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  2. About lowering the gaze Ibn al-Qayyim (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Looking generates thoughts, then thoughts generate ideas, then ideas generate desire, then desires generate will, then the will grows strong and resolves to do the deed, and then the deed will inevitably take place unless there is something to prevent it. Concerning this it was said that patience in lowering the gaze is easier than patience in bearing the pain that comes afterwards. End quote. Al-Jawaab al-Kaafi (p. 106).
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  5. Bleeding for more than ten days Q: 1. If a woman's menses exceeds ten days, then should she perform salaah? 2. What will the ruling be in the case where a woman bleeds for more than the days of her usual pattern of menses, but the blood then stops before ten days? 3. If she bleeds for more than ten days, can she have relations with her husband? A: 1,2. It should be borne in mind that the minimum period of haidh is three days and the maximum period is ten days. If a woman has a set pattern e.g. seven days, and the blood continued for more than ten days, then she will regard seven days as her haidh and the remaining days as istihaazah. Hence, she will have to make qadha for all the salaah which she missed after seven days as these days are the days of istihaazah. However, if the blood continued for more than the days of her set pattern, but stopped within ten days, then she will regard the entire period as haidh and her haidh pattern will change (e.g. a woman's haidh pattern for the previous month was seven days, but the following month, she bled for nine days, the entire nine days will be regarded as her haidh and her haidh pattern will change to nine days). 3. After the ten days pass, a woman will be able to ascertain that the bleeding over her haidh pattern is istihaazah. Hence, the laws of istihaazah will apply to her. A woman in the state of istihaazah will be treated as a woman in the state of purity. Thus, she will make wudhu and perform her salaah as normal. It will be permissible for her to touch and recite the Qur'an Shareef. Similarly, it will be permissible for her to have relations with her husband. And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best. أقل الحيض ثلاثة أيام وثلاث ليال في ظاهر الرواية هكذا في التبيين وأكثره عشرة أيام ولياليها كذا في الخلاصة (الفتاوى الهندية 1/36) وإن جاوز العشرة ففي المبتدأة حيضها عشرة أيام وفي المعتادة معروفتها في الحيض حيض والطهر طهر هكذا في السراج الوهاج (الفتاوى الهندية 1/37) لو رأت الدم بعد أكثر الحيض والنفاس في أقل مدة الطهر فما رأت بعد الأكثر إن كانت مبتدأة وبعد العادة إن كانت معتادة استحاضة (الفتاوى الهندية 1/37) (ودم الاستحاضة) كالرعاف الدائم لا يمنع الصلاة ولا الصوم ولا الوطء كذا في الهداية (الفتاوى الهندية 1/38) فإن رأت بين طهرين تامين دما لا على عادتها بالزيادة أو النقصان أو بالتقدم والتأخر أو بهما معا انتقلت العادة إلى أيام دمها حقيقيا كان الدم أو حكميا هذا إذا لم يجاوز العشرة فإن جاوزها فمعروفتها حيض وما رأت على غيرها استحاضة فلا تنتقل العادة هكذا في محيط السرخسي (الفتاوى الهندية 1/39) Answered by: Mufti Zakaria Makada Checked & Approved: Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
  6. The Hadiths Cited by the Early Hanafi Fuqaha 12 Jan, 2020 Some people have the misunderstanding that the early Hanafī scholars whose books are in wide use today, like Shams al-A’immah al-Sarakhsī (d. 490 H), Malik al-‘Ulamā’ al-Kāsānī (d. 587 H) and Burhān al-Dīn al-Marghīnānī (d. 593), were unacquainted with hadīth. They base this on the absence of many hadīths quoted in their works in the available hadīth collections or their apparent weakness. These early scholars, however, took hadīths not only from the well-known collections, but also from the works of the earlier Hanafī ‘ulamā’, many of which have not reached us today. The narrations are found in these earlier works generally with their full chains of transmission. Hence, one may not dismiss the hadīths mentioned in al-Hidāyah, al-Mabsūt, al-Badā‘i’ etc. as baseless or forged merely on the grounds that they are not found in the available collections of hadīth. ‘Allāmah ‘Abd al-Rashīd al-Nu‘mānī (d. 1420 H) writes: That which our Fuqahā’ – may Allāh have mercy on them – cited of hadīths and narrations in their works without describing a sanad or a source, as al-Sarakhsī (d. 490 H) does in al-Mabsūt, al-Kāsānī (d. 587) in al-Badā’i‘ and al-Marghīnānī (d. 593 H) in al-Hidāyah, these are hadīths and narrations which they found in the books of our early Imāms like al-Imām al-A‘zam (d. 150) and his two students [Abū Yūsuf and Muhammad], Ibn al-Mubārak (d. 181 H), al-Hasan al-Lu‘lu’ī (d. 204 H), Ibn Shujā‘ al-Thaljī (d. 267 H), ‘Īsā ibn Abān (d. 221), al-Khassāf (d. 261 H), al-Tahāwī (d. 321 H), al-Karkhī (d. 340 H) and al-Jassās (d. 370 H) – may Allāh (Exalted is He) have mercy on them. Then those who sourced al-Hidāyah, al-Khulāsah and so on appeared, and they searched for these narrations in the records [of hadīths] compiled after [the year] 200 by the scholars of hadīth, and when they did not find [them] in them, they assessed them to be ‘strange’. Some hold a bad opinion about these Imāms of the Fuqahā’, and attribute to them little knowledge of hadīth, and far-removed are they from that! How many a suspended hadīth (ta‘līq) there is of al-Bukhārī in his Sahīh on which the like of Ibn Hajar said: ‘I did not find it’, so will that which is suspected of our Hanafī masters be suspected of al-Bukhārī?! Rather, al-Sarakhsī, al-Kāsānī and al-Marghīnānī relied in this subject on their Imāms who are recognised for [their] retention (hifz), trustworthiness (thiqah) and reliability (amānah), just as al-Baghawī relied in his Masābīh on the authors of the well-known collections. The Hāfiz of his time, Qāsim ibn Qutlūbughā (802 – 879 H), said: “The early ones from our [Hanafī] scholars – may Allāh have mercy on them – would dictate juristic rulings and their evidences from the prophetic hadīths with their chains, like Abū Yūsuf in Kitāb al-Kharāj and al-Amālī; Muhammad in Kitāb al-Asl and al-Siyar; and likewise al-Tahāwī, al-Khassāf, [al-Jassās] al-Rāzī, al-Karkhī except in the Mukhtasars. Then those who depended on the books of the early ones came and cited the hadīths in books without clarifying the chain or the source.” (Munyat al-Alma‘ī, p. 9) Had we wished, we would have cited many examples for you from the examples of these hadīths which those that sourced them assessed them to be ‘strange,’ while they are found in the book al-Āthār, for example, but space does not allow it.” (Al-Imām Ibn Mājah wa Kitābuhu l-Sunan, pp. 73-4) The hadīth master and faqīh, ‘Allāmah Qāsim ibn Qutlūbughā, compiled Munyat al-Alma‘ī as an index of hadīths which al-Zayla‘ī and/or Ibn Hajar al-‘Asqalānī could not locate in their respective works on sourcing the hadīths of al-Hidāyah, but which upon further inspection have been found to have a source. Here are a few examples: The author of al-Hidāyah quoted the hadīth, “When the sun deviates [from its midpoint], then offer the Jumu‘ah prayer with the people.” Hāfiz al-Zayla‘ī said: “Strange”, meaning he could not locate it. Hāfiz Qāsim ibn Qutlūbughā replied: “Rather, Ibn Sa‘d narrated it in al-Tabaqāt from the hadīth of Mus‘ab ibn ‘Umayr.” (Munyat al-Alma‘ī, p 31) The author of al-Hidāyah quoted the hadīth, “When you see anything of these horrors, take recourse to Allāh with supplication.” Hāfiz al-Zayla‘ī said: “Strange with this wording.” ‘Allāmah Qāsim replied: “Muhammad ibn al-Hasan narrated it in al-Asl from the mursal of al-Hasan [al-Basrī].” (Munyat al-Alma‘ī, p 32) The author of al-Hidāyah quoted the hadīth, “There is no marriage except with witnesses.” Hāfiz al-Zayla‘ī said: “Strange,” and Hāfiz Ibn Hajar al-‘Aqalānī said: “I have not seen it with this wording.” ‘Allāmah Qāsim replied: “Muhammad ibn al-Hasan mentioned it as what reached him, and al-Khatīb narrated it from the hadīth of ‘Alī.” (Munyat al-Alma‘ī, p 40, 60) The author of al-Hidāyah mentions that Sa‘īd ibn al-Musayyib narrated that the Messenger of Allāh (Allāh bless him and grant him peace) ordered the freeing of umm al-walads (female slaves who bore their masters’ children) and that they are not to be sold. Hāfiz Ibn Hajar said: “I did not find it.” ‘Allāmah Qāsim replied: “Muhammad ibn al-Hasan narrated it in al-Asl.” (Munyat al-Alma‘ī, p 61) It is mentioned in al-Hidāyah that ‘Alī (may Allāh be pleased with him) gave the decree that if a woman besides one’s wife is brought to him and he is informed that this woman is his wife and he has intercourse with her, then there is no punishment on him but he must give her dowry. Hāfiz Ibn Hajar said: “I did not find it.” ‘Allāmah Qāsim replied: “‘Abd al-Razzāq [al-San‘ānī] narrated it.” (Munyat al-Alma‘ī, p. 61) Amongst the reasons why some of the later muhaddithūn were unable to locate a hadīth is that the Fuqahā’ would at times narrate a (non-verbal) hadīth according to its implication and purport, and not in the exact words used by the narrator, as a result of which the muhaddithūn would mention that they could not locate it, although it is an established hadīth. One example is the statement of the author of al-Hidāyah: “The Messenger of Allāh (Allāh bless him and grant him peace) forbade tormenting animals.” Hāfiz Ibn Hajar said: “I did not find it.” ‘Allāmah Qāsim said in response: “The faqīh often mentions a hadīth according to [its] meaning, and al-Bukhārī narrated that the Prophet (Allāh bless him and grant him peace) forbade restraining animals.” (Munyat al-Alma‘ī, p. 61) It should be noted that the hadīths which al-Zayla‘ī and Ibn Hajar could not locate are a relatively small number. Most of the hadīths mentioned by the author of al-Hidāyah, which number in the hundreds, have been sourced in Nasb al-Rāyah and al-Dirāyah to primary hadīth references. Describing the rank of the author of al-Hidāyah in hadīth, Mawlānā Nu‘mānī wrote in a private letter to his student, Muftī ‘Abdul Mālik of Bangladesh: It is to be noticed that al-Laknawī counted the author of al-Hidāyah from the group that are strangers to the knowledge of hadīth, and that is incorrect. How [can this be so] when the author of al-Hidāyah compiled a list of his teachers [in hadīth] from which al-Qurashī quoted in al-Jawāhir al-Mudiyyah in many places, and I quoted them in the footnotes of al-Dirāsāt…There are many beneficial points in the biographies of the teachers of the author of al-Hidāyah in al-Jawāhir. There is the chain of the author of al-Hidāyah and a mention of his reading of the two Sahīhs, Jāmi‘ al-Tirmidhī, Sharh Ma‘ānī al-Āthār of al-Tahāwī, the Masānīd of al-Khassāf and other [hadīth collections] to his teachers. It is established that the author of al-Hidāyah only transmitted from the books of his predecessors from the muhaddithūn of the Hanafī Fuqahā’ as is clear from reading Munyat al-Alma‘ī. In al-Hidāyah there are hadīths from al-Asl of Imām Muhammad, and his Kitāb al-Āthār, and other books of the Imāms. [Some of] these books were not under the range of al-Zayla‘ī’s and Ibn Hajar’s reading.” (Al-Madkhal ilā ‘Ulūm al-Hadīth al-Sharīf, Markaz al-Da‘wat al-Islāmiyyah, p. 103) He wrote to him in a further letter explaining that this rule only applies to the early Hanafī Fuqahā’ and not the later ones: That which I mentioned regarding the author of al-Hidāyah only applies to him and other early Fuqahā’ who drew evidence from hadīths, like al-Sarakhsī and al-Kāsānī. The narrations they cite are not without basis. That which does not have a source from what they cite is from the category of some suspended narrations (ta‘līqāt) of Imām al-Bukhārī and some hadīths which Imām al-Tirmidhī alluded to with his statement, ‘And in the chapter is…’ which we do not find with a connected chain in the books of hadīths in circulation amongst us. This is only because many of the books of the early ones have been lost. That which I have said only applies to the early Fuqahā’ because only they quote from the books of their Imāms, and that becomes clear from reading Munyat al-Alma‘ī. I do not say this about the later ones.” (Al-Madkhal ilā ‘Ulūm al-Hadīth al-Sharīf, p. 104) Explaining ‘Allāmah Nu‘mānī’s statement that this rule should not be extended beyond the case under question, Muftī ‘Abd al-Mālik writes: The intent of our teacher – may Allāh (Exalted is He) have mercy on him – is two things: First, that a definite assessment of negation will not be made of that which is not found from their narrations because the great scholars who negated them [like Hāfiz al-Zayla‘ī and Hāfiz Ibn Hajar] were not free from rejoinders, so what about other than them? Second, these Fuqahā’ will not be accused of ignorance of hadīth or of laxity in quoting it, due only to some of what they cited not being found, because of the possibility of their existence in the books of the earlier ones which have not reached us… The Shaykh – may Allāh (Exalted is He) have mercy on him – does not intend to authenticate the suspended hadīths common in books of various sciences and disciplines of which no source for them is found due only to the aforementioned possibility, because that is not meant nor are they authentic. In the words of our teacher, Shaykh Muhammad ‘Awwāmah in a similar context: “We do not affirm anything except with knowledge. And we are cautious in negating.” (Al-Madkhal ilā ‘Ulūm al-Hadīth al-Sharīf, p. 104) Jalāl al-Dīn al-Suyūtī said: The hadīth which al-Rāfi‘ī cited, we did not find a sanad for it. Nor is it found in the books of hadīth available now. The late Huffāz say of the like of this, “It has no basis.” The scrupulous [of them] suffice with their statement, “We did not find it,” which is better. It has reached me that Hāfiz Ibn Hajar was asked about these hadīths which our Imāms and the Hanafī Imāms cite in Fiqh [works] drawing evidence from them and are not known in the books of hadīth, so he answered: “Many of the books of hadīth, or most of them, have been lost in the eastern lands due to civil wars. Perhaps those hadīths were transmitted in them and they have not reached us.” (Quoted in Al-Madkhal ilā ‘Ulūm al-Hadīth al-Sharīf, p. 93) Finally, Muftī ‘Abd al-Mālik mentions the following important point: It should be known that the presence of some weak hadīths or hadīths that do not have a basis in some books of Fiqh does not depreciate the value of that Fiqh, because the weakness of these specific evidences which some of the later Fuqahā’ cite does not necessitate the weakness of the rulings for which the evidences were cited, because there may be other strong evidences in which there is no weakness or defect. This is the reality which those of the people of knowledge know who have acquaintance with the books of the Imām of the madhhab and the books of his students and those below them from the luminaries of the madhhab who combined between the sciences of transmission and comprehension. This issue was explained adequately by our teacher, Shaykh Muhammad ‘Awwāmah, in his book which is deserving of being written in gold: Athar al-Hadīth al-Sharīf fi Khtilāf al-A’immat al-Fuqahā’ (pp. 141-51). Were it not for the lengthiness of his discussion I would have quoted it in its entirety due to its richness and value.” (Al-Madkhal ilā ‘Ulūm al-Hadīth al-Sharīf, p. 104-5) Darul Tahqiq Compiled by Mufti Zameelur Rahman
  7. Haidh pattern changing to ten days Q: A woman's haidh normally lasts for 7 days. However, last month, her haidh was for 10 days. 1. If she stopped bleeding after 7 days this month, is it permissible for her to have relations with her husband؟ 2. During haidh, what part of the wife's body can the husband take enjoyment from ? A: 1. Since her haidh pattern changed to ten days, she should refrain from having relations with her husband for the entire duration of ten days. 2. During haidh, it is permissible for the husband to take enjoyment from the wife's body from above the navel and below the knee. At the time of intimacy, the area between the navel till the knee (including the knee) must be covered. And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best. والعادة تثبت بمرة واحدة في الحيض والنفاس دما أو طهرا إن كانا صحيحين (ذخر المتأهلين صـ 25) لو انقطع دمها دون عادتها يكره قربانها وإن اغتسلت حتى تمضي عادتها وعليها أن تصلي وتصوم للاحتياط هكذا في التبيين (الفتاوى الهندية 1/39) وأما الحائض والنفساء فحكمهما مثل حكم الجنب إلا إنه لا يجب عليهما الصلاة حتى لا يجب القضاء عليهما بعد الطهارة ولا يباح لزوجهما قربانهما (تحفة الفقهاء 1/32) (وقربان ما تحت الإزار) أي ويمنع الحيض قربان زوجها ما تحت إزارها لقوله تعالى ولا تقربوهن حتى يطهرن وتحرم المباشرة ما بين السرة والركبة عند أبي حنيفة وأبي يوسف (تبيين الحقائق 1/57) ويحرم وطؤها ويكفر مستحله ويستمتع بها ما فوق الإزار (الاختيار 1/28) Answered by: Mufti Zakaria Makada Checked & Approved: Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)
  8. As-Salaam alaikum, Yes, Indeed...Zikrullah is a wide act... involving remembrance, invocation, memory, praise, recitation.. to always keep the heart engaged in the memory of Allah through the invocation of one of His Divine Names, a Qur'anic Verse, Istighfar, Salaat ala' Nabiy etc When performed with mindfulness, Zikrullah makes our heart to become receptive to the activity of the tongue and become awakened with Allah's Presence, as stated in a well-known Hadith:-- "My earth and My heavens do not embrace Me but the heart of My believing servant embraces Me." (quoted by al-Ghazali in his Ihya Ulum Din)... '''embrace Me'' here refers to the knowledge of Allah Ta'ala...
  9. الْجَلِيلُ Translation الْجَلِيلُ is translated as The Majestic and The Glorious. It has the meaning of being powerful and mighty. The traits of Allah ta’ala are divided into two: • Sifaat-e-Jalaali – The traits to do with domination, anger, strength, and there are only a few of these. • Sifaat-e-Jamaali – The traits that are to do with beauty, mercy etc. and there are more of these. Some Scholars say الْجَلِيلُ has both – similar to this is الْكَبِيرُ. Allah ta’ala is Majestic in His Dhaat (Essence) and it refers to Allah ta’ala being perfect and The Greatest in terms of His Dhaat. Another is الْعَظِيمُ and this is understood as Allah ta’ala being perfect in His Dhaat and Sifaat but perceived by intellectual insight. الْجَلِيلُ means perfection of the attributes of Allah ta’ala meaning Allah ta’ala is majestic in His attributes. In the Qur’an Allah ta’ala says, لَيْسَ كَمِثْلِهِ شَيْءٌ – There is nothing like Him. Therefore He is Majestic and above and beyond everything in His Dhaat and Sifaat. Mulla Ali Qari (Rahimahullah) said when you try to understand this Sifat of Allah ta’ala everything in the universe becomes the manifestation of Allah ta’ala’s greatness i.e. certain amazing facts about the sun which Aapa Sobia mentioned are a manifestation of His greatness. This is when you ponder on the Sifaat of Jalaal and look at the world around you, then your love and fear of Allah ta’ala increases and thereafter respect for His Book will increase and then respect for the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam will develop. Counsel To connect to this name we should ponder on the Jalaal of Allah ta’ala when we look at nature. To have mercy on those who seem weaker or lower than you. To Allah ta’ala the most educated and the richest are equal to those who are poor and least educated so we cannot regard anyone lower to us. In front of Allah ta’ala’s Jalaal we are small. The feeling should develop in the heart that we are so small and insignificant and that true Adhmat (Greatness) belongs only to Allah ta’ala. *~~*~~*
  10. الْحَسِيبُ Translation الْحَسِيبُ is translated as The Reckoner and The Accounter. It comes from حَسِبَ – to reckon / judge. Muhaasabah is to take accountability. It also means to be enough so The One Who is enough is al-Haseeb. Definition It is understood in different ways. Shaykh Sa’di (Rahimahullah) said it is that Being Who knows His servants very well, in totality. It is that Being Who is enough for those who trust Him i.e. Tawakkul. وَمَنْ يَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ فَهُوَ حَسْبُهُ - for Allah is all sufficient for the person who puts his trust in Him. [Surah Talaaq: 3] Allah ta’ala is Haseeb for the person who trusts Him and knows Allah ta’ala is enough for him and if a person puts his trust in someone else then, Scholars write that that person is lost. We see this when people run after this or that person or think, “If I do this, I’ll be the happiest person in the world” and they put all their hopes and expectations in a person or thing or system. Then when the breakdown happens (which sooner or later will happen) then they are totally lost. Imam Ghazali (Rahimahullah) writes, whoever becomes Allah ta’ala’s, Allah ta’ala is enough for him i.e. if a person gives himself wholeheartedly to Allah ta’ala then He will be enough for him and when Allah ta’ala is enough for a person (Materially or spiritually) then the person does not need anyone else. Obviously we live in the world and need to have people around us but that is different. You do not need someone to the extent that you cannot live without them. We have this problem of wanting to be appreciated but some people do not have that need as the more Tawakkul a person has in Allah ta’ala, the less they have the need to be appreciated and praised and though it is nice to get it, the need is not there. There is a story of someone who was abused verbally and he said, “If what you say is true then Allah forgive me and if I go to Jannah and Allah is pleased with me then none of what you say matters.” This person had the feeling that Allah ta’ala was enough for him and it did not matter that he was abused and not praised. No one can share in this trait. Tawakkul فَقُلْ حَسْبِيَ اللَّهُ لَا إِلَٰهَ إِلَّا هُوَ ۖ عَلَيْهِ تَوَكَّلْتُ ۖ وَهُوَ رَبُّ الْعَرْشِ الْعَظِيمِ Allah is all-sufficient for me. There is no God but Him. In Him I have put my trust. He is the Rabb of the Mighty Throne [Surah Tawbah: 129] People of Tawakkul place their trust in Allah ta’ala. It becomes manifest in a situation where it is you verses the world, when you know something is the right thing to do according to Deen and everyone is against you. In the Qur’an It is mentioned in different ways in the Qur’an. Surah Nisaa’: 6 - وَكَفَىٰ بِاللَّهِ حَسِيبًا Allah sufficeth as a Reckoner. Surah Naba: 36 - جَزَاءً مِنْ رَبِّكَ عَطَاءً حِسَابًا A recompense from your Rabb and a gift beyond their account. The second meaning of الْحَسِيبُ is to estimate/ account. الشَّمْسُ وَالْقَمَرُ بِحُسْبَانٍ - The sun and the moon move along their computed courses [Surah Ar-Rahmaan: 5] The sun and the moon move in an estimated measure i.e. they do not collide with each other. Muhaasabah From the same word comes the word, Muhaasabah. – to evaluate one’s self. We should try to take an account of ourselves before the Day of Judgment. Counsel We should do Muhaasabah in this world. It is mentioned in Hadith that we should evaluate ourselves before we are evaluated. Though we may be weak and we need other people, we should know that in our strength and in our intentions, Allah ta’ala is enough. He is الْحَسِيبُ. To live in this world we do have to depend and trust people otherwise we would not even go to a doctor. We have to trust family and friends but we should know that perfect trust and dependency is on Allah ta’ala and not people, not even your parents or husband. Poem: “When Allah is with you, what are you scared of? When Allah is not with you, nothing will help you” Imam Shafi’ee (Rahimahullah) on his deathbed said, “You are enough for me. In my heart I have good Ghumaan (Regard) for You and this Hasab for You is enough for me. When my love for You is true, then I do not care of the path of difficulty.” And that is one the secrets of this word. If Allah ta’ala is enough for us then difficulty will not seem difficult. Knowing Allah ta’ala is watching over us and will reward us. We should ask to be of those who rely on Him and He is enough for them. Following Du’a taken from Munaajaati Maqbool: O Allah, make me from those who put their trust in You and You became sufficient for them, who sought guidance from You and You guided them, and who sought help from You and You helped them . Du’a We should ask Allah ta’ala for an easy reckoning: اللهم حاسبني حسابا يسيرا – Allaahumma haasibnee hisaabay yaseeraa O Allah! Grant me an easy reckoning. *~~*~~*
  11. الْمُقِيتُ Translation الْمُقِيتُ is translated as The Nourisher and The Sustainer. It comes from Quwwat which means power or energy. It is an Ism Faa'il. Definition It is translated as The Nourisher and The Sustainer because it is The One Who gives Quwwat in something that keeps the body standing and alive. Arabic is such an encompassing and comprehensive language that English often does not do justice. الْمُقِيتُ is understood as The One Who creates and delivers / distributes nourishment and this can be in terms of food for a person’s body and knowledge for a person’s heart. Therefore it is not just physical nourishment but also spiritual nourishment as the body, mind, heart and soul all need nourishment. This is for everyone regardless of whether they are Believers or non-believers, good or bad. It is similar to الرَّزَّاقُ i.e. The Provider of provision but this has more the meaning of the provider and الْمُقِيتُ is more specific to not just providing but to providing enough to be sustained and get energy from i.e. how it is distributed / how it come to you, how it is processed, how you eat it (Chewing, digesting etc.) and how then energy is derived by the body. For example a glass of milk is healthy for a person however for a sick person or one who has lactose intolerance, it will be harmful. Therefore it is also how Allah ta’ala takes out the nourishment from the food for the body. Some Scholars say Muqeet can also mean One Who is Powerful i.e. Qaadir so it can also mean Protector, Overseer. In the Qur’an It is mentioned once in Surah Nisaa’ (verse 85) وَكَانَ اللَّهُ عَلَىٰ كُلِّ شَيْءٍ مُقِيتًا - Allah has control over everything. Allah ta’ala is the Nourisher and Sustainer of all things. He has created a whole system where a person can get nourishment. He has created this earth and it is like a huge storehouse which has fed so many people, animals, micro-organisms etc. from the beginning of time and this is Allah ta’ala distributing and giving nourishment to all creatures living on the earth. Comes from Muqaddar Some Scholars say Muqeet comes from Muqaddar – something that is divided or distributed. In Surah Fussilaat (Haa-meem, verse 10) Allah ta’ala says, وَجَعَلَ فِيهَا رَوَاسِيَ مِنْ فَوْقِهَا وَبَارَكَ فِيهَا وَقَدَّرَ فِيهَا أَقْوَاتَهَا فِي أَرْبَعَةِ أَيَّامٍ سَوَاءً لِلسَّائِلِينَ He set upon it mountains towering high above its surface, He bestowed blessings upon it and in four periods provided it with sustenance according to the needs of all those who live in and ask for it. Allah ta’ala being الْمُقِيتُ commanded different parts of the earth to make various amounts and types of food and He has designated and distributed sustenance to all the creatures on earth. We see that every part of the world has its specialities where tropical countries have mangoes and other exotic fruits while cold countries have apples and pears etc. Allah ta’ala has made some parts of the earth exclusive for certain foods, fruits, vegetation and animals according to the requirements i.e. a certain place will have a certain animal and people will utilize its milk, meat, hide, bones etc. Camels are custom made for the desert. When man messes up the system then it creates problems as in the case of wild camels in Australia. In the olden days the camels were imported to Australia because they were needed for transport in the desert area however they bred and had no natural predators to control them so they went out of control. Therefore through being الْمُقِيتُ Allah ta’ala has made a system where everyone benefits. There is a mutual inter-dependency in the world and one of the hidden reasons for it is trade so no one is self-sufficient. That is why when people put trade sanctions on a country it causes the people a lot of problems. Counsel Scholars say it is our duty to take as much as we need for ourselves and families and not to be greedy. In our Deen hoarding in times of famine is wrong. To know that Rizq is written for everyone and Allah ta’ala has taught human beings how to attain that Rizq i.e. Allah ta’ala has provided us with tools, strategies, minds etc. to learn in order to benefit from the nourishment and sustenance Allah ta’ala has provided in the world. A story is related by ibn Katheer (rahimahullah) about four Muhadditheen in Egypt who worked together and did not really care about worldly matters. Once they were so involved in their academic work that they did not realise one or two days had passed by and they needed something to eat. One of them was assigned to go out and seek some work and find the means to get provisions. This Scholar performed two Rakat Salaah and made Du’a. Allah ta’ala is الْمُقِيتُ and He will provide in some form but it requires effort and the Salaah and Du’a was the Scholar’s effort. The governor of Egypt was sleeping at that time of the afternoon and he dreamt that the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam came and told him to enquire about the Scholars as they had nothing to eat. Upon awakening he made enquiries and thereafter sent 1,000 Dinars to them and told them to carry on their work. The Scholars used the money to build a Masjid and it became a place of study. Allah ta’ala provides in ways we cannot fathom. Therefore counsel is to use Salaat and Du’a for all our problems and not just for sustenance. Quwwat from Allah ta’ala while Fasting The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam fasted for days continuously; the people also did the same but it was difficult for them. So the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam forbade them (to fast continuously for more than one day). They said, “But you fast without break (no food was taken in the evening or in the morning).” The Prophet replied, “I am not like you, for I am provided with food and drink (by Allah).” From this we see that in the spiritual realms there are ways some people get Quwwat (Energy / nourishment). Allah ta’ala grants strength in unseen ways and we see this Ramadhaan that some people show so much energy even when fasting in long days and this is what the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam is referring to in the Hadith that food is not the only way to get sustenance. Not to waste food To use the nourishment and energy we get for doing good deeds. There is a saying, “The world is made for Insaan and Insaan is made for Allah.” Allah ta’ala gave us the whole world to nourish and sustain us and the reason is not just to enjoy this time in the world but to find Him and become closer to Him. We should make Du’a for that energy for the body and soul and to use it in doing good deeds, ‘Ibaadah, dhikr etc. We are all often tired with work, children etc. and knowing Allah ta’ala gives the energy has an effect psychologically. Another counsel is that Allah ta’ala is absolutely الْمُقِيتُ but we should give sustenance, energy, strength etc. to the needy and vulnerable. Material help is easy but giving words of encouragement and advice can make a difference to a person who has hit rock bottom and lost hope in humanity. Sometimes love is more important than something materialistic so we should be Muqeet to people in a physical, emotional, psychological and spiritual way. We should ask Allah ta’ala for strength in all aspects and to be a means of it to others and the beautiful thing is if we become the source of strength for others, Allah ta’ala gives us strength too because we also feel weak. If we help others then Allah ta’ala will help us and keep our feet firm. *~~*~~*
  12. Why fathers are neglected in old age A must read for all fathers! (and mothers too!) In the lifetime of most Nigerian families (but is now universally applicable), there are 3 dispensations of power: 1) The first 25 years in the life of the family (father, mother, children) where power indisputably rests with the father. 2) After the kids have grown and started working and the power shifts to the mother. 3) When the kids move out of the family house or start their own families and the power moves to the children. The 1st dispensation Total dominance of the father. He is the lion of the tribe of his house. The boss. During this dispensation, the father rules with an iron fist. He barks orders & determines what does or does not happen. The father often metes out corporal punishment to the recalcitrant children. They grow to fear him more than they love him. The father is the provider for the family & everyone is aware of that fact with all resultant consequences. The 2nd dispensation The children have finished school and have started working. Power now shifts to the mother. When the children start earning their own money, for some reason, it’s their mothers they decide to look after. They are closer to her. While the father was in charge, he was busy with the business of providing. He didn’t have much time to be a friend to the children. They spent more time with their mum and invariably grew closer to her. They also see their mum as co-victims of the father’s tyranny. The mother takes centre stage at this point. She is the first to know what’s happening with the children & she has advantage. Should any of the daughters give birth, she is the one that goes for babysitting and the children spoil her with gifts. At this stage, the father is wishing for some bond with the children like they have with their mother but that boat has sailed. Because the mother doesn’t rely much on the father for her needs at this stage, she is less likely to tolerate his lordship. The 3rd & last dispensation Power has shifted to the children. They are self-sufficient, live on their own & have own families. More often than not, whenever there is a quarrel between father & mother, the children side the mother. Years of joint-victimhood at play. Children have been known to come to the house to warn their father not to ‘disturb’ their mother. Woe to the father if his finances are precarious at this stage. This causes most men to fall ill & develop different complications. By this time the forces are arrayed against you. Stroke, hypertension, high-blood pressure. The man has a large family but no relationship with them in later life. A deeply troubling thought. Lesson: Moral, dear men, while the power lies with us, let us wield it with posterity in mind. It won’t be with us forever. 1) With the way you are treating your wife now, how will she treat you when power shifts to her? 2) What relationship do you have with your family? Loving dad or despotic, tyrannical provider? 3) Remember, the children always side with their mother. Aim to do enough to at least get a fair hearing in future moments of family strife. 4) Invest wisely for the future so that you won’t have to beg to be taken care of if despite your best efforts, you find yourself alone. Advice to children: It is not good to abandon your father who denied himself to get you prepared for life & who sacrificially sowed to make you who you are. Honour both your parents and take good care of them in their old age. That is how you too will sow into your future. Don’t let neglecting your father (or mother) be a curse on you into your future. Advice to mothers: Don’t incite your children against their father. Parenthood is not easy despite its joys. May Allah Ta’ala help each and every one of us and grant us the correct understanding. Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians
  13. Hazrat Moulana Muhammad Ilyaas (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) once mentioned the following: The actual meaning of zikr is for a person to fulfil the command of Allah Ta‘ala that relates to him in every given situation. Allah Ta‘ala commands us in the Qur’aan Majeed saying: یٰۤاَیُّهَا الَّذِیْنَ اٰمَنُوْا لَا تُلْهِکُمْ اَمْوَالُکُمْ وَلَاۤ اَوْلَادُکُمْ عَنْ ذِکْرِ اللّٰه O you who believe! Do not let your wealth or children turn you away from the remembrance (command) of Allah Ta‘ala. (Surah Munaafiqoon v. 9) Hence, while one is at home interacting with his family and children, or while one is engaged in trade and commerce, if he ensures that he remains obedient to Allah Ta‘ala and does not break His commands while fulfilling these worldly needs, then even though he is engaged in these occupations, he will be regarded as a person engaged in the remembrance of Allah Ta‘ala. (Malfoozaat Hazrat Moulana Muhammad Ilyaas (rahmatullahi ‘alaih) pg. 57) Ihyauddeen.co.za
  14. As-Salaam alaikum, In the Hadith, we learnt that the Prophet, Sallallahu alaihi Wasallam, said to one of his wives, Sayyada A'isha, may Allah be pleased with her:-- "He who will be judged will be punished for sure" (Sahih Bukhari) If on the Day of Judgement one is made to give account, he will be punished. So, in our prayers to Allah Ta'ala, we should include praying to be admitted to Jannah...Paradise with no account. Only the anbiya are ma'asum...free from sin, no one else. So the Prophet said to her to ask not to be taken to account at all, as if we are to account we will be in a problem. Everyone, young and old, have problems. Let us surrender our affairs to our Lord and He will take care of us... Tabaraka Wa Ta'ala.
  15. Emotional Intelligence in work of Deen A major problem in our communities is that though we have moral intelligence i.e. understanding the right and the wrong, the Halaal and the Haraam, etc. however we are not good at communicating it to others in the emotional intelligent way which is crucial in teaching, counselling and communicating with others. The living Miracle of his Personality Finally, the personality of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam was such that every person felt he/she was the most beloved to him. ‘Amr ibn Al-‘As reported, I said, “Which person is most beloved to you?” The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam, said, “Aisha.” I said, “I mean among men.” The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “Her father.” I said, “Then who?” The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “Umar ibn al-Khattab,” and he mentioned some other men. [Bukhari] He felt such love from the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam he thought he would be high on the list. In our case too, we all feel a deep, personal connection to him especially more so when we study Seerah. To everyone he is “My Nabi” regardless of where we are in the world and regardless of the different colour, ethnic and cultural backgrounds. Even to the sinful he is “My Nabi”! This is the living moracle of his personality.
  16. Part 3 – Empathy This is the ability to understand the emotions of others. Just as the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam brought revolution to this world in terms of Tawheed, justice, etc. he also brought revolution in empathy, showing care and concern to other people and even to animals. Empathy with family members He was deeply aware of the feelings of his family members. He once said to his wife A’ishah RA, “Indeed, I can tell when you are angry or pleased with me.” A’ishah RA said, “How do you know that, O Messenger of Allah?” The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “Verily, when you are pleased, you say: Yes, by the Lord of Muhammad! But when we you are upset, you say: No, by the Lord of Abraham!” I said, “Yes, I do not leave out anything but your name.” [Bukhari] He was aware his wife was upset with him and this comes from the deep level of connection he had with others. When we are deeply connected with someone, just by their expression or the way they look, walk, talk we will know that they are feeling sad or upset. Empathy for Newcomers to a Gathering Making space in gathering for the newcomer is from the teachings of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam. Just by shifting slightly even if there is space acknowledges the new comer and makes him/her feel welcome and connected. In this day and age when people are more connected to phones and internet, many have no emotional connection with anyone and most cannot express themselves. People often need just a kind word to make their day and this is especially so for young people. Showing love to children shows care and concern without which they stop talking to us and find others to talk to and when asked about it they say they tried to express their feelings but when there was no response, they stopped talking. Often, they cannot express themselves but they are calling out by being cranky or in other ways however their call is ignored. We should listen to them and even if they cannot talk to you, hug them. Empathy for the Youth Someone mentioned regarding a young man that he did not pray Tahajjud Salaah (as everyone prayed Tahajjud Salaah in those days). How did the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam react? He said what a good young man he was if only he prayed Tahajjud. So he appreciated and praised the young man first and then gave constructive feedback in a light way which would make a person want to do something. Praising children makes them feel appreciated and encourages them to want to do more Showing love to Children When the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam showed love to children, it was very revolutionary at that time as people did not express love for children. People found it strange that the he hugged and kissed the children of the Sahabah RA. Once Aqra bin Habis saw the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam kiss his grandson and said, “I have ten children; I have never kissed any of them.” Thereupon, the Prophet said, “He who shows no mercy, will receive no mercy.” [Muslim] Expression of Grief Until recent times, in many cultures, men did not cry however in Islam it is ok to show/express emotion by crying. When Zainab’s RA son was dying, she called for her father, the Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam. The child was lifted up to the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam while his breath was disturbed in his chest. On seeing this his eyes streamed with tears. Sa’d bin ‘Ubadah said “O Messenger of Allah! What is this?” He (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam replied, “It is compassion which Allah has placed in the hearts of His slaves, Allah is compassionate only to those among His slaves who are compassionate (to others)” [Bukhari] Empathy with Animals The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam was also sensitive to the feelings of animals who could not express themselves. If the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam saw any animal over-burdened or ill-fed he would pull up alongside the owner and say, “Fear God in your treatment of animals.” [Abu Dawood]
  17. Part 2 – Self-management What is meant by self-management is how we react to emotions as sometimes our emotions get the best of us and we react before we can think about the situation and we later regret it (referred to as emotional hijacking). EI people do not make rash decisions. They pause before saying or doing anything realising that emotions can be temporary and the harm caused by haste can be permanent. What is the Islamic perspective? In a Hadith the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “Composure (being unhurried) is from Allah and haste is from Shaytaan” [Tirmidhi] Anger-management The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam said, “The judge should not issue a ruling between two people while he is angry.” [Bukhari] Anger is necessary to fight any wrong however it has to be applied with justice and righteousness. Imam Ghazali (Rahimahullah) said anger is allowed at certain times, for certain reasons and in certain ways. Therefore, there are conditions attached. The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam felt anger too and he felt grief, sadness, etc. but it was how he managed it, channelling it to a positive way and he also taught others how to channel their emotions to a positive way. This can be seen in many incidents of his life. His wife Safiyyah bint Huyayy RA, who was from a Jewish background, told him how the other wives teasing her about her Jewish origin made her feel sad. He said, ‘You should tell them, ‘How could you be better than me when my husband is Muhammad, my father is Haaroon (Aaron) and my uncle is Moosa (Moses)?’” [Tirmithi] Some Sahaba RA who were amongst those most severely tortured for accepting Islam, once emotionally complained to the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam, “Would you seek help for us? Would you pray to Allah for us?” The Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam responded by affirming their emotions. He understood what they were going through and channelled their emotions to a positive way of thinking. He said, “Among the nations before you a believing man would be put in a ditch that was dug for him, and a saw would be put over his head and he would be cut into two pieces; yet that torture would not make him give up his religion. His body would be combed with iron combs that would remove his flesh from the bones and nerves, yet that would not make him abandon his religion. By Allah, this religion will prevail in a way that a traveller from Sana, Yemen to Hadramaut, Yemen will fear none but Allah, and a sheep will not fear the attack of a wolf, but you people are hasty!” [Bukhari] In this way the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam taught others how to manage their feelings.
  18. Part 1 – Self-awareness Since the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam was guided by Wahy (Revelation) his self-awareness came from Allah ta’ala. He was made aware of his personality through verses of the Qur’an. In Surah Aali ‘Imraan (Verse 159) Allah ta’ala says, فَبِمَا رَحْمَةٍ مِّنَ اللَّهِ لِنتَ لَهُمْ وَلَوْ كُنتَ فَظًّا غَلِيظَ الْقَلْبِ لَانفَضُّوا مِنْ حَوْلِكَ فَاعْفُ عَنْهُمْ وَاسْتَغْفِرْ لَهُمْ وَشَاوِرْهُمْ فِي الْأَمْرِ فَإِذَا عَزَمْتَ فَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يُحِبُّ الْمُتَوَكِّلِينَ So because (of) Mercy from Allah you dealt gently with them. And if you had been rude (and) harsh (at) heart, surely they (would have) dispersed from around you. Then pardon them and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. Then when you have decided, then put trust on Allah. Indeed, Allah loves the ones who put trust (in Him) This verse was in relation to the Battle of Uhud where some of the Muslims had disappointed the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam when they left the post despite instructions not to do so. Though the Sahabah RA had caused him grief the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam did not adopt a harsh attitude towards them. He did not rebuke or reproach them for their misdemeanor. A person’s true character shows in rough and stressful times when they are hurt by others or when someone they depend on, lets them down, however the noble character and personality of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam shines through and this is the sign of a true leader who, when people go through a rough and down time, brings them back up again. Example of his Self-awareness and Self-management It is mentioned in Hadith how, when he was angry, his face changed colour however he did not react angrily in word or act as the following incident shows. After the Battle of Hunayn the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam distributed the spoils of war first giving to those whose hearts were to be won i.e. some of the Quraysh who had only recently accepted Islam, as a conciliatory gesture. Abu Sufyan and his two sons Yazid and Mu’awiya were given 100 camels. Safwan was at his side while he rode through the valley of Ji’rranah and sensing Safwan’s wonder at the vast riches the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam offered him an entire pasture of camels, sheep and goats. He responded by acknowledging his goodness and accepted Islam. This was not meant as a means of buying loyalty or to convert people but was meant to strengthen them. He wanted their hearts to soften towards Islam and hearts did soften. They realised the magnanimity of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam and that he cared about them, and their hearts were won over. Others however noticed their smaller shares and a person mentioned that justice had not been done. This was reported to the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam and upon hearing this remark the colour of his face changed red and he then said, “Who would do justice, if Allah and His Messenger do not do justice?” He further said, “May Allah have mercy upon Musa; he was tormented more than this, but he showed patience. Analysis Upon hearing the remark, the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam felt anger (as indicated by the colour of his face changing) however he did not react upon his emotions. He first spoke about the justice of Allah and His Messenger and then he gave his own response which was a reflection on a past incident and a reminder to himself to remain patient. The many Hadith regarding anger and its management are examples of self-awareness and self-management which he taught others. Self-awareness in Du’a In the Masnoon Du’a there is self-awareness. A beautiful example in the life of the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam is the Du’a he made after the incident of Ta’if which occurred when he was extremely vulnerable after ‘Aami Huzn (Year of grief) during which he lost both his external support with the death of Abu Taalib, and his personal support with the death of his beloved wife and supporter from the beginning, Khadeejah RA. During this time of vulnerability, he decided to visit Ta’if to give Da’wah which teaches us to motivate ourselves when demotivated by circumstances. He was ridiculed, stoned and chased out of town which must have been a very humiliating and painful experience. He took refuge in an orchard; exhausted and rejected, he collapsed in the orchard and made a broken hearted Du’a to Allah ta’ala; اللهم إليك أشكو ضعف قوتي وقلة حيلتي وهواني على الناس ياأرحم الراحمين أنت أرحم الراحمين أنت رب المستضعفين وأنت ربي إلى من تكلني إلى عدو يتجهمني أم الى عدو ملكته امرى إن لم يكن بك غضب علي فلا أبالي ولكن عافيتك هي أوسع لي أعوذ بنور وجهك الذي أضاءت له السموات و الأرض وأشرقت له الظلمات وصلح عليه أمر الدنيا والأخره أن ينزل بي غضبك أو يحل علي سخطك لك العتبى حتى ترضى ولاحول ولاقوة إلابك To You, my Lord, I complain of my weakness, lack of support and the humiliation I am made to receive. Most Compassionate and Merciful! You are the Lord of the weak, and you are my Lord. To whom do You leave me? To a distant person who receives me with hostility? Or to an enemy You have given power over me? As long as you are not displeased with me, I do not care what I face. I would, however, be much happier with Your mercy. I seek refuge in the light of Your face by which all darkness is dispelled and both this life and the life to come are put in their right course against incurring your wrath or being the subject of your anger. To You I submit, until I earn Your pleasure. Everything is powerless without your support. In this situation of being rejected, with no human resources and no value in the eyes of the people, in total humility and realizing his weakness, the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam articulated his feelings in a Du’a, complaining to Allah ta’ala but at the same time hopeful. Self-awareness in Shukr, Sabr, Tawakkul To express Shukr (Gratitude) after eating and drinking from the blessings of Allah ta’ala, upon awakening after a restful night, upon relieving one’s self, etc. is self-awareness and an expression of internal feelings. To have Sabr (Patience) and not be overwhelmed during difficulty is another example of self-awareness and self-management. Sabr is an oft mentioned subject in the Qur’an and Hadith. To have Tawakkul (Reliance on Allah ta’ala) and turn to Allah ta’ala asking for protection i.e. reciting the Du’a when leaving home and other such Du’a, is realising one’s dependence on Allah ta’ala for protection.
  19. Emotional Intelligence of the Prophet Muhammad sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam From a talk by Ustadhah S. Ahmed Zaynab Academy Online 17 November 2019 Definition of EI (Emotional Intelligence) Emotional Intelligence is the ability to be self-aware of one’s own emotions as well as the emotions of others (empathy) while being able to control and manage one’s own emotions. EI has three components: · Self-awareness · Self-management When one is aware of, understands and acknowledge one’s emotions, then one can manage them better. We need to know what we are feeling and why we are feeling this way in order to figure out the best way to react. · Empathy Empathy is the ability to be aware of the emotions of others and understand from their perspective. By mastering all three components one can enhance one’s personal and professional life. History of EI Peter Salovey and John D. Mayer coined the term ‘Emotional Intelligence’ in 1990. Later Daniel Goleman wrote a book called, “Emotional Intelligence.” He said that it was not cognitive intelligence that guaranteed business success but emotional intelligence. According to him, one key benefit is that “emotional intelligence can help people make better decisions.” This increased effectiveness is invaluable for business, essential for education, and transformational for personal life. He described emotionally intelligent people as those with four characteristics: They were good at understanding their own emotions (self-awareness) They were good at managing their emotions (self-management) They were empathetic to the emotional drives of other people (social awareness) They were good at handling other people’s emotions (social skills) (History of EI is not from the talk) Emotional Intelligence in the Light of the Sunnah As Muslims we should look at EI in the light of the Qur’an and Sunnah of our Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam and in terms of the success of the Aakhirah. Self-awareness for us is not just being aware of our emotions and managing them, but also includes our intentions. When we study the Seerah and Hadith we see that the Prophet sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam was an extremely emotionally intelligent person. There are lessons for us in becoming emotionally intelligent people in the way he understood his own emotions, acknowledged and managed them and the way he interacted with everyone around him, teaching them to be emotionally intelligent people. When overcome with grief or in stressful situations we are not even aware of what we are feeling and often end up blaming others. Therefore cognition/realisation of feelings is very important in combatting negative feelings and channelling them to positive ones
  20. "Intelligent is the one who avoids sins, even if he is not knowledgeable. Ignorant is the one who commits sins, even if he is knowledgeable." – Shaykh Dawood Seedat حفظه اللّٰه
  21. "Intelligent is the one who avoids sins, even if he is not knowledgeable. Ignorant is the one who commits sins, even if he is knowledgeable." – Shaykh Dawood Seedat حفظه اللّٰه
  22. Below is an article taken from www.islaahiadvices.com. It is an extract from Hazrat's dhikr majlis on 6/3/2017. Life is full of tests and challenges. There are times when it will upset us or it will not go our way. Look at Nabi ﷺ, when Allah asked him to stand on Mount Safa to give dawah for the first time in his life. He must have put so much thought and effort into preparing his first speech, but the people dispersed and ignored his call. Was this the reaction Nabi ﷺ was hoping for, or was it the total opposite? He tried so hard yet it did not go according to plan, the people refused to listen. At another stage in his life, He invited His whole family over for a meal and before they left, he invited them to Islam. He asked them that who will help me? No-one responded except Hazrat Ali رضي الله عنه. Yet again, His efforts did not go according to plan. In Taaif He was stoned by the street urchins until He bled. He experienced boycotts against Him, moments when there was no food at home, loved ones passing away including His own children whom He buried with his own hands. A time came when He even got upset with His wives and separated from them for a month! The point that I am trying to make is that the conditions of life will not be favourable at all times. However, as Muslims, our character is expected to be favourable at all times. We must be patient with the trials of life. Some days life will go well, other days it will not. When you return home, some days your favourite meal will be ready on the table, other days you may return hungry or in a hurry, but the food is still getting cooked. Regardless of the situation, we are expected to rise above and display good manners. And who expects this from us? Allah himself. And how do we manage to act favourably during a difficult moment? How is it possible? By being in love with Allah. One who is in love remains unaffected because he is on cloud nine. He is so immersed in his own happiness that nothing can phase him. When we have deep hearted love for Allah, he will rectify our hearts. Then in Salah, tilaawat and dhikr, we will feel peaceful and tranquil. This tranquillity immunizes the heart against all the adversities taking place. Now, though adversities will continue to occur, he will be able to manage due to the peace emanating from his heart. However, when we remove religion from our lives, all of sudden, everything and anything becomes a cause of sadness for us. These adversities were happening all along but now we are feeling it because we forgot to take our immunization. If we neglect deen, our spiritual arteries become clogged, our hearts suffer, we no longer experience peace inside and therefore everything begins to irritate, upset or hurt us. But when our relationship with Allah is strong, our spiritual arteries become unblocked and the noor of ibadah will light up our lives. When one is in a game park where predators are roaming freely, then one will not be seen strolling casually. However, in a zoo where the predators are caged, notice how people stroll through relaxed, calm and happy with an ice cream in their hands and a smile upon their faces. Because in this zoo, he knows that there are walls and cages. Therefore, although he is in the midst of predators he remains peaceful because he knows that they cannot affect him. Likewise is the case of a believer. We all face adversities which prey on our weaknesses, but those who are immunized are unaffected. They stroll cheerfully down the thorniest of paths because the thorns cannot affect him. Whereas those who neglect deen neglect their own souls until every trail causes restlessness and worry. Allah gave us dhikr and Salah for our own benefit and spiritual nourishment, they have great worldly benefits too. Nabi ﷺ said that the coolness of my eyes is Salah. That is a property of Salah, provided the Salah is performed properly. When one wakes up for Fajr and speaks to Allah, makes dua and reads the Quran, by the time morning comes he is mentally ready to face the jungle (i.e. work). Slowly he loses his stamina and by the time Zuhr Salah comes in, he cannot take it anymore. Now he needs to reset, he needs a detox to refresh himself and get his sanity back. So he goes to pray Zuhr. Now he returns to the jungle again, mentally equipped and ready to work. But again he loses himself, so he returns to the Masjid for Asr. In the evenings at home, the day-to-day pressure of family life can be difficult to bear but rather than losing himself by displaying anger and bad character, yet again he returns to Allah for Maghrib and Ishaa. A lady’s situation is similar. Every day brings with it a series of challenges, but praying Salah in the way it should be prayed will enable us to cope. Rather than losing it she also turns to Allah, her first love. She turns to Allah, He turns to Allah and Allah sees both, He sees that they are both turning towards him. So now Allah cements their hearts together. This is deen: a soothing balm for hearts blistered with sins, an oasis for travellers of the spiritual world, ever-ready to quench our thirst for peace, ever-ready to calm our worries, silence our fears and eliminate our stresses, but we lack the sight to see it, the ability to recognise it and the motivation to act upon it. May Allah enable us to return to Him and to realise the reality of life, Aameen. — Hazrat Maulana Dawood Seedat حفظه الله Source
  23. Someone came to the Mother of Khwaja Fariduddin Masud رضي الله عنه and said," to her your son is a great saint of Allah, every none muslim, who comes into his companyembraces Islam, hundreds of thousands of people have been guided to the straight path, due to him. How fortunate you are to be the Mother of such a great saint and Wali of Allah." She smiled and said "Rather how fortunate he is to have a mother who is a lover of Allah. Let me tell you how farid has reached the position he has, When he was a newborn before I would suckle him I would do wudu and then as he suckled I would recite the words of the Quran. As he grew older, I would do the chores around the house, he would follow me around and my tongue would be absorbed in zikr and durood, the remembrance of Allah and his messenger. Whilst others engaged in telling lies, I have never uttered a word of untruth, others spend their time slandering and backbiting others I have never uttered about anyone unless it was to point out a good quality of theirs. I would spend my nights, and days in the Ibadah of Allah. and never have these eyes of mine look or gazed at those things that Allah has forbidden. Before doing any action or uttering any word, I would first reflect whether I would be able to account for it on the day of qiyamah. If I did not have the taqwa in my heart if I had not been an abidaa, zakira, and zahida for all my life then how would Fariduddin have achieved such heights. Rather you should congratulate him for having a mother like me. The questioner said " I was told that Paradise lays at the feet of the mother only now do I fully realise, the significance of what that means." Julaybib
  24. It was harder than I thought, trying to write this piece. I did stop and think several times over about the long tiresome journey I have been on, what to put down and how I would come across to you, the reader. Well, that’s for you to judge, so let me get started. My earliest memory of the onset of my OCD was when I was thirteen. I had visited my mother’s side of the family in Pakistan, something I wasn’t too keen on doing, nor seeing any family for that matter. I can’t remember how exactly the conversation had started but my uncle had said after going to the bathroom you should read the first three kalima on your hands to ‘make them clean.’ I didn’t think twice of it and began to incorporate this after every occasion on going to the bathroom. I started to take this aspect of my routine quite seriously without realising why, but it wasn’t till my brother shouted one day ‘why are you still washing your hands?!’ That I stopped to think I was starting to spend a long time washing. Over a short period of time, my rituals began to grow and so did my anxiety. I would question if I was reading these verses correctly and to compensate, would read them again, and again to ‘make sure’ that on the next occasion I would get it right. I started to wash my arms, my face, my whole body and to the point where I would always change my clothes after visiting the bathroom. It’s fair to say, my family thought I was going mad, heck, I was acting like it. I would get very tense if I didn’t complete my ordered routine, a simple task of washing hands became such a troublesome chore that took hours on end to complete. I could not see anything else or think of anything or anyone. I had to get my routine done my way and that is that. At the time, as you can imagine with one family bathroom in the house, it caused a fair bit of quarrels, especially when we all needed to rush out in the morning. My mum, whom I had never been close to, was the closed off, harsh, old-school traditional Pakistani type. She would shout insults at me thinking I was possessed by some sort of jinn. My older brother thought I was insane, my father’s silence was deafening and my little sister bore the brunt of my temper. Something which I can never forget, to this day. High school became more difficult; I would go on and act ‘normal’ in school as I would avoid using public toilets like the plague. It provided some comfort not having to undertake my rituals but things became harder. I was losing sleep, concentration and the motivation to study. I hadn’t told anyone about my ‘problem’ as they would think I’m mad. Surely. A part of me did begin to think something was wrong. Was I truly mad? Why couldn’t I just spend a few seconds washing my hands? All these questions ran through my head, but as soon as I would start, I had to finish my rituals of bathing and changing of clothes. I knew my thoughts and actions were irrational, but in the heat of the moment, I did not care, I had to complete it till I felt right. Self-doubt consumed me. To give some perspective, I could spend six hours a day on this all, maybe more. Oh yes. I had become angry, at myself and my family for not understanding, withdrawn and isolated both at school and especially at home. I never had much confidence to begin with, but had lost all as my OCD and depression exacerbated. As year 12 was upon me, I didn’t know where the time had went. School mates were selecting universities to go to, careers, and their aspirations. I had none. I would go to school just to get a break from the torturous rituals I would inflict on myself every day. Insults were flung my way on a daily basis at home, though to be fair, in hindsight, I was difficult to live with. I was anxious and frustrated and my need to complete these agonizing rituals day in day out was starting to take its toll. My family were embarrassed and ashamed of me and I was embarrassed and ashamed of myself. No matter how hard I tried, I could not stop. It’s difficult to describe how much anxiety my rituals gave me, knowing what I was doing was illogical, which became a heavy burden on my family and I. Some students in the year had dreams of becoming a doctor, I just wanted to get through the day. Feelings of hopelessness and a failure consumed me day in day out especially because I could not talk to anyone. Anxiety caused by a need to wash? Ridiculous! I felt I could not say anything not only in fear of judgment but ridicule. I was in a bubble that I couldn’t break out of, nor could anyone come in to help me from being suffocated. Things got very tough and eventually my father brought a psychiatrist home to see me. I was diagnosed with OCD at 16 and was advised to take the remainder of the year off as I couldn’t cope with school let alone the exam stress. My father and I walked around the house like strangers, my mother and brother could not stand the sight of me. I wanted it all to end. I had started to self-harm, but more for the attention than to take my life. I wanted someone to understand that I couldn’t help it and to say ‘it will be okay.’ I had hit rock bottom and I did not know who to turn to. I had given up; I thought I might as well try praying my salah, what could I lose? I cried my eyes out during my supplication, I begged to be normal, to be happy. I began to pray more often, hoping Allah might hear me. I can’t remember at what point it was, but I felt some comfort, found some strength to carry on and I did. I retook year 12 the following September and it coincided with my CBT sessions, which was of no help. I found I needed someone to talk to rather than guidance on how to stop the rituals. I just continued to pray and hoped that somehow things will work out and I will do well. Retaking the year 12 and going onto A-levels were no easy feat. My OCD was still not better, I still felt incredibly low but I had some fight in me to try hard and do well. I wanted to make my family proud and get good results. My tension and OCD rituals increased with the impending exam stress and I ended up not doing well. I prayed so hard, but why me? Why couldn’t something go right? I did go to university in the end and studied Psychology as I wanted to help people who too had mental health issues. Whilst most people would balance their work and social life, I couldn’t afford to. My rituals would take up so much time, what little time I had remaining would be to study. I was determined to do things right and to do well for myself and my family. I would feel guilty for all that I put them through, I love them and know they love me and only wanted to help but were helpless in the face of the situation. I had pushed myself over the three years during my undergraduate and was proud to earn a First class Honors, Alhamdulillah. This was and is the proudest moment of my life so far. Since then, I have been on a roller coaster of emotions in finding my way through adult life. I became dependent on anti-depressants for a year and half and wanted to stop before I got married. I feel as if I have lost more than a decade of my life to this monster known as OCD and depression. Both consumed me; stole precious moments, and damaged relationships with friends and family. My OCD is at a somewhat manageable level now, but I know it will always be a part of my life. I’m at the stage now, where I have really low days which has an adverse effect on my marriage but I turn to salah, and I keep reminding myself that ‘Allah does not burden a soul beyond it can bear (2:286)’ It is through this verse I keep trying to meander my way through day to day life and find comfort that although this life can be full of sorrow, the hereafter is more important. Don’t get me wrong, I have had days when I just want to give up and say enough. But I can’t. I think of my family, I think of my Lord. Patience is indeed a virtue, but so is belief and hope in Allah, where inshaAllah (God-willing) we will all be blessed with paradise, where the ultimate peace of mind and happiness rests, and that is what is keeping me going. (Submitted anonymously to muslimvibe.com)
  25. Getting close to our Creator Allah is a fundamental need of every human being. This is the essence of being . Having this pursuit in life in-and-of itself provides healing for our chaotic inner selves. It also leads to: Allah’s love Greater productivity Confidence Satisfaction and joy Therefore, it is essential to exert mindful effort in seeking closeness to, and blessings from, your Creator. Getting closer to Allah requires a few things from you: Strong intention to get closer to Allah Patience Consistency Avoid doing nothing or doing things, not for the sake of Allah Let’s first consider our worth to Allah . If you want to know your worth to Allah , then see what you are doing with your life. Are you pleasing Allah or disappointing Him? Don’t like your answer? Well, there is good news. The fact that you are seeking closeness to Allah means He wants you to remember Him. Being productive is very important as a Muslim. It is a sign of Allah’s mercy that you have come to seek beneficial knowledge from websites like this one. A righteous deed is like a pearl necklace – when it breaks, all the pearls follow one another quickly. We need to struggle to achieve great things. ِِِAnd the harder the struggle is, the better the outcome becomes. Getting close to Allah takes time. We cannot expect everything to magically fall into place by doing one righteous deed. You need to depend on Allah . Always trust that what He has planned for you is the best you can have, for this life and the hereafter. Here are some tips to achieve closeness to Allah : 1. Dua (Supplication) We forget that we need Allah’s help and strength to guide us. When we get too caught up with dunya (this life) we often think we can do it on our own without His help. Sometimes we substitute Barakah for a desire to enter the hustle culture and then wonder why we feel frazzled at work or home. When we do this we lose our productivity. This is why we have to know that nothing changes without the strength and power of Allah . We need to ask Him for His help, especially if it is to get closer to Him or become better at worshipping Him. We need to seek refuge in Allah in everything. This helps us to address the negative thoughts we have, our lack of productivity or even our lack of faith. We need to ask Allah to help us and guide us to the Straight Path. Allah says in the Qur’an: 2. Stay Away from Poisons You need to get any poisons out of your life. Poison has many forms. Fix your heart, by staying away from anything that Allah doesn’t love. If you are around friends that make you sin and make you disappoint Allah , then you need to get them out of your life. 3. Get to Know Allah [SWT] Through His Beautiful Names How can you love Allah and want to get closer to Him if you don’t know Him that well? We fall in love with people as we get to know them more and realize that they have a lot of beautiful qualities and characteristics. Of course, Allah is above any analogy, but you need to know Him more. Wanting to get closer won’t do you any good on its own. You must learn to fall in love with your Creator. Start with the name of Al-Wadud, the Ever-Loving. Allah’s love for you is unconditional. He does not need or want anything from you in return. He loves you and so He keeps giving you even if you disobey Him. Ask Allah with His Names. He is the One who is closest to you (Qareeb). So ask Him to bring you closer to Him. Call on Him using the name Al-Wadud and ask Him to love you more and make you love Him more. It’s as simple as that. We tend to overthink stuff and forget that if we seek refuge in Allah , He will make everything easier on us. 4. Dhikr (Remembrance of Allah ) Remembering Allah is essential in achieving closeness to Him. You can remember him by engaging in dhikr (remembrance) and tasbeeh (praise). Say Astaghfirullah a lot to erase your sins. Say Alhamdulillah so Allah will give you more. Look outside your window and say Subhan-Allah about His beautiful creations. The most elegant form of remembering Allah is by looking at His creations. When you are in between tasks like driving or walking, remember Allah . Listen to Islamic lectures that speak of Allah’s glory. Surround yourself with people who remind you of Allah . Attend halaqas or religious circles in masjids. If you like, you can even create your own gathering of remembrance. The more you remember Allah , the more He will descend unique peace upon you. See what happens when you are sitting in a gathering that is filled with Allah’s remembrance… Allah’s Messenger [SAW] said: 5. Follow the Sunnah of Prophet Muhammad By following the Sunnah of our prophet we will gain the love of Allah . When you gain the love of Allah , you will get closer to him. Following the Sunnah of the Prophet makes you a better person. You will have better behaviours and ethics. Read more about the Prophet ; fall in love with your Messenger. After all, he was a mercy to all mankind. Allah says so in the Qu’ran: 6. Stay Connected to the Qur’an Reading or memorizing the Qur’an alone is not enough. Understand it and act upon it. Try your best to act the way we are asked to in the Qur’an. Reflect on its meanings; it will give you answers to your daily life’s complications. When you read the Qur’an and work to understand it better you are more likely to reach the level of Ihsan. You will want to do everything right. In the form of a man, Gabriel/Jibreel once entered a gathering where the Prophet was sitting. One of the questions the angel asked was to elaborate on the term “Ihsan”. Wrapping It All Up Be productive, seek knowledge and take action. The more you love Allah , the more you will do to get closer to Him. ِAnd the more you get closer to Him, the more He will get closer to you, and the more Barakah you will witness in your life. Additionally, the more you will want to learn about the Sunnah and the Qur’an, the closer you will become to reaching the level of Ihsan (excellence). When you reach that level, you will feel Allah’s love and you will be satisfied with everything He gives you. You will be productive because you won’t want to waste time without pleasing Him . You will be confident in everything that you do in your life because you will fully trust in Allah . May Allah guide us to the path that takes us closer to Him. Ameen. Productivemuslim.com
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