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By all means marry. If you get a good wife, you'll be happy. If you get a bad one, you'll become a philosopher.

 

Socrates

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Two secrets to keep your marriage brimming

 

1. Whenever you're wrong, admit it,

 

2. Whenever you're right, shut up.

 

Shaquille O’Neal

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I had some words with my wife, and she had some paragraphs with me.

 

Bill Clinton

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"Some people ask the secret of our long marriage. We take time to go to a restaurant two times a week. A little candlelight, dinner, soft music and dancing. She goes Tuesdays, I go Fridays."

 

George W. Bush

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"I don't worry about terrorism. I was married for two years."

 

Rudy Giuliani

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"There's a way of transferring funds that is even faster than electronic banking. It's called marriage."

 

Michael Jordan

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"I've had bad luck with all my wives. The first one left me and the second one didn’t.” The third gave me more children!

 

Donald Trump

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A good wife always forgives her husband when she's wrong.

 

Barack Obama

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“Honey, what happened to ‘ladies first’?” Husband replies, “That’s the reason why the world’s a mess today, because a lady went first!”

 

David Letterman

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“First there’s the promise ring, then the engagement ring, then the wedding ring...soon after....comes Suffer...ing!

 

Jay Leno

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After marriage, husband and wife become two sides of a coin; they just can't face each other, but still they stay together.

 

Al Gore

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.An Economist explains his reason for having two wives...! First, Monopoly should be broken... & second, Competition Improves the Services...!

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You never get a person of your type in this world.. Either u hve to adjust or compromise.

Adjust when someone wants to be with you & compromise when you want to be with Someone....

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Marriage is like a flute,

It may have several holes and emptiness.

The same holes and emptiness gives beautiful and melodious tunes, if you know how!

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To be happy with a man, Love him little and understand him a lot...

To be happy with a woman, Love her a lot and do not try to understand her.

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A Little Less Ego, A Little More Understanding, A Little Less Argument, A Little More Concern,That's What Keeps Strong Relations. Forever

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It is not that how much you feel happy with some one that matters. But it is that

how much some one feels ALONE without you.

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Speak less to people whom you love the most....Because if they can not understand the silence.....They can never understand your words..

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Women always worry about the things that men forget, men always worry about the things women remember...

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Woman Buys A New Sim Card Puts It In Her Phone And Decides To Surprise Her Husband Who Is Seated On The Couch In The Living Room. She Goes To The Kitchen, Calls Her Husband With The New Number: "Hello Darling"

The Husband Responds In A Low Tone: "Let Me Call U Back Later Honey, The Dumb Lady Is In The Kitchen..

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Learn the habit of compromise.

Because its better to bend a little,

than to break a loving relationship....

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Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner of his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.

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You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

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Men Call their wives HOME MINISTERS

what should women Call their Husbands?

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External Affairs Ministers

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BEST RELATIONS DONT NEED PROMISES, TERMS OR CONDITIONS. THEY JUST NEED TWO WONDERFUL PERSONS, ONE WHO CAN TRUST AND ONE WHO CAN UNDERSTAND.

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