Punishment Injured His Pride

[ummtaalib]

When a child does something wrong, the punishment needs to be meted out in such a way that the child develops an aversion to the misdeed and not to the person meting out the punishment. As adults we value our self-respect and we dislike being embarrassed before others. The child as well, likes to preserve his self-dignity and respect.

 

When we punish the child, we have injured his pride. He realises his wrong and abstains from it. However, if his pride is injured repeatedly and he realizes that he has lost his respect before others, he tends to become shameless and it now becomes difficult to stop his evil habit. At times the child feels that the one punishing him has no mercy and love for him, so why should he display manners and obedience. Thus in such circumstances, punishment is more detrimental and harmful to the child.

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