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Girl and boy sitting in seclusion before nikaah


Q: When visiting a family to meet a potential girl for marriage, is it permissible for the girl and boy to sit in a separate room and speak about their plans, requirements etc, since it is embarrassing to speak in front of all the family members? There is a big window to the room so people in the adjacent room can see everything that is going on, but they can't hear.


A: A na mahram boy and girl should not sit in seclusion at any time. The Hadith of Rasulullah (Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam) explains that when a na mahram male and female sit in seclusion, the third one present is shaitaan.

And Allah Ta'ala (الله تعالى) knows best.

عن ابن عمر قال : خطبنا عمر بالجابية فقال يا أيها الناس إني قمت فيكم كمقام رسول الله صلى الله عليه و سلم فينا فقال أوصيكم بأصحابي ثم الذين يلونهم ثم الذين يلونهم ثم يفشوا الكذب حتى يحلف الرجل ولا يستحلف ويشهد الشاهد ولا يستشهد ألا لا يخلون رجل بامرأة إلا كان ثالثهما الشيطان عليكم بالجماعة وإياكم والفرقة فإن الشيطان مع الواحد وهو من الاثنين أبعد من أراد بحبوحة الجنة فيلزم الجماعة من سرته حسنته وساءته سيئته فذلك المؤمن. (ترمذي 2/39)

Answered by:

Mufti Zakaria Makada

Checked & Approved:

Mufti Ebrahim Salejee (Isipingo Beach)

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