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An Upbringing of Piety (Mother of Moulana Sayyid Abul Hasan ‘Ali Nadwi [rahimahumallah]) The greatest accomplishment of Khairun Nisaa (rahimahallah) and the highlight of her life was perhaps the exemplary manner in which she raised and moulded her son, Moulana Sayyid Abul Hasan Ali Nadwi (rahimahullah). Moulana was orphaned at the tender age of nine. It was thus his mother who single-handedly attended to his upbringing. Khairun Nisaa was extremely kind and compassionate towards her son, especially since he had lost his father. However, there were two aspects regarding which she was unrelenting and extremely strict. The first was Salaah In this regard, she would not tolerate even the slightest negligence or laziness. If her son ever fell asleep without performing his Esha Salaah, she would wake him up and make him perform it, even if he was in a very deep sleep. Similarly, she would wake him up at the time of Fajr Salaah and send him to the masjid. Thereafter, when he would return after salaah, she would make him sit and recite the Quraan Majeed. The second aspect regarding which she was very strict and firm was his behaviour with the servants and the poor. If he ever ill-treated a servant or the servant’s child, or displayed arrogance and treated them rudely, she would force him to ask them for forgiveness and beg their pardon. Moulana explained the great impact that this had on him throughout his life in the following words, “This (approach, which my mother adopted,) benefited me greatly in my life and instilled within me the intolerance for pride, arrogance and oppression. It also impressed upon me the seriousness of the sin of looking down at people and treating them badly. Furthermore, due to this, it was always easy for me to acknowledge my mistakes (throughout my life).” When Moulana went to Lucknow to study, his mother continued to monitor his progress and check on him through his step-brother. She also continued to write letters to him, advising him and giving him guidance in various areas of his life. Lessons Although it outwardly seems as though she was only strict regarding two aspects, the reality is that she actually impressed to her son the importance of the entire Deen. The reason is that Deen is primarily divided into the duties of Allah Ta‘ala and the duties of the creation. By being strict on salaah, she instilled the importance of the first category of duties in his heart, and by being strict on his behaviour with the servants and the poor, she instilled the importance of the second category in his heart. Even after Moulana grew older and left home to pursue his Deeni studies, his mother remained concerned over his progress and continued to check on him and advise him. This is because the parents’ concern for their child is until they die. Hence, parents must never stop making dua for their children, and so long as they are able to, they must continue to advise them and encourage them towards righteousness. UswatulMuslimah

This brings solace and hope.... Unknown author AWAITING THE KNOCKOUT BLOW: A QURANIC PARALLEL The disappearance of "Israel" from existence is a Quranic truth and a prophetic promise. Therefore, the question is not if it will disappear, but rather when will the final round come? It is not my belief to sit back and wait for miracles. Instead, I believe that miracles come only after the believer has exhausted all their efforts. When falsehood seems to have all the power and victory seems certain, the truth holds on to its last shred of steadfastness. The believer may appear on the brink of defeat, but it is in that moment that Allah intervenes and eventually the miracle arrives. Throughout the Quran, we see a consistent theme: the struggle for influence is distinct from the struggle for belief. In the battle for influence, Allah allows human beings to rely on their resources and power. The stronger party typically prevails, but the conflict over belief operates under a different divine principle. In this realm, the balance of power does not determine the outcome. Quranic Parallels of Divine Intervention: When Allah SWT destroyed Pharaoh, He did so not by shifting the balance of power but at the height of Pharaoh’s pride. Pharaoh declared himself the supreme lord, leading his mighty, well-equipped army. Yet, Allah drowned him and his forces in the Red Sea, showcasing Allah’s might over human arrogance. Similarly, when Allah dealt with Nimrod, it was not in a moment of weakness for Nimrod but at the peak of his defiance, when he proclaimed, “I give life and I cause death.” Allah’s power struck him down at the height of his arrogance. The tribe of Aad met their fate while boasting of their strength, saying, “Who is stronger than us?” Allah’s punishment came not by changing the causes but while they stood in their might. Likewise, Thamud was destroyed as they confidently roamed the rocks in their valley, oblivious to their imminent doom. The Battle of Faith and Endurance: During the battle of Khandaq, the believers were besieged, their hearts heavy with fear as the enemy surrounded them (Surah Al-Ahzab 33:10-12). The earth, vast as it was, felt narrow to them. Yet, it was at this moment, when all seemed lost, that Allah sent a wind and unseen forces, scattering the enemy and granting victory to the steadfast (Surah Al-Ahzab 33:9). The War in Gaza: As the war on Gaza began, I initially thought it would be just another round in a long series of conflicts, ending as the previous war had. But now, I sense that this could be the final round, the knockout blow. This war, like those before it, may seem under human control, but it has long been beyond our hands and Israel. It seems the hand of Allah is directing it. I am not against rationality, reasoning, and accepting reality. But rationality alone cannot account for the steadfastness, strength, and stability displayed by the people of Gaza thus far. Consider this: Under relentless high-tech bombing, great powers would have melted into extinction. How could a small, narrow stretch of coastline withstand such constant bombardment? With its flat geography, devoid of mountains, valleys, or forests, it should be a military target’s delight, a vulnerable zone for the first attack from a massive arsenal dominating the sea, air, and land. Given that Israel’s previous wars against united Arab nations ended in a matter of days or even hours, speaking of realism now seems like a misplaced materialistic belief. This war, regardless of how it ends, will lay the foundation for the eventual knockout. But one thing is certain: the outcome is no longer in human hands. The hand of Allah is at work, guiding the course of events toward His will. Just as He has done throughout history, He will bring about His plan in His time, and those who trust in Him will see His deliverance, InshAllah - VERY SOON There is no occupier that remains in its occupation. This is an established fact that no one can deny, regardless of the beliefs of the owners of the land!

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The mother said to her son's wife, smiling after the honeymoon: You were able to make my son commit to praying in the mosque. You succeeded in thirty days, while I failed in thirty years. Her eyes filled with tears. The son's wife replied, saying: Do you know, mother, the story of: The Stone and the Treasure? It is said that there was a large stone blocking the way for people to pass. .. So a man volunteered to break it and remove it. The man tried and hit the stone with an axe 99 times, then he got tired... Then a man passed by him and asked him to help him... And indeed, the man took the axe and hit the large stone, and it split from the first blow. .. The surprise was that there was a bag full of gold under the rock, so the man said: It is mine, I split the stone... So the two men argued before the judge, the first said: Give me some of the treasure, I hit the stone 99 times and then got tired, and the other said: The whole treasure is mine, I am the one who split the stone... The judge replied: The first one gets 99 parts of the treasure, and you, the one who split the stone, get one part... Oh man, if it weren't for his 99 strikes, the stone wouldn't have split a hundred times. 💚 Thirty years, and the mother urges her son to pray without despair.. Then she rejoices that her son prayed out of affection for his wife.. even though he disobeyed her for thirty years!! 💚 Then how beautiful is the behavior of the son's wife and how great is her morals when she did not attribute the credit to herself, but rather made the mother completely confident that her efforts were not in vain and that she was the one who laid the foundation stone and built brick by brick until the last brick remained that the son's wife completed..

Incident where Nabi sallallaahu 'alayhi wasallam took the advice of his wife Umm Salamah RA The incident took place during the journey to Makkah to perform the Umrah and the Muslims were prevented from entering Makkah and which led to the signing of the Treaty of Hydaybiyyah. When the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) had ratified the treaty, he commanded his Companions to get up, slaughter their sacrificial animals, and shave their heads, but none of them got up. (The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) was telling his Companions to end the state of ihraam which they had entered in order to perform 'Umrah. They had been prevented from entering Makkah, and were to wait until the following year to perform 'Umrah, but they did not want to abandon their hope of performing 'Umrah on this occasion. They did not want to accept the deal that had been struck with the Quraysh, hence they were reluctant to end their ihraam.) He told them three times to do this, but not one of them responded. He went to his wife Umm Salamah, and told her what he was facing from the people. At this point the wisdom and intelligence of Umm Salamah become quite clear. She told him, The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) took her advice, and did as she suggested. When the Sahaabah saw that, they rushed to sacrifice their animals and shave their heads

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Q. I was discussing a matter with my friend and there were two reasonable options before me. I said I will consider my wife's opinion and then decide accordingly. My friend said that this is incorrect and goes against the teachings of Islam. Is there anything wrong with seeking one's wife's opinion? If it is acceptable to do so, could you please provide the evidence from Islamic teachings? Also, I would appreciate any additional insights on the matter. A. There is nothing wrong with seeking the opinion of your wife or any other family member, and it is certainly not against the Quran or Hadith. In fact, taking advice from those close to you, especially your spouse, is not only permissible but also recommended in Islam. One of the most profound examples of this can be found in the life of our beloved Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam. When Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam received the first revelation in the cave of Hira, he was deeply shaken and unsure of what had just happened. He immediately went to his wife, Sayyidatuna Khadijah (Radhiyallahu Anha), seeking her comfort and advice. It was Khadijah (Radhiyallahu Anha) who reassured him, reminded him of his good character, and supported him during this crucial time. She played a vital role in comforting him and in helping him understand that what he had experienced was a divine message from Allah Ta’ala. This incident is a clear example that seeking the counsel of one’s wife is not only permissible but can be of great benefit. The Quran also encourages mutual consultation. In Surah Ash-Shura (42:38), Allah Ta’ala praises those who conduct their affairs by mutual consultation. The verse says: "And those who have responded to their lord and established prayer and whose affair is [determined by] consultation among themselves, and from what We have provided them, they spend." This verse highlights the importance of Shura (consultation) in making decisions, and this principle applies within the family as well. There is also a Hadith that supports the importance of consultation. Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam said: "The one who seeks counsel is never disappointed…" (Narrated by al-Tabarani in al-awsat) This Hadith emphasizes that consulting others, including one's spouse, is a means of avoiding disappointment and making sound decisions. In summary, seeking the opinion of your wife or any other close person is not only permissible but is encouraged in Islam. The example of the Nabi Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam and the teachings of the Quran and Hadith all point to the wisdom and benefit in mutual consultation, especially within the family. And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best Mufti Muhammed Hamza Farooqui Mufti Taahir Hansa (The answer hereby given is specifically based on the question asked and should be read together with the question asked. Islamic rulings on this Q&A newsletter are answered in accordance to the Hanafi Fiqh unless otherwise stated.) Fatwa Department Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians

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Fights happen in marriage. It’s a normal part of the deal. Marriage consists of two people, and as such, they will naturally differ and disagree on things from time to time. The real question is: HOW do we disagree? What should these arguments or fights look like? Should they be a free for all? Or are there some ground rules, guidelines for how to conduct ourselves as husbands and wives when we do fight? Here is what I’ve learned from my own marriage and the marriages I’ve seen around me: Do not fight dirty. What’s fighting dirty? Some people, when they get mad, aren’t able to contain their anger or control themselves. They feel their anger building and let it rage into a blazing inferno, raging out of control. In this state, they let loose, allowing themselves to say whatever comes to their angry mind. They deliberately target what they know their spouse is sensitive about, what will devastate and wound the spouse. They go for the jugular. They have no filter in that moment and will say literally anything and everything they can think of in order to hurt the other person and “win” the fight. But there is no winning like this. Even if you “win” like this, you’ve lost. You’ve lost the trust and love of your spouse, you’ve damaged the relationship, you’ve sacrificed your marriage to score some cheap points in the heat of anger. This is fighting dirty. If a couple gets into the mode of fighting dirty, it can be hard to fix. Some things, once said, cannot be unsaid. Once your spouse has heard you belittle, disrespect, or mock him or her in a certain way, he or she cannot un-hear that. The damage is done, despite the apologies that might come later. Not all jabs are erased by even a sincere apology. Some things cut deep, and leave lasting marks. This affects the relationship quality, weakens the marriage bond. Here are some concrete things you should NOT do while fighting with your spouse: 1. No cursing, swearing, cussing. We don’t use the f-word or other filthy language, no matter how angry we feel. 2. No name-calling. 3. No using what you know is going to really truly hurt and devastate your spouse. Don’t use the intimate details they shared with you in confidence once against him or her, just to twist the knife now in a fight. 4. No bringing in other stuff not related to the current fight. Focus on the issue at hand without piling on other stuff that’s irrelevant. 5. No dragging up past mistakes your spouse made, if you’ve already forgiven him or her. This is unfair. 6. No threatening divorce willy nilly. Don’t keep bringing up the possibility of leaving the other person during every small and big argument. This is unnecessary. 7. No involving the kids. Go have your fight in the privacy of your own room, especially if it gets heated. 8. No belittling or mocking your spouse in the presence of others. Show respect and restraint even if you’re mad. 9. No mocking things your spouse genuinely can’t control or help, like an illness he or she has, a fertility problem, being too short/ tall, being dark or light-skinned. These are unchangeable features of your spouse that were determined by Allah who created him or her; this cannot be helped. It’s not his or her fault. You knew this before marriage. Don’t come now and mock it because you’re mad. This is a cheap shot. 10. No attributing intentions to your spouse. You cannot know someone else’s intentions, because the niyyah is in their heart, known only by themselves and by Allah. You can say what it looks like, but you cannot just assign a specific (malicious) intention to the other person when you can’t know that since you can’t see into his or her heart. These are the top ten etiquettes that are important to stick to during marital disagreements. It’s not a free for all. We don’t go wild. There are certain red lines we never cross, even at the height of anger. The Muslim has taqwa of Allah, even when angry or in the middle of a heated fight. A Muslim is not foul-mouthed, vulgar, or merciless. Rasulullah Sallallahu alayhi was sallam said, “The believer is not one who insults others, nor curses others, nor is vulgar, nor shameless.” [Tirmidhi] If done right, with restraint, self-control, and taqwa, a couple can actually get closer and more aligned after having a fight. If done wrong, fights can destroy a marriage entirely. May Allah grant us all taqwa of Him even during moments of anger, and bless the marriages of this ummah, ameen. muslimskeptic.com

The outcome of our lives is determined by our final actions. No matter how pious or sinful one’s life may seem, it is the conclusion that counts in the eyes of Allah. This reality should instil in us both hope and humility—hope, because redemption is always possible, and humility, because none of us knows how we will meet our Lord. The Prophet ﷺ said: “One man does the deeds of those who go to hell but is one of those who go to paradise, and another does the deeds of those who go to paradise but is one of those who go to hell, for judgement is given according to one’s final actions.” (Bukhari and Muslim). In light of this, it’s crucial to adopt an attitude of humility and self-awareness. Often, we are quick to judge others based on their current state or past actions, but we must remember that we do not know their true standing in the sight of Allah. Someone who appears distant from righteousness today may surpass us in the end, just as someone who seems virtuous might falter at the last moment. Therefore, we should never consider ourselves superior to others. Instead, we should strive to see ourselves as constantly in need of improvement and guidance. Imam Sha’rani mentions in his 'Code of Companionship’: “Among the rights that a brother is entitled to from his brother is that one should always perceive themselves as inferior when comparing themselves to their brother. This should be rooted in firm conviction, not just opinion or speculation.” Moreover, this humility should extend to how we interact with others, regardless of their social status or knowledge. Scholars have noted, “One who does not genuinely regard themselves as inferior to their brother will not truly benefit from their companionship.” Every person we encounter has something to offer us, and we should always be open to learning from them. By perceiving others as greater than ourselves, we open our hearts to true growth and wisdom, benefiting from the experiences and insights of those around us. We owe it to our brothers never to look down at them with an eye of disdain, and refrain from disgracing them due to a sin or any other matter. Reflect on the words of a great spiritual scholar Sayyidi ‘Ali Wafa: “It would be foolish and thoughtless to assume that you are immune from being in a similar situation or to condemn someone for something you could potentially do yourself. You should be aware that what is possible for someone else, is equally possible for you.” May Allah allow us to benefit from the companionship and insights of those around us, and protect us from arrogance and self-righteousness. whitethreadpress.com

Q. Lately, I have been feeling overwhelmed and stressed, as it seems difficult to achieve my goals, leading to thoughts of giving up. Despite this, I strive to maintain my faith and remain strong. Could you offer any advice on how to stay positive and resilient amidst the challenges of life, especially when it feels like this life is so short? A. May Allah Ta’ala ease your heart and grant you peace in these challenging times. It is natural to feel overwhelmed by the weight of our goals and the pressures of this Dunya (world), but remember that our existence here is just a brief journey, a test designed by Allah Ta’ala to purify and elevate our souls. Allah Ta’ala reminds us in the Quran: "And We will surely test you with something of fear and hunger and a loss of wealth and lives and fruits, but give good tidings to the patient." (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:155) Patience (Sabr) and reliance on Allah Ta’ala (Tawakkul) are key in navigating the trials of life. Here are some steps that may help you stay positive and grounded in your Imaan (faith): 1. Reconnect with Allah Ta’ala: Regular prayer (Salaah), recitation of the Quran, and making dhikr (remembrance of Allah Ta’ala) can bring immense tranquillity to the heart. Allah Ta’ala says, "Verily, in the remembrance of Allah Ta’ala do hearts find peace and tranquillity." (Surah Ar-Ra'd, 13:28) 2. Break down your goals: Sometimes, we feel overwhelmed because we try to take on too much at once. Break your goals into smaller, manageable tasks. Achieve them step by step, and rely on Allah Ta’ala for strength and guidance. 3. Reflect on the temporary nature of life: Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wa Sallam said, "Be in this world as if you were a stranger or a traveller." (Sunan Tirmidhi) This life is fleeting, and our ultimate goal is the Hereafter. Every difficulty we endure with patience and faith brings us closer to eternal bliss in Jannah, Insha’Allah. 4. Seek support from others: Do not hesitate to share your feelings with trusted friends, family, or a counsellor. Sometimes, speaking about our struggles can lighten the burden and provide a new perspective. 5. Practice gratitude: Focus on the blessings you have, no matter how small they may seem. Gratitude can shift your perspective from what is lacking to what is present, bringing contentment to your heart. 6. Remember the bigger picture: Every trial you face is an opportunity to grow closer to Allah Ta’ala. It is through these challenges that our character is refined and our faith strengthened. In conclusion, life may be short, but it is also a precious opportunity to earn the pleasure of Allah Ta’ala and prepare for the eternal life to come. Stay strong, continue to make Du’aa, and trust in Allah Ta’ala’s plan for you. He is the Best of Planners, and He knows what is best for you in this life and the next. And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best Mufti Muhammed Hamza Farooqui Mufti Taahir Hansa (The answer hereby given is specifically based on the question asked and should be read together with the question asked. Islamic rulings on this Q&A newsletter are answered in accordance to the Hanafi Fiqh unless otherwise stated.) Fatwa Department Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians

Superstition in the Month of Safar Rasulullah Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam said, “There is no superstitious owl, bird, no star-promising rain and no bad omen in the month of Safar.” [Sahih Bukhari] Many people have erroneous beliefs regarding this month i.e. it is a month of misfortune and calamities. The teachings of Allah Ta’ala and His most beloved Rasul (SallAllahu Alaihi wa Sallam) gives us clear guidelines on such incorrect beliefs. Today, there are some Muslims who hold incorrect beliefs regarding the month of Safar. Some incorrect beliefs are: 1. A Nikah performed in this month will not be successful. 2. This month is full of misfortune and calamities. 3. To commence any important venture, business etc. during this month will bring bad luck. 4. The first to the thirteenth of Safar is ill-fortune and evil. 5. The person who distributes food or money on the 13th of Safar will be saved from its ill-fortune. 6. To celebrate the last Wednesday of Safar and regard it as a holiday. In pre-Islamic days people considered the month of Safar to be evil and ominous. Rasulullah Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam strongly rejected such beliefs and ideas. The truth is that no time, day, month or date is in itself evil, but the deeds of people are either good or bad. The time spent in the performance of good deeds will be auspicious and the time spent in sin and the disobedience of Allah Ta’ala will be evil and ominous. The Month of Safar is not ominous. Evil deeds and incorrect beliefs are ominous and should be given up and repented for. It is incorrect to postpone or delay marriage or its proposal or a journey, etc. because of such beliefs. The polytheists believed the Month of Safar (up to the 13th day) to be inauspicious, hence, Rasulullah Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam rejected this superstition. It is therefore wrong for Muslims, who are the followers of Rasulullah Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam, to adopt the ways of the non-Muslims and to entertain the very beliefs which he had come to change. May Allah Ta’ala grant all Muslims the ability toshun all types of erroneous beliefs regarding the blessed month of Safar and to accept and practice upon all the beautiful teachings of Rasulullah Sallallaahu Alaihi Wasallam, Aameen. Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians

My mother in law, widowed for twenty-five years, was one in a million. She was my friend, my mother, not a ‘mother in law’. I spent thirty one years of my life with her. I can’t remember a single day that we ever fought or argued. We had our differences but never things that got out of hand. She would easily resolve things with her heart of gold. Here are a few things that she did that made us friends rather than in laws: 1. She never stayed angry for more than an hour 2. It was always more important to her that we have a good relationship so that we could live happily. 3. She never interfered in my marriage or in the upbringing of my children. 4. She gave me authority and respect in her home. 5. One of the golden ingredients of her successful recipe was that she never complained to her son (my husband) or to my mother about me. In turn I never complained to my husband about her. We always sorted out our problems with each other. In this way my husband was spared of being caught in the middle, choosing sides, his mother or me. 6. Our personalities were different but due to our understanding and mutual respect, we got on like a ‘house on fire’. 7. She loved me unconditionally for who I was, not for what I could do for her. In return it was easy for me to do things for her to make her happy. 8. She always acknowledged and appreciated whatever I did for her. 9. She always took my part over her son, even if I was wrong. 10. Whenever she was wrong she never hesitated to apologize and ask for maaf! This was a truly remarkable quality. It takes a really amazing woman to do that. Not many mothers in law would be able to do this. And when she would do this, I would become extremely embarrassed, feeling terrible that my mother is asking me for maaf. 11. She had no qualms in praising me in front of others. She would always say that she was so lucky to have me. Truly speaking I was the lucky one to have her as my mother in law. 12. Some other qualities of hers was that her heart was always clean, she never kept any ill feelings in her heart and she was very soft hearted. 13. She was always humble, smiling and giggling. 14. She never complained about taking care of my brother in law who is mentally challenged and took him with her wherever she went. She did not make him my responsibility. 15. She loved my children unconditionally and never bothered of they made a noise or mess in her house. She would just say, “Leave them, children are not normal if they are not naughty.” 16. She had an amazing quality of feeding people. If you came to her home, she would never allow you to leave without eating. If she had no visitors then she would send food, baking or naan to her neighbours and friends. Even when she was ill and people came to visit she would ask me if I had fed them. A beautiful Sunnah which is dying so fast today. 17. She always had time for everyone, especially her nephews and nieces who were all beloved to her and in return she was beloved to them. 18. Most importantly, she always kept family ties in spite of living so far away from everyone. I hope that I can follow in those footsteps of hers. I truly loved her with all my heart. For my daughters, their Dadi was their world. I have lost my friend, my companion and my support of thirty one years. May Allah Ta’ala grant her the highest stages in Jannatul Firdaus, Aameen. From the Jamiatul Ulama KZN Social Office: The social department works primarily with relationship conflict on a consistent basis. We exist as social beings in this Dunya and relationships are central to our existence. Just as we require a license to drive a car, so too should we equip ourselves with the correct skills to efficiently maintain our relationships. Alhamdulillah, this heartwarming message presents some fundamental values required for a healthy relationship. In-law relationships in particular appear to be fraught with misunderstandings and a lack of tolerance. Media has also contributed to the added perception that this relationship is necessarily difficult. The alternative narrative like this message presents becomes useful in shifting current views. A healthy relationship recognizes that individuals are different, so we learn to appreciate our differences. We respect and appreciate a person's individuality whether they are our senior or junior. Insaan (humans) comes from the root word 'nasiya' which means 'to forget'...if we can so often forget our Creator, we can also definitely forget the rights another insaan has over us. So we learn to tolerate, overlook and forgive the other persons shortcomings as we recognise that we too are an imperfect insaan. How do we do so? ...we take the good someone has to offer and we disengage from the imperfect bits. We choose to look through rose-tinted glasses and focus on the strengths/positives of the person. If we choose to stand rigidly by the rights that we have over another person, we will be unlikely to enjoy survival of relationship. If we instead choose the path of ehsaan, we let go of our own emotional burdens and we permit ourselves to enjoy a better quality of relationship. Alhamdulillah, this message is indeed one in a million. It is exceptionally beautiful to hear that the teachings of our beloved Nabi saw are being actively applied in today's time. A final word, the shift begins with us in tiny steps and restart by purifying our intention....Oh my Creator, I am doing this overlooking, even though it feels hard right now only for Your pleasure....You have promised my reward for it. The rest will fall into place from Allah directly InshaAllah. Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians

Who is Allah? – Life With Allah

Do you know how great Allah is? Our limited minds are unable to fully comprehend the greatness of Allah. However, we can attempt to appreciate His Greatness by pondering over: (1) His creation, (2) and His words (the Qur’ān).Watch this inspiring video about the greatness of Allah by Shaykh Ahmed Ali.

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Homosexual Inclinations Sayyiduna Abdullah Ibn Abbas radiyallahuma anhu reported that Rasulullah (sallallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “…May Allah’s curse be upon those who do the action of the people of Lut.” [Nabi (sallallahu’alayhi wasallam) repeated this curse thrice!] [Sahih Ibn Hibban] _____________________________________ Question I am a Muslim male who was very ‘normal’ in my nature until recently. Having watched a movie which explicitly encouraged homosexuality, I now find myself strongly attracted to other males, to the extent that it is extremely difficult to restrain the desire to engage in Haraam. I am overcome with remorse and very ashamed of these feelings and also afraid of giving into my desires, knowing that this is a very major sin. Please help. Reply Respected Brother in Islam, Wa-alaykumus Salaam wa-Rahmatullahi wa-Barakaatuh 1. Thoughts should be ignored, but if these feelings are being entertained, then effort has to be made in diverting the attention. 2. Being ashamed of one’s sins and wanting to keep them concealed is a sign of Imaan. Of course, this does not mean that a Muslim continues secretly indulging in disobedience to Allah Ta’ala and makes no effort of giving it up. 3. Often, the cause of boys / men suddenly feeling inclined and attracted to other men is due to watching some film/movie with such a content (i.e. of homosexuality). Due to the promotion and condoning and encouragement and the effects of such viewing, even an otherwise normal male will begin having such evil thoughts and desires in respect to other men. Others too have written of such experiences, so you are not alone in your anguish. For example: a teacher wrote to me, stating that he was a “normal” Muslim male – who had a complete aversion to homosexuality. However, after viewing just one film on homosexuality, found himself overcome with lust when it came to his male students, and he too was overcome with fear that he must not fall into the sin. He found himself very weak to the demands of his evil desires, but was also making every effort to curb them. And yet prior to viewing this film, he was sickened at the sin. So it was one movie that triggered off such a volatile situation in his personal and spiritual life. …May Allah Ta’ala save all. 4. Make the effort of reading 2 Rakaats of Salaatut Taubah and Salaatul Haajah every day, with sincere dua thereafter that Allah Ta’ala forgive and change your feelings and protect you from the mischief of nafs and shaytaan. 5. Keep reading: ‘Ya Hayyu Ya Qayyum - Laa ilaaha illa anta Subhanaka inni kuntu minaz zaalimeen' 6. Continue meditating over the punishment that was meted out to the people of Lut Alayhis Salaam and the Shar’ee punishments for the person engaging in the act; together with the fact that indulgence in the sin is such which draws the curses of Allah Ta’ala and Rasulullah (sallallahu alaihi wasallam) - and a person under such a curse is deprived altogether of the Mercy of Allah Ta’ala. {May Allah Ta’ala protect us} 7. Try and give Sadaqah in some form, on a daily basis, with the intention that Allah Ta’ala grant complete change in your feelings and protect you. 8. If Zam Zam is available, then drink it with the intention of cure from your evil desires – for Zam Zam is a cure for whatever is intended when drinking it. 9. Also, lower your gaze when it comes to such young boys/handsome men, where you fear there will be some kind of attraction. Don’t be alone with anyone. 10. Keep yourself occupied. Even when retiring to bed, try to just listen to some Zikr or Naath Shareef until you fall off to sleep. 11. Try and sleep in a state of Wudhu, read the Masnoon duas and Ayatul Kursi. 12. These are actually the whisperings, encouragement and deception of shaytaan and nafs. Both are trying to deceive and convince you that this is your nature, so that shaytaan can ruin your worldly life and your Hereafter, and the nafs can get some temporary gratification, not considering consequences – i.e. its own humiliation and disgrace. With effort and striving, you will, Insha-Allah, overcome both of them. 13. At least you feel remorse over your weakness. Consider the effort you are now making to address your weakness and to come out of the sin, as a sign that Allah Ta’ala is with you and He will support and assist you in your efforts to give it up. 14. May Allah Ta’ala grant complete shifa from this sickness, protect you from any Haraam indulgence and purify you of such evil feelings. Was-Salaamu alaykum wa-Rahmatullahi wa-Barakaatuhu Moulana Yunus Patel (Rahimahullah) Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians

On one occasion, Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) was walking with Ja’far bin Sulaimaan (rahimahullah) in Basrah when they came across a palace being built. The person coordinating the project was a very handsome youngster. Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) turned to Ja’far (rahimahullah) and exclaimed “Do you not see this youngster, his beauty and his ambition for this construction?” (i.e. look at how his ambition is being wasted on the temporary things of this world.) He further exclaimed, “I really have to ask my Rabb to free him (from the clutches of this material world) and (by means of which) perhaps He (i.e. Allah Ta‘ala) will make him from among the youngsters of Jannah.” Thereafter, Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) requested Ja’far (rahimahullah) to accompany him to meet this youngster. They thus entered the site and made salaam to the youngster. The young man casually replied to the salaam without realizing that the man standing before him was the great scholar, Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah). When those around him informed him that the man before him was Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah), he stood up and asked Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) how he could be of assistance to him. Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) asked him “How much do you intend to spend on this palace?” He replied, “One hundred thousand dirhams (silver coins).” Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) then asked the youngster, “Why don’t you hand this money over to me and I will put it in its rightful place (i.e. I will spend it in the path of Allah Ta‘ala), and (in exchange of that money) I will guarantee for you from the side of Allah Ta‘ala a palace better than this palace, along with its servants and caretakers, domes and pavilions, made from rubies and studded with precious gems. The sand (of the palace) will be saffron, and its cement will be musk. It will be far more spacious than this palace of yours and it will never dilapidate. No hands have touched it and no builder has built it. The Most High (i.e. Allah Ta‘ala) instructed it, ‘Come into existence!’ and it came into existence.” The youngster asked Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) to give him till the next morning to decide. Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) spent the entire night concerned about this youngster. When the last portion of the night came, he engaged himself in excessive du‘aa. The next morning when Maalik bin Dinaar and Ja’far (rahimahumallah) set out, they saw the youngster sitting (and waiting for them). When he saw them, he rushed towards them and asked Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) if the offer of the previous day was still available. Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) asked him if he was willing to give him 100,000 dirhams as per their agreement. He replied in the affirmative and presented the entire amount to Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah). Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) then asked for an inkpot and paper to be brought and thereafter began writing, “In the name of Allah, The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful. This is the pledge of Maalik bin Dinaar to so and so person (the youngsters name); Indeed I (Maalik bin Dinaar) promise you from the side of Allah Ta‘ala a palace in exchange of your palace with the description I had given (yesterday) and more (than what was mentioned) is Allah’s prerogative. I have purchased for you in exchange of this wealth a palace in Jannah which is far more spacious than an extensive shade, close to (the ‘arsh of) The Highest, The Mighty.” Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) then folded the letter and handed it over to the youngster. They then took the wealth and began distributing it. By the evening all the wealth was spent in the path of Allah Ta‘ala and only a night’s ration remained. Barely forty days later, Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) completed his salaah one morning when he saw a letter placed in the mihraab. When Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) picked up the letter and opened it, he found the following written on it without any ink: “This is an absolvent from Allah Ta‘ala for Maalik bin Dinaar; indeed We have granted the youngster the palace which you had promised him and (We have given him) seventy folds more.” Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) was astonished by this. Taking the letter with him, he and his companions set out to the house of the youngster. When they reached the house, they saw that the atmosphere of the house was one of grief and sorrow. When they enquired about the youngster, they were informed that he had passed away the previous night. They then called for the person who had made the ghusl and asked him. “Are you the one who performed the ghusl (of so and so youngster?) He replied in the affirmative. Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) then requested him to inform them about what had happened. The person explained that before the youngster passed away, he gave him a letter and requested that when he passes away, this letter should be placed in between his body and his shroud. Therefore, he abided by his request and buried him with this letter. Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) took out the letter which he had found earlier that day and showed it to the person who had done the ghusl for the youngster. Upon seeing this letter, he exclaimed, “By the one who took his soul, this is the very same letter! I had placed it with my own hands between his shroud and his body.” Hearing this, everyone began weeping profusely. Another youngster who was also present stood up and requested Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah), “Take from me two hundred thousand dirhams and promise me the same thing.” Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) exclaimed, “It is not possible! Whatever happened, has happened and whatever has passed is over. Allah commands whatever He wishes.” Whenever Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) would remember the youngster he would weep and make du‘aa for him. (Kitaabut Tawwaabeen – Ibnu Qudaamah pg. 173) Lessons: 1. The luxuries of this material world are such that they very easily distract a person and make him forget his true purpose in life – worshipping Allah Ta‘ala and building his Aakhirah (Hereafter). Hence, it is extremely necessary for us, especially in our era of materialism and secularism, to keep the Aakhirah before us at all times. When the nature of this temporary world and the reality of the everlasting Aakhirah settles in our hearts, it will become easy for us to worship Allah Ta‘ala and pass our lives in His obedience. 2. Concern for the Deen of fellow Muslims is our duty and responsibility. We should thus endeavour to create an environment of reminding one another of Allah Ta‘ala, the shortness of this life and the eternity of the Aakhirah. We should also encourage one another to carry out good deeds and abstain from evil. Furthermore, we must dedicate time to make du‘aa for those Muslims who have lost the path and are involved in actions which are displeasing to Allah Ta‘ala. Hence, together with advising the person, Maalik bin Dinaar (rahimahullah) exerted himself in du‘aa on his behalf at the blessed time of tahajjud. UswatulMuslimah

Q. I came across an article claiming: “Hence the basic purpose of iddah is to determine whether a lady is pregnant or not. This is necessary to protect the lineage of the child. Hence in all cases where one is absolutely sure that the divorcee/widow is not pregnant there shall be no iddah. Obviously in such a case there shall be no other restrictions of the iddah as well.” Is this true? A. The article you came across contains a misunderstanding of the principles and objectives of iddah (waiting period). According to Islamic jurisprudence, the purpose of iddah extends beyond just determining whether a woman is pregnant. The iddah serves multiple purposes in Islamic jurisprudence: 1. Ta'abbud (عبادة): It is an act of worship and obedience to Allah's command. 2. Hifz al-ansab (حفظ الأنساب): Protecting lineage, which includes but is not limited to determining pregnancy. 3. Ihtiyat (احتياط): Precaution, as pregnancy may not be immediately apparent. 4. Hidad (حداد): Mourning period for widows. 5. Opportunity for reconciliation in cases of revocable divorce. 6. Psychological and emotional adjustment for the woman. The claim that "in all cases where one is absolutely sure that the divorcee/widow is not pregnant there shall be no iddah" contradicts the consensus (ijma') of Islamic scholars and the clear textual evidence from the Quran and Sunnah. Allah Ta’ala states in the Quran: "And those who are taken in death among you and leave wives behind - they, [the wives, shall] wait four months and ten [days]." (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:234) "Divorced women remain in waiting (Iddah) for three periods …" (Surah Al-Baqarah, 2:228) These verses do not make an exception for women who are not pregnant. Therefore, it is obligatory to observe the iddah period as prescribed by Islamic law, regardless of the certainty of pregnancy. The iddah period remains obligatory even when pregnancy is ruled out, as it serves multiple purposes beyond determining pregnancy. And Allah Ta’ala Knows Best Mufti Moosa Salie Mufti Taahir Hansa (The answer hereby given is specifically based on the question asked and should be read together with the question asked. Islamic rulings on this Q&A newsletter are answered in accordance to the Hanafi Fiqh unless otherwise stated.) Fatwa Department Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians

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Introduction Living in the West, we are all familiar with the Gregorian calendar, the years, the months, even the dates which are significant to people of other faiths. The real question is, how many of us are familiar with the Islamic Calendar? Can we say that we know the significant dates in Islam or the names of the months? In fact, how many of us know which Islamic month or year we are currently in? We all know when it is Ramadaan and maybe Dhul Hijjah, but what about the other months? Consider the following: A child reaches adulthood in Islam on their 15th Islamic birthday if they haven’t experienced any of the natural signs Our Zakaat is payable once every Islamic Year Our obligatory fasting begins on the 1st of Ramadaan and ends on the 1st of Shawwaal Our obligatory pilgrimage (Hajj) takes places between the 8th and 12th of Dhul Hijjah Bearing the above in mind, as Muslims, it is imperative for us to familiarize ourselves with our Islamic Calendar. The Origin of the Islamic Calendar On one occasion, Abu Musa al-Ashari radiyallahu anhu wrote a letter to Umar radiyallahu anhu, when he was the Ameer ul-Mu’mineen. In the letter, he mentioned that the letters of Umar radiyallahu anhu reach him, but the letters were not dated. Hence, in the 17th year of Hijrah, Umar radiyallahu anhu gathered the Sahabah radiyallahu anhum to discuss how to set a date, in other words, how to fix the Islamic calendar. The first point of discussion was when should the Islamic calendar start, i.e., what should be the first year. Some of the opinions were as follows: From the birth of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam From the time Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam received Prophethood From the time of the Hijrah - Migration to Madinah Munawwarah From the demise of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam Regarding setting the date from the birth of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Umar radiyallahu anhu didn’t like this opinion as this would resemble the Christians. Regarding setting the date from the demise of Raslullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam, Umar radiyallahu anhu didn’t prefer this either, as the passing away of Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam was a blow to the Ummah. After the discussion, Umar radiyallahu anhu came to the decision that the Islamic calendar should commence from the Hijrah. The reason being that the Hijrah marked the beginning of the rise and honour of Islam. The Sahabah radiyallahu anhum unanimously agreed with his opinion. The First month Now that the first year had been determined i.e. After the Hijrah, which month should be the first in the Islamic calendar? If analogical reasoning was used, the first month should be Rabi ul Awwal as this was the month in which Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam migrated to Madinah Munawwarah. However, the actual intention for migration was made by Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam in the month of Muharram. In the 13th year of Prophethood, the Ansar (from Madinah) had taken the pledge of allegiance with Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam on the 10th of Dhul Hijjah. At the end of Dhul Hijjah, the Ansar returned to Madinah Munawwarah after completing Hajj. A few days later, in the month of Muharram, Rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam made the intention to migrate to Madinah Munawwarah and granted permission to the Sahabah t to also migrate. Therefore, it was decided that the first month of the Islamic calendar should be Muharram. This was the opinion of both Uthman radiyallahu anhu and Ali radiyallahu anhu. Other Sahabah radiyallahu anhum suggested that the year should start with the month of Ramadan, however Umar radiyallahu anhu said it should be the month of Muharram, as this is the month in which the pilgrims return from Hajj. The Sahabah radiyallahu anhu unanimously agreed with his opinion. (Source: The Islamic Calendar) Jamiatul Ulama (KZN) Council of Muslim Theologians

Robbers of Time By Shaykhul-Hadith, Hadrat Mawlana Muhammad Saleem Dhorat damat barakatuhum The gift of time is a very precious favour of Allah ta‘ala. It is a favour we can neither store nor stop from passing. This is why we say, ‘Time waits for no one.’ A similitude for time and life is a block of ice melting away, slowly, minute by minute, second by second, breath by breath. Yet one stark difference between the two is that it is possible to put ice back in the freezer, but nothing can freeze our lives. Thus, life is an asset that needs to be utilised now. Upon close observation of our own lives, we will find that there are many activities which rob us of our time. Let us take football as an example; just ponder for a minute, how many people in the world today spend hour after hour of their precious time watching football games? What tangible benefit do we get from just watching football? Seldom do we have a conversation that is void of this topic. Just imagine, during only one season or during a single World Cup campaign, how much of our lives are wasted behind football? How much time do we waste in talking about football, watching football, listening to football commentaries and thinking about football? How much time do we devote to these activities and how much time do we devote to Allah ta‘ala? How much time do we spend pursuing religious or secular knowledge that will benefit us, in helping those who are less fortunate and less privileged than us, in helping the needy and the disabled, or in other ways of making a positive contribution to the communities in which we live? Football is just one example; there are many other robbers of time: engaging in futile conversations and gossip, spending hours on shisha, discussing politics without any practical outcome, etc. Let us all value time and utilise it in something fruitful, for a day is coming when we will be made to stand in the Court of Allah ta‘ala and be questioned about how we spent each and every moment of our lives. Taken from 'Inspirations' (Volume 1) published by Islamic Da'wah Academy © Islamic Da'wah Academy