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  1. Securing Rewards in Marriage by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh) The sawaab (reward) for the sabr (patience) a woman exercises over her difficulties in managing the home of her husband and fulfilling the rights of her husband and children sometimes is such, which makes her ‘reach’ Allah Ta’ala very quickly. This, however, is conditional to her obedience to Allah Ta’ala; fulfilling His Rights, the Rights of His Rasul (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam), as well as the Rights of His Creation. ... Women who have a number of children, sometimes even a temperamental husband, together with many household chores and other responsibilities sometimes think that they cannot achieve the ranks of the Auliya Allah[1] because they do not have time for ‘wazeefas’[2] and Nawaafil (optional prayers). I tell them that they need not worry about too many wazeefas. The most important ‘wazeefa’ is abstinence from all sins. Added to this they should just correct their niyyah or intention in all that they are doing as routine housework. Make the intention of pleasing Allah Ta’ala, then that same housework becomes Ibaadah. In this simple way, they will easily secure great rewards and the same spiritual stages, if not higher. Similarly, the sawaab for the sabr (patience) a man exercises over his wife’s shortcomings, emotional outbursts or mood swings is a medium by which he too acquires great rewards and reaches Allah Ta’ala very, very quickly. Many Auliyaa Allah reached great spiritual heights, and were accepted for tremendous service to Deen on the patience they adopted with their wives, and on the love, care, affection, tenderness and generosity they also extended to their wives. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) set the perfect example for husbands. Despite the tremendous responsibilities that he was entrusted with, he gave due attention and time to his wives and treated them with love and generosity. He was never harsh or insensitive towards any single wife. Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi waSallam) also said: “The best amongst the Believers is he is whose character is the best. And the best among you is the one who is best towards his wife.” -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- [1] Auliya Allah : Friends of Allah Ta’ala [2] Wazeefas : additional, optional supplications
  2. The Curse of Marriage by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh) A husband complained that he was always angry with his wife, and they continuously argued. …There are so many such cases : If it is not the husband complaining of his wife, it is the wife complaining of her husband. In this case, having been informed of the weaknesses of his wife, which are common to other women as well, I said: ‘I agree with you that there are weaknesses in women. However, there are also weaknesses in men. …Moreover, your anger is for worldly reasons. You are cursing your wife and inviting that same curse upon yourself...’ I then explained to him: ‘When you curse your wife on her defiance, non-compliance or her indifference to your rights, then Allah Ta’ala’s azaab[1] descends upon her. When that punishment reaches her, she will not be the only who will suffer. As her husband, you too suffer. If she is afflicted with illness or meets up with some accident, the burden of expense falls upon you, as the husband. You will have to take care of her, and will also find difficulty in that she will not be able to see to you and the children, and the maintenance of the home, etc. And if she has to curse you, she too will find herself in a situation of trial and difficulty...’ There are those women who have the bad habit of cursing their husbands and children – and generally this is due to impatience or frustration. Instead of turning to Allah Ta’ala and making Du’aa, they utter such words, which sometimes finds acceptance in the heavens, but becomes a source of great regret. It is due to this tendency of cursing and being ungrateful to spouses that Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam) directed women towards giving charity and seeking forgiveness. Thus, when Allah Ta’ala punishes the husband or the child, then the wife or mother is left lamenting her plight. It may be that Allah Ta’ala accepts her curse, and in a fit of anger the husband divorces the wife. He loses his wife and children and she is left in dire circumstances as a divorcee; or it may be that Allah Ta’ala accepts the curse, and as such his entire business collapses. Then poverty becomes the lot of not just the husband, but also the wife who cursed, and the children. …There are so many ways that curses are Divinely accepted. Alhamdulillah, the husband explained the above to his wife and they both agreed that arguing and cursing was not the solution. Arguments are the cause of great satisfaction and joy to shaytaan, whose great effort is to destroy marriages. Arguments, in fact, indicate to shaytaan’s presence in our homes. It is the stepping stone to enmity between husband and wife, and can easily end up with divorce, a broken home and many other problems. Who does not want a happy marriage? Who does not want Sukoon (tranquility) in marriage? ...However, to achieve this, some effort has to be made. We just have to train ourselves to adopt Hilm (tolerance) and Sabr (patience) at times, and learn to curb the tendency to argue and fight – which is otherwise common even for the most petty reasons. If we can all keep before us the following Hadeeth and have Yaqeen and conviction on the words of Rasulullah (Sallallaahu ‘alayhi wasallam), many arguments would not even surface and there would be peace and tranquility: “I guarantee a house in the middle of Paradise to the one who forsakes argument even when he is in the right.’
  3. Disappointment to a noble soul is what cold water is to burning metal; it strengthens, tempers, intensifies, but never destroys it.
  4. When you feel alone. When everything you see is dark and grey. When you taste the bitterness of defeat. When you cannot reach out and touch your dreams. When all hope seems lost. You can either let this be your breaking point, or make it your turning point. What’s it going to be? Do not lose hope in Allah, for He is the Creator. He will create another way for you. Never get tired of asking Allah for whatever you need.
  5. If you want jannah! Then five salah is the key to jannah.
  6. He awoke at night and prayed for his nation until his ankles swelled. In return, his nation sleeps at night till there eyes swell. (SalAllahu Alaihi Wa Sallam).
  7. Don't rush your Salah for anything as you're standing in front of The One Who is in charge of whatever you are rushing for.
  8. The Influence of Television by Hazrat Maulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahmatullah alayh) One of the many sunnats of the Ambiyaa (‘alaihimus Salaam) ßis that of Hayaa – shame and modesty : a quality which is sorely missing in the lives of the majority of Muslims today and which should otherwise be an outstanding characteristic and feature of all Muslims, whether married or un-married. Television is such an evil that if our society only understood its reality, then they would find no excuse to watch. Its spiritual harm is that it takes away the hayaa and shame of our men, women and children. The content of most television programmes is nothing but immodesty and indecency, which invites nothing but immodesty and indecency – into our homes, into our lives and the lives of our children. However, this truth and reality seems to just pass over the understanding of even those Muslims who have some link with Deen. Many are regular with Salaah, they are seen in the Musjid, they are wearing the garb of the pious and yet they will be the ones to present flimsy and feeble excuses to view television programmes. Let us consider this situation of sin from the following view – which Alhamdulillah, has been a means of many getting rid of the television. If a person has to knock on your door and tell you : ‘I would like to use your lounge to commit adultery.’ Or a group of some friends have to request you : ‘We would like to use your home to gamble and enjoy our liquor.’ Or a group of youngsters have to tell you : ‘We have chosen your home as a venue for our partying, dancing, drug-taking and fornicating.’ Or a Christian family has to request you : ‘We would like to use your home as a venue for our church ceremony : The marriage of our daughter as well as the baptism of our grandchild. We have already obtained the consent of one of our priests.’ Or some idol-worshippers have to suggest : ‘We would like to carry out some of our religious rites in your home. We would like to bring our idols also. You are more than welcome to observe or participate in our rites. ’ Many Muslims, on hearing such requests, will get very angry; will express disgust – if not swear and curse such suggestions. However, these very same Muslims who will even resort to swearing and cursing such proposals, invite into their homes all of the above by the switch of the television, by hiring English and Hindi films and DVDs and downloading porn and other films from the Internet. There is so much of adultery, partying and other filth that we seem to just welcome into our homes – least realizing the consequences. Just to give you one example and this is but the tip of the iceberg – and it is said with the intention of removing the blindfold that most parents wear : A father of four children mentioned to me that he had got rid of his television and he thereafter explained why. He said that late one night he heard strange noises from his children’s room. On opening the door of their room, he found their television switched on. […This is our concept of modesty : parents must have their own television, to view all kinds of filthy programmes in their privacy, and children must have their own television to view all kinds of indecency in their privacy (Na-uzu Billah).] The father mentioned that there were dirty and obscene scenes of naked people on the television screen. He mentioned that it was filthy and that it shocked him; but what had him even more shaken was that his children were all undressed, engaging in the same kind of indecent acts. They were imitating the pornography they were viewing. He said himself, that until then he had not considered the harm of television. It took this kind of incident to wake him up. …This is just one example of so many. Do we wish to face something similar ? …Do we care to even know what our sons and daughters are doing in the secrecy of their rooms ? The fact that many demand that no one ‘invade’ their space and privacy to the extent of having ‘No Entry’ signs on their doors, should have parents a little more than worried… esp. if they are viewing television and are surfing the net or have free access with cell phones. Many have written, that after watching certain films or programmes, the desire came strongly into their hearts to take drugs, drink liquor, murder their parents, indulge in homosexuality, engage in adulterous relationships, commit suicide, rape, and so much else – and many of them do so. Moreover, with sins like television and evil, lustful glancing, Allah Ta’ala removes the love between husband and wife and even ones children become disobedient. There are many husbands who entertain thoughts of and fantasize of other women when with their wives. And they will when they are watching different actresses and television presenters. Many wives are guilty of the same infidelity having seen or socialized with ghair-mahareem. Many women are so infatuated and obsessed with some soccer player or cricket player that they become dissatisfied with their husbands, and spend their time fantasizing. Had the person not viewed all those ghair-mahareem on the television screen and computer screen, and had lowered his gaze in real life situations, then he would not have desired that which he cannot have, and there would not have been dissatisfaction with his (or her) spouse. Moreover we complain : There is no barkat in our homes; there is no barkat in our wealth; there is no barkat in our time. Our children are rebellious. The husband is having an extra-marital relationship. The daughter has accepted Christianity. The son is on drugs … and the list of complaints does not end. Then who is to blame except the one who brought all of this Haraam into the home by purchasing the television and exposing the family to so much of sin. …Great ‘Ulama became Bay’at upon the hands of Maulana Hakeem Fakhrudeen (Rahmatullah ‘alaih). He mentioned that there was a time, that with the rising and setting of the sun, he saw nothing but noor in Surat. The atmosphere was one of noor. The day commenced with Salaah, Tilawat, Zikrullah… After the cinemas and television and videos flooded Surat, there was nothing but ‘zulmat’ – darkness. With the distraction of such entertainment, Ibaadah becomes a forgotten duty. One Wali of Allah Ta’ala, on visiting a home, mentioned that he perceived the sin of Zina (adultery) from the walls of that home. He was able to recognize this due to the purity of his heart. The residents of that home were not indulging in adultery but they were watching the sin on television. When fire burns against a white wall, it blackens the wall. The Ahle-Dil, with their purified hearts, see the fire of sins which has burnt and blackened the white hearts of the Muslims. Would that we take lesson and take measures to protect ourselves and our children.
  9. God created us with a purpose. We must strive to find it! Allah is the master of all creation. He creates for reasons which we do not understand. If only we had His knowledge, we would be surprised that the most obvious and simple things can actually carry a great purpose. We would know more if only we learn to reflect, and if we practice patience. We will know why Allah has planned things a certain way, if we become believers. Put your trust in Allah and let His plan unfold. Let Him flourish your life with blessings you could not imagine. I was listening to a lecture today by Yasmin Mogahed, in which she was reading comments of her audience, and one person thanked Allah for shutting the door to higher education (Medical University). That led to a closer connection with Allah, to a cleaner heart, and a found purpose in life. SubhanAllah, the greatest blessings can come in a form of a trial or hardship. Sometimes the timing and our priorities are not in line, and Allah gives us reason to fix those issues. But never does he abandon us. Nor is he quick to punish us. I have reflected myself, and I affirm that His knowledge and plan is beyond our understanding. I do know that His will is always best and prevailing. I realized that When Allah told me no and shut all doors, he actually had different plans, which were more important for my future in the hereafter. He had a bigger yes later in life when my life was in balance. When I was righteous and guided in the right direction. When I was able to see his hand in everything, and had the knowledge to understand why some things are not good for us. He has been shaping me and you to fulfill His purpose. We cannot be in despair, we have to keep striving and know that tomorrow awaits us a great reward. Thank you Allah. I have developed a habit of trusting you, and I have benefited in the most remarkable way. You are indeed unique. You are the most-Just and the Most-Merciful. You are Great! -F.D
  10. Who are the best creations of God? To Allah, the best hands are those raised in repentance and worship. The best tongues are moist with sweet and guided words. The best actions are those of charity, guidance, prosperity, help and innovation. The best hearts are those that remember Him and love for His sake. The best feet are those that walk to Him and create a path for others. The best ears are those attentive to His call and that relay the message to others. The best eyes are those that see the hereafter and paint it for others. The best minds are those that have the knowledge of His greatness and share the wisdom. The best in character are the thankful and merciful. The greatest in strength are those with humility. The strongest are those that have a bond with Him. The bravest are those who sacrifice their life for the freedom of future generations. The best of sinners are those who repent. The best in conduct are those that love Allah and His creation. And the biggest winners are those who prostrate and worship Him Alone. But the biggest losers are those plagued with disbelief. With evil actions and constant sinning. Who mock at the righteous. Who are hypocrites and transgressors. Who murder and rape. Who backbite and instigate. Who associate partners with Allah. Who fornicate and vandalize. Who go against the commandments of Allah. Where do you stand? InshAllah you are a light illuminating with knowledge and righteousness. May Allah make us believers destined for Jannatul Firdaus, and May Allah make us part of those who advocate freedom and good things. "And let there be [arising] from you a nation inviting to [all that is] good, enjoining what is right and forbidding what is wrong, and those will be the successful. (Qur'an 3:104)" -F.D
  11. Nice to see you here sis (Nadira)
  12. The video is here can you not see it,i just played it.
  13. I adore you mum! So please help me fulfil your rights by fulfilling mine. Respecting my wife makes it much easier for us to respect you. I love you my wife! So help me fulfil your rights by fulfilling mine. Respecting my mother makes it much easier for me to respect you. Happily ever after.
  14. Congratulations & glad tidings to those who have given up bad habits for the Sake of the Almighty & rekindled their link with Him.
  15. Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times. “Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if one remembers to turn on the light.” If we give it some thought we may notice that a single speck of light can make the darkest of places a well lit environment in less than a second. This is a great example of what happiness is to dark times that we may be experiencing in our lives. During the darkest moments; in times in which we feel we will never feel better, like times that we may experience the loss of a job, or the loss of a loved one, we have to keep our faith in the notion that happiness still exists in our lives, and that the dark season which we are experiencing will soon pass. A time of darkness requires us all to be courageous and requires us all to believe when it seems as though believing will get us to nowhere. Happiness can be found in the darkest of times, all that we have to do is turn on the light, keep a positive attitude and keep pushing forward. Proud Muslimah
  16. A blessing or punishment? Sometimes a sickness, disease, etc. comes in the form of a blessing and sometimes in the form of azaab (punishment). For a mu’min, it is a blessing and mercy if it causes him to turn towards Allah. I will give an example with an incident that took place few years ago. I went to visit a person who was suffering from cancer. On entering his room, I found him surrounded by 3 TV sets- one to his right, one to his left and one in front of him. This was, indeed very surprising… a sick person in extreme pain who could well be in his last moments, in such a situation. On inquiry, his relative explained, that due to him being confined in bed, it became necessary to turn him in these 3 positions; sometimes left; sometimes right otherwise flat on his back. The three sets were placed in such a manner so that he would not miss any part of the programme being watched. If in that sickness, which was meant to have brought us to the door of Allah we continue to indulge in sins and more so, then who do we blame for the problems which we thereafter have to face? Sickness that we undergo in this worldly life should not be seen as a misfortune but as an expression of Allah’s mercy and great blessing. As man commits sins all the time thus the difficulties and hardships he undergoes such as grief, sorrow, illness etc becomes a way by which he is cleansed of his sins in this world. Dear brothers and sisters indeed it is hard to bear any hardships whether it is physical, material, financial, mental etc. But we should learn to bear every kind of sickness or problems with patience (sabr) and put all our trust in Allah. Unfortunately today we are people with low Imaan, we tend as soon as we get a problem, start to curse, to rebel, to utter disgust words, to be ungrateful. We forget that Allah is testing us and we should always be thankful to Allah in all conditions. We should regard sickness as a gift and special sign of mercy. We should indeed not forget that these worldly hardships will be for few days only followed by eternal happiness and rewards. May allah protect us all from losing faith and trust in him… JazakAllah khair for reading Proud Muslimah
  17. What am I going to do? Why is my life so messed up? Why can’t I find happiness? Why am I alone? Why do I feel stuck? Why do I have these problems?’… These questions only have meaning if we direct them to Allah. No one else can answer them. Consider the words of the Prophet Ya’qub (alayhis-salam, peace be upon him) when his son Yusuf (as) was secretly thrown into a well by his brothers. They then reported to their father that Yusuf had been killed by a wolf. And he turned away from them and said, “Oh, my sorrow over Yusuf,” and his eyes became white from grief, and he fell into silent melancholy. They said, “By Allah , you will not cease remembering Yusuf until you become fatally ill or become of those who perish.” He said, “I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah , and I know from Allah that which you do not know. - Quran, Surat Yusuf, 12:84-86 “I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah…” When you feel stuck, when you feel that no one understands your situation, when you’re in pain and you can’t even imagine a solution, only Allah has the answers. You can’t see a way forward, but He can. You don’t see your own worth, but He does. You can’t figure out the road to happiness, but He can show you. I remember a night in Arizona when I was twenty six years old. I lay on a cot in a small, frigid cell. There was snow outside and I had only a thin blanket. As I often did, I put on all my clothing in layers – three pants, three shirts, an army jacket and a pair of boots – and still I kept waking up shivering and shaking. Yet, even more than the physical discomfort, my spirit was tired. I had made mistakes in my youth and had been locked up for almost five years. I had become hard mentally and physically, but my heart was full of sorrow. I lay there that night and I thought, “I have nothing in life. I have accomplished nothing. I have no university degree, no wife, no children, and not even my freedom.” That was a bad time. But I had my faith, and I used to weep to Allah, asking Him to have mercy on me. I think I gave up on myself for a while, but I never gave up on Allah. It would not even have occurred to me to do so. I did cry to Him sometimes saying, “Why, Allah? Why? Why am I here, suffering like this?” But it wasn’t despair, only confusion. In my heart I knew that He heard me and that an answer would come. Shortly after that I received a letter from the parole board granting me early release. I had previously been told very clearly that I was not eligible. It was entirely unexpected, and if you are familiar with the American penal system, miraculous. But for Allah, nothing is impossible or even difficult. Within a few months I was free. I found a job a week after my release, and I excelled. I began writing, sitting at my desk every night after work and disciplining myself to work on poetry, stories and articles. Eventually I went back to school and began a new career, got married, bought a beautiful house, and one day had a child… What can I say except Alhamdulillah! SubhanAllah! What can I do except weep in gratitude for these blessings that I did nothing to earn, but were given to me by my Lord who loves me and cares about me, and wants good for me. I am so deeply touched and moved by the way Allah has answered my prayers from the depths of darkness. If I did anything to merit His blessings, perhaps it was only that I directed my pleas to Him. I knew that no one else could help me. This is a very emotional post for me to write. I want every Muslim to have this sense of Allah as their friend, as someone who cares for them deeply. I want to put that awareness into your heart like a gift. When I was in that cell I used to pray the same dua’ over and over, begging Allah repeatedly. If I had made such pleas to a human being they would have stopped hearing me long ago. When we’re needy with people it pushes them away, but when we’re needy with Allah He comes closer to us! He never tires of answering our need and forgiving us. I know of many similar stories of people who have hit rock bottom and have called upon Allah – or , not even knowing “Allah” by that name, have called to the Supreme Being, saying, “I know you hear me, tell me what I need to do, show me the way!” – and then, like a circle of sunlight piercing a cloud, something or someone comes into their lives to show them the way forward. When we’re out of ideas, surrounded by problems, and feeling totally alone… we’re not alone. Allah is with us. If we pray sincerely and strive, He will put light in our hearts and help us from directions we did not expect. Ask Allah sincerely, open yourself to Him, and accept what He gives you even when it goes against your own desires. The answers to your questions are there, with Allah, I promise you. All those terrible questions that you ask yourself in the silence of your mind, the answers are with Allah. By Wael Abdelgawad
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