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Family Day Out

One day out of the many days of life. 

A man was traveling with his Wife and Kids. 

On the way, he met someone standing in the roadway. 

So he asked him: Who are you? 

He said: I am Money 

The man asked his wife and kids : Should we ask him to ride with us? 

They said together: Yes, of course, because money can help us if we want to do something, and get anything we wish for. 

So, they took Money to ride with them. 

And the vehicle continued on its way until the man met someone else on the road. 

The Father asked: Who are you? 

He said: I am high Position and Power 

So, the father asked his wife and kids : Should we ask him to ride with us? 

They all answered in one voice: Yes, of course, because with high position and power we will have the ability to do anything we want and own anything we desire. 

The man took high Position and Power along and the vehicle went ahead. 

Further ahead they came across many more people who offered to add joy and comfort to their trip, and with the advice of the family, the man kept allowing them to accompany him. Yet again the vehicle was stopped by someone who wanted to give them company. 

The Father asked: Who are you? 

He said: I am Deen. 

The man, his wife, and the kids said in one voice: No, this isn't the time; we are looking for pleasures on this trip, and Deen will prevent us from joy; it will have control over us, and we will suffer listening to it and being loyal to it. 

So the man said:Deen, please wait and rest assured we will definitely return soon to you, and pick you up. 

Sadly Deen was left behind and the vehicle continued its trip. 

And out of no where something appeared in the middle of the road 


They found someone asking the father to get out of the vehicle.. 

He said to the father: As far as you are concerned the trip has ended!!! ! 

Get out of the vehicle and come with me. 

The father was shocked with fear and didn't say a word. 

Deen alone can come with you. Is he there with you? 

The father answered: No, but I have left him not too far behind. If you can let me go back, I can get Deen in no time. 

There is no going back from here. 

Huh! said the man. I have my Money, Position and Power, my Wife, and my Kids, 

The man said to him: They will not benefit you; nor will they protect you. 

So, the father asked: And who are you exactly? 

I am Death. 

the one you were quite heedless of and didn't take into account on your trip!! 

The father looked back at his vehicle; he found his wife taking control of it and continuing the trip with all of its passengers but him. 

'Say: If it be that your fathers, your sons, your brothers, your mates, or your kindred; the wealth that ye have gained; the commerce in which ye fear a decline: or the dwellings in which ye delight - are dearer to you than Allah, or His Messenger, or the striving in His cause;- then wait until Allah brings about His decision: and Allah guides not the rebellious.' Qur'an 9:24 

'Every soul shall have a taste of death: And only on the Day of Judgment shall you be paid your full recompense. Only he who is saved far from the Fire and admitted to the Garden will have attained the object (of Life): For the life of this world is but goods and chattels of deception.' Qur'an 3:185 

Let us remember, our journey may end any moment and let us make sure that our Deen is there with us. 

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      Answered by: Moulana Suhail Motala
      Approved by: Moulana Muhammad Abasoomar
      Checked by: Moulana Haroon Abasoomar
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