Jump to content

Sibling Rivalry


Recommended Posts

Many a times parents unknowingly are the main cause of sibling rivalry. One thing that we must refrain from doing is 'comparing'. No two people are the same so we must never compare or praise one child's behavior in contrast to a siblings. It unfairly puts pressure on the child you praised and devalues the other child. Comparing children creates unwanted hatred between them. When one is due praises then do praise their behavior, effort or work and let them know you appreciate it in the presence of the other children as this will allow them to see what you like and what makes you happy and it will also encourage the praised child to continue and the others to follow. Or remind them of something praiseworthy they also did. But praising one child and immediately turning to the others with saying "Why can't you be like that?" or similar will just cause resentment. One thing I've noticed my husband do a couple of times when he praises the younger children for anything that they've done in the presence of the older child, he'd ask the older child "did you teach them?", Which makes the older child feel a sense of pride and responsible.


We should be with our children so that each of them feel like the special one. Take out time for each child individually. We should always teach our children to share. When we buy them toys then tell them its for everyone to share so either take it turns to play or play together. Or if your buying something for your son then buy something for your daughter too so she doesn't feel left out or jealous. We should get the older children involved in looking after the younger, it will help create a stronger bond between the siblings Insha Allah.


If any of children feel like you are being unfair, speak to them. Always explain to the children why you did what you did so they also see it and don't keep things bottled up inside. Always encourage them to play together and get them to help each other out when they are stuck with anything. If they hurt one another, encourage them to apologies. This type of care needs to be taken from when they are still very little so it seems normal as they grow older. As the thought of favoritism comes to children's minds as they get older. Therefore, if we put love for each other into their little hearts, it will remain there as they grow up Insha Allah.



Link to comment
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Create New...