was such that the parents of the girl were initially reluctant when Sayyiduna Mugheerah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) asked to see their daughter. Similarly, until she learnt that it was the instruction of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), the daughter was not prepared to allow any strange man to look at her. 2. The Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) were blessed with the quality of absolute submission before the instruction of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). Hence, they always put their own intellect, understanding and emotion aside and completely complied with the wishes and desires of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), understanding that this was the key to success in both worlds. Similarly, if we wish true happiness and success, we will have to adhere strictly to the teachings of Deen. 3. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) has taught us the guidelines that need to be adhered to regarding marriage, and has told us that following these guidelines are the key to a prosperous marriage. Hence, if we surpass the bounds of shari‘ah and begin to engage in impermissible practices, such as the boy and girl communicating or even dating before marriage, we will lose the barakah (blessings) and help of Allah Ta‘ala which is essential for the marriage to prosper. Thus, we should always refer to the ‘Ulama to find out the limits of shari‘ah so that we can ensure that we remain within the parameters of Deen. uswatulmuslimah
  24. فریادِ علی میاںؒ ندوی حضرت مولانا سید ابوالحسن علی ندوی (علی میاںؒ ) کا شمار دنیا کی بلند پایہ علمی شخصیتوں میں ہوتا ہے، وہ بیک وقت مفکر، مدبر، مصلح، قائد، زمانہ شناس ، ادیب اور نباضِ وقت ، خطیب تھے، اللہ تعالیٰ نے انہیں فہم وفراست اور حکمت وبصیرت کے بڑے حصہ سے نوازا تھا۔ اس لئے دور حاضر کے تقاضے اور نفسیات کے مطابق وہ دین وشریعت پیش کرنے کا کام اپنے قلم اور زبان سے لیا کرتے تھے، دنیا کے جس گوشے میں جاتے وہاں دل کی گہرائیوں سے اسلام کا پیغام لوگوں کو سناتے، مغربی تہذیب کی غلامی پر وہ لکھتے ہیں : — اے ﻣﺴﻠﻤﺎﻧﻮ ! ﮐﯿﺎ ﺗﻢ ﺳﻨﺘﮯ ﮨﻮ؟ ﻣﻐﺮﺏ ﮐﯽ ﺩﺭﺳﮕﺎﮨﻮﮞ‘ ﺗﺤﻘﯿﻘﺎﺗﯽ ﺍﺩﺍﺭﻭﮞ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻋﻠﻤﯽ ﻣﺮﮐﺰﻭﮞ ﺳﮯ ﻣﺴﻠﺴﻞ ﺍﯾﮏ ﺁﻭﺍﺯ ﮨﻢ ﺳﮯ ﻣﺨﺎﻃﺐ ھﮯ‘ ﻣﮕﺮ ﺍﻓﺴﻮﺱ ﮐﻮﺋﯽ ﺍﺱ ﭘﺮ ﺗﻮﺟﮧ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﺩﯾﺘﺎ‘ ﮐﺴﯽ ﮐﺎ ﺧﻮﻥ ﺟﻮﺵ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﻣﺎﺭﺗﺎ ﺍﻭﺭ ﮐﺴﯽ ﮐﯽ ﻏﯿﺮﺕ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﺟﺎﮔﺘﯽ‘ ﯾﮧ ﺁﻭﺍﺯ ﮐﮩﺘﯽ ﮨﮯ: اے ﻣﺴﻠﻤﺎﻧﻮ ! ﺍﮮ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﻏﻼﻣﻮ ! ﺳﻨﻮ ! ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﺍﻗﺒﺎﻝ ﮐﮯ ﺩﻥ ﮔﺰﺭ ﮔﺌﮯ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﻋﻠﻢ ﮐﮯ ﮐﻨﻮﯾﮟ ﺳﻮﮐﮫ ﮔﺌﮯ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﺍﻗﺘﺪﺍﺭ ﮐﺎ ﺳﻮﺭﺝ ﮈﻭﺏ ﮔﯿﺎ۔ ﺍﺏ ﺗﻤﮩﯿﮟ ﺣﮑﻤﺮﺍﻧﯽ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺳﻠﻄﺎﻧﯽ ﺳﮯ ﮐﯿﺎ ﻭﺍﺳﻄﮧ؟ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮباﺯﻭ ﺍﺏ ﺷﻞ ﮨﻮﮔﺌﮯ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﯼ ﺗﻠﻮﺍﺭیں زنگ آلود‘ ﺍﺏ ﮨﻢ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﺁﻗﺎﮨﯿﮟ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺗﻢ ﺳﺐ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﻏﻼﻡ ﮨﻮ۔ ﺩﯾﮑﮭﻮ ! ﮨﻢ ﻧﮯ ﺳﺮ ﺳﮯ ﭘﺎﺅﮞ ﺗﮏ ﮐﯿﺴﺎ ﺗﻤﮩﯿﮟ ﺍﭘﻨﯽ ﻏﻼﻣﯽ ﮐﮯ ﺳﺎﻧﭽﮯ ﻣﯿﮟ ﮈﮬﺎﻻ ﮨﮯ‘ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﺍ لباﺱ ﭘﮩﻦ ﮐﺮ ﺍﻭﺭ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﯼ ﺯﺑﺎﻥ ﺑﻮﻝ ﮐﺮ ﺍﻭﺭ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﻃﻮﺭ ﻃﺮﯾﻘﮯ ﺍﺧﺘﯿﺎﺭ ﮐﺮﮐﮯ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﺳﺮﻓﺨﺮ ﺳﮯ ﺑﻠﻨﺪ ﮨﻮﺟﺎﺗﮯ ﮨﯿﮟ ‘ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﭼﮭﻮﭨﮯ ﭼﮭﻮﭨﮯ ﻣﻌﺼﻮﻡ ﺑﭽﮯ ﺟﺐ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﺍ ﻗﻮﻣﯽ ﻧﺸﺎﻥ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻣﺬﮨﺒﯽ ﺷﻌﺎﺭ ﭨﺎﺋﯽ ﻟﮕﺎ ﮐﺮ ﺍﺳﮑﻮﻝ ﺟﺎﺗﮯ ﮨﯿﮟ ﺗﻮ ﺍﺱ ﻟﺒﺎﺱ ﮐﻮ ﺩﯾﮑﮫﮐﺮ ﮐﯿﺴﺎ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﺍ ﺩﻝ ﺧﻮﺵ ﮨﻮﺗﺎ ﮨﮯ ؟ ﮨﻢ ﺑﮯ ﻭﻗﻮﻑ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ تھے‘ ﮨﻢ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﺩﻝ ﻭﺩﻣﺎﻍ ﮐﻮ ﺍﭘﻨﺎ ﻏﻼﻡ ﺑﻨﺎ ﭼﮑﮯ تھے‘ ﺍﺏ ﺗﻢ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﯼ ﺁﻧﮑﮭﻮﮞ ﺳﮯ ﺩﯾﮑﮭﺘﮯ ﮨﻮ‘ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﮐﺎﻧﻮﮞ ﺳﮯ ﺳﻨﺘﮯ ﮨﻮ ﺍﻭﺭ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﺩﻣﺎﻍ ﺳﮯ ﺳﻮﭼﺘﮯ ﮨﻮ‘ اﺏ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﻭﺟﻮﺩ ﻣﯿﮟ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﺍ ﺍﭘﻨﺎ ﮐﭽﮫ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ۔ ﺍﺏ ﺗﻢ ھﺮﺷﻌﺒﮧ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﯽ ﻣﯿﮟ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﻣﺤﺘﺎﺝ ﮨﻮ‘ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﮔﮭﺮﻭﮞ ﻣﯿﮟ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﻃﻮﺭ ﻃﺮﯾﻘﮯ ﮨﯿﮟ‘ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﺩﻣﺎﻏﻮﮞ ﻣﯿﮟ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﺍﻓﮑﺎﺭ ﮨﯿﮟ‘ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﺍﺳﮑﻮﻟﻮﮞ اﻭﺭ ﮐﺎﻟﺠﻮﮞ ﻣﯿﮟ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﺍ ﻣﺮﺗﺐ ﮐﯿﺎ ﮨﻮﺍ ﻧﺼﺎﺏ ﮨﮯ‘ تمھاﺭﮮ ﺑﺎﺯﺍﺭﻭﮞ ﻣﯿﮟ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﺍ ﺳﺎﻣﺎﻥ ﮨﮯ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﯼ ﺟﯿﺒﻮﮞ ﻣﯿﮟ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﺍ ﺳﮑﮧ ﮨﮯ‘ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﺳﮑﮯ ﮐﻮ ﮨﻢ ﭘﮩﻠﮯ ﻣﭩﯽ ﮐﺮ ﭼﮑﮯ ﮨﯿﮟ ﺗﻢ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﺣﮑﻢ ﺳﮯ ﮐﯿﺴﮯ ﺳﺮﺗﺎﺑﯽﮐﺮ ﺳﮑﺘﮯ ﮨﻮ؟ ﺗﻢ ﺍﺭﺑﻮﮞ ﺍﻭﺭ ﮐﮭﺮﺑﻮﮞ ﺭﻭﭘﮯ ﮐﮯ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮﻗﺮﺽﺩﺍﺭ ﮨﻮ‘ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﯼ ﻣﻌﯿﺸﺖ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﻗﺒﻀﮯ ﻣﯿﮟ ﮨﮯ‘ تمھاﺭﯼ ﻣﻨﮉﯾﺎﮞ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﺭﺣﻢ ﻭﮐﺮﻡ ﭘﺮ ﮨﯿﮟ ﺍﻭﺭﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﺳﺎﺭﮮ ﺗﺠﺎﺭﺗﯽ ﺍﺩﺍﺭﮮ ﺻﺒﺢ ﺍﭨﮭﺘﮯ ﮨﯽ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﺳﮑﮯ ﮐﻮ ﺳﻼﻡ ﮐﺮﺗﮯ ﮨﯿﮟ‘ ﺗﻤﮩﯿﮟ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﺟﻮﺍﻧﻮﮞ ﭘﺮ ﺑﮍﺍ ناﺯ ﺗﮭﺎ ‘ ﺗﻢ ﮐﮩﺘﮯ ﺗﮭﮯ ”ﺫﺭﺍ ﻧﻢ ﮨﻮ ﺗﻮ ﯾﮧ ﻣﭩﯽ ﺑﮍﯼ ﺯﺭﺧﯿﺰ ﮨﮯ ﺳﺎﻗﯽ“ ﺗﻮ ﺳﻨﻮ! ﺍﺱ ﺯﺭ ﺧﯿﺰ ﺯﻣﯿﻦ ﮐﻮ ﮨﻢ ﻧﮯ ھﯿﺮﻭﺋﻦ ﺑﮭﺮﮮ ﺳﮕﺮﯾﭧ‘ ﺷﮩﻮﺕ ﺍﻧﮕﯿﺰ ﺗﺼﻮﯾﺮﻭﮞ ‘ ﮨﯿﺠﺎﻥ ﺧﯿﺰ ﺯﻧﺎ ﮐﮯ ﻣﻨﺎﻇﺮ ﺳﮯ ﻟﺒﺮﯾﺰ ﻓﻠﻤﯿﮟ ﺍﻭﺭ ﮨﻮﺱ زﺭ ﮐﺎ ﺁﺏِ ﺷﻮﺭ ﺷﺎﻣﻞ ﮐﺮﮐﮯ ﺑﻨﺠﺮ ﮐﺮﺩﯾﺎ ﮨﮯ۔ تمھیں اﭘﻨﯽ ﺍﻓﻮﺍﺝ ﭘﺮ ﺑﮭﯽ ﺑﮍﺍ ﮔﮭﻤﻨﮉ ﺗﮭﺎ‘ ﺍﺏ ﺟﺎﺅ! ﺍﭘﻨﯽ ﻓﻮﺝ ﮐﮯ ﺍﺳﻠﺤﮧ ﺧﺎﻧﻮﮞ ﮐﻮ ﺩﯾﮑﮭﻮ‘ ﺍﮔﺮ ﮨﻢ ﮨﺎﺗﮫ ﺭﻭﮎ ﻟﯿﮟ ﺗﻮ تمھاﺭﺍ ﺳﺎﺭﺍ ﻧﻈﺎﻡ ﺩﺭﮨﻢ ﺑﺮﮨﻢ ﮨﻮﺟﺎﺋﮯ‘ ﺍﺏ ﺗﻢ ﺑﻐﯿﺮ ﮨﻢ ﺳﮯ ﺍﺟﺎﺯﺕ ﻟﺌﮯ ﮐﺴﯽ ﭘﺮ ﻓﻮﺝ ﮐﺸﯽ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﮐﺮﺳﮑﺘﮯ۔ بوﺳﻨﯿﺎ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻋﺮﺍﻕ ﮐﮯ ﺣﺸﺮ ﮐﻮ ﮨﻤﯿﺸﮧ ﯾﺎﺩ ﺭﮐﮭﻨﺎ۔ ﺟﺎﺅ ! ﺍﺏ ﻋﺎﻓﯿﺖ ﺍﺳﯽ ﻣﯿﮟ ﮨﮯ ﮐﮧ ﺟﻮ ﻃﺮﺯ ﺣﯿﺎﺕ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻃﺮﺯ ﺣﮑﻮﻣﺖ ﮨﻢ ﻧﮯ ﺗﻤﮩﯿﮟ ﺳﮑﮭﺎﯾﺎ ﮨﮯ‘ ﺍﺱ ﺳﮯ ﺳﺮﻣﻮ ﺍﻧﺤﺮﺍﻑ ﻧﮧ ﮐﺮﻧﺎ‘ ﺧﺒﺮ ﺩﺍﺭ ! ﮨﻤﺎﺭﯼ ﻏﻼﻣﯽ ﺳﮯ نکلنے ﮐﯽ ﮐﻮﺷﺶ ﻧﮧ ﮐﺮﻧﺎ ﺍﻭﺭ ﮨﻤﯿﮟ ﺍﻣﯿﺪ ﺑﮭﯽ ﯾﮩﯽ ھﮯ ﮐﮧ ﺗﻢ ﺑﺮﺳﻮﮞ ﺗﮏ ﺍﯾﺴﺎ ﻧﮧ ﮐﺮ ﺳﮑﻮ ﮔﮯ‘ ﮐﯿﻮﻧﮑﮧ ﺟﺘﻨﮯ ﺍﺱ ﮐﻮﺷﺶ ﮐﮯ ﻣﺤﺮﮐﺎﺕ ﮨﻮﺳﮑﺘﮯ ﺗﮭﮯ ﯾﻌﻨﯽ اﯾﻤﺎﻥ ﮐﯽ ﭘﺨﺘﮕﯽ ‘ ﺟﻮﺵِ ﺟﮩﺎﺩ‘ ﺑﺎﻟﻎ ﻧﻈﺮﯼ ‘ ﻏﯿﺮﺕ ﺩﯾﻦ ﻭﮦ ﺳﺐ ﮨﻢ ﻧﮯ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﺩﺍﻧﺸﻮﺭﻭﮞ‘ ﻣﻔﮑﺮﻭﮞ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻋﺎﻟﻤﻮﮞ ﺳﮯ ﺩﻧﯿﺎ ﮐﯽ ﭼﻨﺪ ﺁﺳﺎﺋﺸﯽ ﭼﯿﺰﯾﮟ ﺩﮮ ﮐﺮ ﺧﺮﯾﺪ ﻟﺌﮯ ﮨﯿﮟ۔ ﮨﻢ ﻧﮯ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﯼ ﻋﻮﺭﺗﻮﮞ ﮐﻮ ﭨﯽ ﻭﯼ ﮐﮯ ﺫﺭﯾﻌﮯ ﺑﮯ ﺣﯿﺎﺋﯽ ﮐﯽ ﺗﺮﻏﯿﺐ ﺩﮮ ﮐﺮ‘ ﺳﻨﮕﮭﺎﺭ ﻭ ﺁﺭﺍﺋﺶ ﺣﺴﻦ ﮐﺎ ﺑﮩﺘﺮﯾﻦ ﺳﺎﻣﺎﻥ ﺩﮮ ﮐﺮ ﺍﻥ ﮐﯽ ﭼﺎﺩﺭ اﺗﺮ ﻭﺍﺩﯼ ﮨﮯ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﻣﺮﺩﻭﮞ ﮐﻮ ﻋﺮﯾﺎﮞ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻓﺤﺶ ﻓﻠﻤﯿﮟ ﺩﮐﮭﺎ ﮐﺮ ﺍﻥ ﮐﯽ ﻣﺮﺩﺍﻧﮕﯽ ﮐﯽ ﺟﮍ ﮐﺎﭦ ﺩﯼ ﮨﮯ۔ ﺍﺏ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﯾﮩﺎﮞ ﮐﻮﺋﯽ ﺧﺎﻟﺪ‘ ﮐﻮﺋﯽ ﻃﺎﺭﻕ‘ ﮐﻮﺋﯽ ﺻﻼﺡ ﺍﻟﺪﯾﻦ ﺍﻭﺭ ﮐﻮﺋﯽ ﭨﯿﭙﻮ ﭘﯿﺪﺍ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ھﻮﺳﮑﺘﺎ۔ اﻭﺭ ﺳﻨﻮ ! ﮨﻢ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﻥ ﻓﺮﺍﻣﻮﺵ ﻧﮩﯿﮟ ﮨﯿﮟ‘ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﯼ ﻗﻮﻡ ﮐﮯ ﮐﭽﮫ ﺍﺣﺴﺎﻥ ﺑﮭﯽ ﮨﻢ ﭘﺮ ﮨﯿﮟ‘ ﺧﺎﺹ ﻃﻮﺭ ﭘﺮﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﻋﻠﻤﺄ ﮐﮯ‘ ﺍﻧﮩﻮﮞ ﻧﮯ ﺍﭘﻨﯽﻣﺴﺠﺪﻭﮞ ﺍﻭﺭﻣﺪﺭﺳﻮﮞ ﻣﯿﮟ ﺑﯿﭩﮫ ﮐﺮ ﺍﯾﮏ ﺩﻭﺳﺮﮮ ﮐﯽ ﺗﮑﻔﯿﺮ ﮐﺮﮐﮯﺁﭘﺲ ﻣﯿﮟ ﻟﮍ ﻟﮍ ﮐﺮ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﯼ ﺗﮩﺬﯾﺐ ﻭﺍﻓﮑﺎﺭ ﮐﮯ ﻟﺌﮯ ﺭﺍﺳﺘﮧ ﺻﺎﻑ ﮐﯿﺎ ‘ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﺩﺍﻧﺸﻮﺭﻭﮞ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻣﻔﮑﺮﻭﮞ ﻧﮯ ترﻗﯽ ﯾﺎﻓﺘﮧ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻣﺎﮈﺭﻥ ﮐﮩﻼﻧﮯ ﮐﮯ ﺷﻮﻕ ﻣﯿﮟ ﻣﻠﺤﺪ اﻭﺭ ﺯﻧﺪﯾﻖ ﺑﻦ ﮐﺮ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﻓﻠﺴﻔﮯ ﮐﯽ ﺍﺷﺎﻋﺖ ﮐﯽ‘ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﯼ ﺗﻌﻠﯿﻢ ﮔﺎﮨﻮﮞ ﻧﮯ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﺍ ﻧﺼﺎﺏ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﻧﻮﺟﻮﺍﻧﻮﮞ ﮐﮯ ﺩﻝ ﻭﺩﻣﺎﻍ ﻣﯿﮟ ﮨﻢ ﺳﮯ ﺑﮩﺘﺮ ﻃﺮﯾﻘﮯ ﺳﮯ ﺍﺗﺎﺭ ﮐﺮ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﻣﺬﮨﺐ ﺳﮯ ﺑﻐﺎﻭﺕ ﭘﺮ ﺍﮐﺴﺎﯾﺎ‘ تمھارے ﺻﺎﺣﺒﺎﻥ ﺍﻗﺘﺪﺍﺭ ﺍﭘﻨﮯ ﺳﺎﺭﮮ ﻭﺳﺎﺋﻞ ﺗﻤﮩﯿﮟ ﺑﮯ ﺣﯿﺎﺀ‘ ﺑﮯﻏﯿﺮﺕ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺑﮯ ﺩﯾﻦ‘ ﺑﻨﯿﺎﺩ ﭘﺮﺳﺖ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺩﮨﺸﺖ ﮔﺮﺩ ﺑﻨﺎﻧﮯ ﮐﮯ ﻟﺌﮯ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﮨﯽ ﺍﺷﺎﺭﻭﮞ ﭘﺮ ﺍﺳﺘﻌﻤﺎﻝ ﮐﺮﺗﮯ ﺁﺋﮯ ﮨﯿﮟ‘ ھﻢ ﺍﻥ ﺳﺐ ﮐﮯ ﺷﮑﺮ ﮔﺰﺍﺭ ﮨﯿﮟ ‘ ﺗﻤﮩﺎﺭﮮ ﻣﺬﮨﺐ ﻧﮯ ﮐﯿﺴﯽ ﮐﯿﺴﯽ ﭘﺎﺑﻨﺪﯾﺎﮞ ﺗﻢ ﭘﺮ ﻟﮕﺎﺭﮐﮭﯽ ﺗﮭﯽ۔ ﯾﮧ ﺣﺮﺍﻡ ﻭﮦ ﺣﺮﺍﻡ ‘ ﯾﮧ ﺟﺎﺋﺰ ﻭﮦ ﻧﺎﺟﺎﺋﺰ ‘ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﯽ ﮐﯽ ﺭﺍﮨﯿﮟ ﺗﻢ ﭘﺮ تنگ ﮐﺮﺩﯼ ﺗﮭﯿﮟ‘ ﮨﻢ ﻧﮯ ﺗﻤﮩﯿﮟ ﺯﻧﺪﮔﯽ ﮐﺎ ﺍﯾﮏ ﻧﯿﺎ رﺍﺳﺘﮧ ﺩﮐﮭﺎﯾﺎ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺗﻤﮩﯿﮟ ﺣﺮﺍﻡ ﺣﻼﻝ ﮐﯽ ﻗﯿﺪ ﺳﮯ آﺯﺍﺩ ﮐﺮﺩﯾﺎ۔ ﮐﯿﺎ ﺗﻢ ﺍﺱ ﭘﺮ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﺍ ﺷﮑﺮیہ ﺍﺩﺍ ﻧﮧ ﮐﺮﻭ گے اے ﻣﺴﻠﻤﺎﻧﻮ ! ﺍﮮ ﮨﻤﺎﺭﮮ ﻏﻼﻣﻮ ! ﮐﯿﺎ ﺗﻢ ﺳﻨﺘﮯ ﮨﻮ ؟ (ﻣﺄﺧﻮﺫ: ﻣﻐﺮﺑﯽ ﺛﻘﺎﻓﺖ ﺍﻭﺭ ﻣﻠﺤﺪﺍﻧﮧ ﺍﻓﮑﺎﺭ ﮐﺎ نفوﺫ ﺍﻭﺭ ﺍﺱ ﮐﮯ ﺍﺳﺒﺎﺏ) https://mislami.com/faryad-alo-mian-nadwi/
  25. Definitely as its on fear of Alah ta'ala that makes a person be just behind closed doors
  26. "In the 3 and half pages of Surah Talaq, Allah commands 5 times that we fear him. The only thing that can bring stability in a marriage is the fear of Allah." (Mufti Ismail Moosa)
  27. الْغَفَّارُ الْغَفُورُ الْغَفَّارُ and الْغَفُورُ will be discussed together as they have similar meanings and are used interchangeably. Translation الْغَفَّارُ is translated as The All-Forgiving and The Absolver. He is that Being Who hides the sins of His servants and drapes them with His compassion. Therefore there is the concept of covering/hiding in this word. Maghfirat comes from Ghaffaar and insha-allah Allah ta’ala will grant us Maghfirat in the Aakhirah, aameen. الْغَفُورُ is translated as The Forgiver and Hider of Faults. Allah ta’ala always has this Sifat of forgiveness and all are Mohtaaj (dependent) upon His Rahmah and forgiveness. So this is essentially connected to His Sifat of Rahmaan and Raheem as it is part of Rahmah to be forgiving, but Ghaffaar is more specific to the concept of forgiveness and hiding sins. The whole concept of hiding is that you hide things which are unclean and disliked so by hiding sins Allah ta’ala purifies and cleans a person. In the Qur’an الْغَفُورُ is mentioned 5 times in the Qur’an and الْغَفَّارُ is mentioned 91 times which is a lot compared to other names we have discussed so far. One of the ways Allah ta’ala mentions His Sifat of Maghfirat in the Qur’an is: وَإِنِّي لَغَفَّارٌ لِمَنْ تَابَ وَآمَنَ وَعَمِلَ صَالِحًا ثُمَّ اهْتَدَىٰ And lo! verily I am Forgiving toward him who repenteth and believeth and doeth good, and afterward walketh aright. [Surah Taha: 82] This verse shows that there are conditions attached to Allah ta’ala’s forgiveness. It is for that person who has the following traits: · • One who repents (does Tawbah) · • One who has Imaan – Imaan has different levels which means one should always be working on it · • One who does good deeds – the sign of true Tawbah is that the person is engaged in doing good deeds to make up for the life of sin and mistakes. Then that person will be guided. This is a cycle or cause and effect where if the person has these three traits then that person will find Hidaayah. The word اهْتَدَىٰ has the meaning of putting effort into something so to seek and struggle for it. In Surah Nisaa’ (verse 110) Allah ta’ala says, وَمَنْ يَعْمَلْ سُوءًا أَوْ يَظْلِمْ نَفْسَهُ ثُمَّ يَسْتَغْفِرِ اللَّهَ يَجِدِ اللَّهَ غَفُورًا رَحِيمًا If anyone does evil or wrongs his own soul and then seeks Allah's forgiveness, he will find Allah Forgiving, Merciful. So forgiveness is for the one who, after he does a bad deed or does Dhulm upon himself, he seeks forgiveness from Allah ta’ala. We often see Ghafoor and Raheem used together as Allah ta’ala’s Rahmah is vast and covers a lot of things and a lot types of people and part of that Rahmah is that He is forgiving. Allah ta’ala’s Rahmah comes automatically by default and His forgiveness, though it is there, to get it, some conditions have to be met and the main condition is to seek it, ثُمَّ يَسْتَغْفِرِ اللَّهَ is from the same root word but means to seek Allah ta’ala’s forgiveness and then Allah ta’ala will forgive. Differences between Istighfaar & Tawbah These two words are used interchangeably in English and mean more or less the same but there is slight difference. Istighfaar is to seek forgiveness for previous sins i.e. to say sorry and cover up past sins. Tawbah literally means to turn in a certain direction and decide not to go back. Therefore Tawbah includes the intention to not commit the sin again i.e. to make a resolution not to sin again and to make a promise to Allah ta’ala and to yourself not to sin again and so it is more for the future. Differences between الْغَفَّارُ and الْغَفُورُ These two words have almost the same meaning however Scholars have mentioned a slight difference. الْغَفَّارُ is that Being (Allah ta’ala) Who after true Tawbah forgives the sin and removes the signs of the sin i.e. covers up. Allah ta’ala covers up and wipes it away to such an extent that He makes the person forget and it is as if the person did not commit that sin. It is mentioned in Hadith, التَّائِبُ مِنَ الذَّنْبِ كَمَنْ لاَ ذَنْبَ لَهُ ‘The one who repents from sin is like one who did not sin.’ [Ibn Majah] This is for sins other than sins pertaining to other people i.e. Gheebat, having hatred in the heart for someone and being revengeful etc. This makes a person Mahroom (Deprived) of Allah ta’ala’s forgiveness. الْغَفُورُ – Allah ta’ala makes even the angels forget about the sin of that person. Sharing in these Sifaat Allah ta’ala hides our sins by being Ghafoor and we should also hide the faults and sins of other people. Allah ta’ala loves those who seek Forgiveness There are many Hadith which mention that Allah ta’ala loves those who seek forgiveness. In a beautiful Hadith Qudsi Allah ta’ala says that the crying of a sinner is more beloved to Him than the Tasbeeh of one who does His Tasbeeh. In another Hadith Qudsi is mentioned, “Allah Ta’ala says, ‘O Son of Adam, so long as you call upon Me and have hope in Me, I shall forgive you for whatever you have done and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, if your sins were to reach the clouds of the sky and then you were to ask forgiveness of Me, I would forgive you and I shall not mind. O son of Adam, if you were to come to Me with an earthful of sins and were you then to face Me, without having ascribing any partner to Me, I would grant you an earthful of forgiveness” [Tirmidhi] Therefore this is the Kafiyyat (Condition) a person has to be in to attain the Rahmah and the Maghfirat of Allah ta’ala i.e. to feel remorse, shame etc. In Surah Najm (verse 32) Allah ta’ala say, الَّذِينَ يَجْتَنِبُونَ كَبَائِرَ الْإِثْمِ وَالْفَوَاحِشَ إِلَّا اللَّمَمَ ۚ إِنَّ رَبَّكَ وَاسِعُ الْمَغْفِرَةِ To those who avoid the major sins and shameful deeds and are guilty of only small offence, surely for them your Rabb will have abundant forgiveness. Allah ta’ala is not bound It is important to understand this point that though a person has this Kafiyyat, Allah ta’ala does not have to forgive. He is not compelled to forgive by the person’s asking for forgiveness. His being Ghafoor does not mean He is bound by it but because Allah ta’ala is Ghaalib, Azeez, He will forgive people. He only needs an excuse and a person’s asking for forgiveness is an excuse for Allah ta’ala to forgive so there is no price to His Rahmah. We do not know which good deed we might do which will get us Maghfirat and that is why we should not regard any good deed as small. As mentioned in hadith, even half a date in Sadaqah should not be regarded as small. Anything done with the right intention and accepted by Allah ta’ala can wipe away a lot. Forgiveness of Minor Sins As for the minor sins, they get forgiven through good deeds like Wudhu or when a bad deed is followed up by a good deed. “When a Muslim or a believer washes his face in ablution, then every sin that he committed with his eyes will be washed away with the last drop of water. When he washes his hands, then every sin that he committed with his hands will be washed away with the last drop of water. When he washes his feet, then every sin that he committed with his feet will be washed away with the last drop of water, until he emerges purified from sin.” [Muslim] “Be conscious of Allah wherever you are. Follow the bad deed with a good one to erase it, and engage others with beautiful character.” [Tirmidhi] Istighfaar – Seeking Forgiveness from Allah ta’ala The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “By Allah, I seek forgiveness from Allah and I repent to him more than seventy times in a day.” [Bukhari] In another Hadith it is mentioned 100 times and He did not need to but he still did to attain the beauty and the Tajalli and Noor of this trait. In Surah Nasr Allah ta’ala says, فَسَبِّحْ بِحَمْدِ رَبِّكَ وَاسْتَغْفِرْهُ ۚ إِنَّهُ كَانَ تَوَّابًا So glorify your Rabb with His praises, and pray for His forgiveness: surely He is ever ready to accept repentance. This was addressing the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam meaning when you are free from your mission as a Prophet, then praise Allah ta’ala and seek His forgiveness. Seeking forgiveness is not just when we do something wrong. The Sunnah of the Prophet sallalaahu ‘alayhi wasallam is to seek forgiveness after even good deeds (and we find it hard after doing bad deeds), why? He realized that whatever good deeds we do are not according to the Shaan of Allah ta’ala. There will always be flaws and shortcomings. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam recited three times استغفر الله and thereafter the following du’a after Salaah; ‏اللهم أنت السلام، ومنك السلام، تباركت يا ياذا الجلال والإكرام‏ Therefore asking Allah ta’ala to forgive all shortcomings and any Riyaa that may have been felt. Other Hadith, “Glad tidings (tuba) for the one who, (on the day of judgement), finds an abundance of Istighfar in his book of deeds.” [Ibn Majah] “By Him in whose hand is my soul, if you did not sin Allah would replace you with people who would sin and they would seek the forgiveness of Allah and He would forgive them.” [Muslim] Allah ta’ala does not need our good deeds and He does not need our repentance but when we do Tawbah it invokes the Rahmah of Allah ta’ala and it brings humility in our lives. It is part of human Fitrah that we should want to beg for Allah ta’ala’s forgiveness for sins and for not fulfilling what we should have done. This is the higher level the Prophets had i.e. that we did not the rights of a deed and is full of shortcomings. It is the Karam of Allah ta’ala that He accepts Tawbah. Benefits of Istighfaar Glad tidings have been promised for who does Istighfaar in abundance as mentioned in the Hadith above. In another Hadith the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam said, "If anyone constantly seeks pardon (from Allah), Allah will appoint for him a way out of every distress and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide sustenance for him from where he expects not." [Abu Dawood] There is a story in the Qur’an of a people whom Allah ta’ala gave so much but they lost it all due to their ingratitude and not repenting. Allah ta’ala would have put Barakah in their wealth, given water, crops etc. had they repented. Incident in the time of Hasan Basri (رحمه الله) It is related in Tafsir al Qurtubi that Hasan al-Basri (r.a) was once seated. A man came saying ” O Master, I’m very sinful do tell me an act which I can do to be forgiven”. Hasan al-Basri (r.a) replied, “Go and do Istighfar”. Second person came and said, ” O Master, for many days rains have stopped and there is drought. Tell me an action through which Allah (s.w.t) will send down rain to us”. Hasan al-Basri (r.a) replied, “Go and do Istighfar”. Third person came and said, ” I am under a lot of debt. I am working, but please make dua that Allah (s.w.t) give me wealth so I can be saved from debts”. Hasan al-Basri (r.a) replied, “Go and do Istighfar to Allah” Fourth person came and said, “It is a wish of mine that Allah (s.w.t) give me an offspring. So please make dua that Allah (s.w.t) gives me pious offspring”. Hasan al-Basri (r.a) replied, “Go and do Istighfar” Fifth person came and said, “I have an orchard please make dua that it gives more fruits, so that the return will be more.” Hasan al-Basri (r.a) replied, ” Go and do Istighfar” Sixth person came and said, “If I was to get water spring in my house, I will be so pleased”. Shaykh Hasan replied, “Go and do Istighfar”. Shaykh Hasan al-Basri’s (r.a) disciple, Ibn Sabih (r.a) who was sitting close, was very surprised thinking, “Why is it that Shaykh Hasan al-Basri (r.a) is giving the same solution of Istighfar to whoever comes to him”? So Ibn Sabih (r.a) eventually asked “Why are you giving one response for all the problems”? On hearing this Shaykh Hasan al-Basri (r.a) recited what Allah (s.w.t) said in Qur’an: فَقُلْتُ اسْتَغْفِرُوا رَبَّكُمْ إِنَّهُ كَانَ غَفَّارًا - saying: "Seek forgiveness of your Rabb, He is ever ready to forgive you. يُرْسِلِ السَّمَاءَ عَلَيْكُمْ مِدْرَارًا - He will send abundant rain for you from heaven وَيُمْدِدْكُمْ بِأَمْوَالٍ وَبَنِينَ وَيَجْعَلْ لَكُمْ جَنَّاتٍ وَيَجْعَلْ لَكُمْ أَنْهَارًا - help you with wealth and sons, and provide you with gardens and the flowing rivers [Surah Nooh: 10-12] Istighfaar is a way of having difficulties removed, widens every constriction and provides Rizq from sources we cannot imagine. It is the antidote to all problems and not just for when we sin. Therefore we should turn to Allah ta’ala in repentance when we have any problems. Unfortunately when we say to people to turn to Istighfaar in difficulty they say they haven’t done anything wrong but actually all of Bani Adam are sinners as we all sin to some extent but the best of the sinners are those who repent. كُلُّ بَنِي آدَمَ خَطَّاءٌ وَخَيْرُ الْخَطَّائِينَ التَّوَّابُونَ We should therefore generally do Istighfaar and think about our sins and repent and another benefit of Istighfaar is that it leads you to do Muhaasabah. We won’t need anyone telling us what mistakes we are making as consciously or subconsciously our mind will be working on where you need to make Istighfaar and then that leads you to making changes in your life. We may not act to make these changes but at least we will become aware. To say it with the Heart It is very important to do Istighfaar conscientiously and with feeling for full benefit and not just roll it off the tongue (which will still bring some benefit). Du’a in Hadith There are many Du’a for Istighfaar and many compilations by Scholars. One such very good compilation is by Mufti Abdur Rahmaan Mangera available here: http://www.whitethreadpress.com/prayers-for-forgiveness/ Another compilation by Shaykh Muhammad Saleem Dhorat, PDF available here: https://www.at-tazkiyah.com/publications/booklet_eng/istighfar14.pdf Look at these Du’a to realize how to make Istighfaar and even if you do not use the same wording, to have that feeling in the heart is important. There is a lot of inspiration in these Du’a. One very comprehensive Du’a is: أستغفر الله ربي من كل ذنب وأتوب إليه Forgiveness for Each Other For Istighfaar to be proper the conditions mentioned before are important and if it involves other people i.e. you have hurt someone, then ask for forgiveness and if it is felt that it will make matters worse then make Du’a for them. We should also be forgiving toward others. We want Allah ta’ala to forgive us so we should be forgiving to others. Levels of Forgiving There are different levels of forgiving: · Forgiving someone from the tongue: saying it with words but having negative feelings in the heart. · Forgiving from the heart but when the occasion arises you may remind the person i.e. saying something like, “You still haven’t changed, you are still doing this.” · Forgiving from the heart and not bringing up the hurt that the person caused even though you may think of it now and then. · The highest level is Ihsaan, the level of the Ambiyaa. You forgive and you treat them better than before. Counsel To be people who are forgiving and asking Allah ta’ala to forgive yourself and others. Sometimes it is easier to ask other for forgiveness than to forgive others from the heart especially if you have been hurt badly by someone close to you. Therefore make Du’a to be purified of all negative feelings.
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