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You are right. Its good etiquette but not necessary. Many companions or Scholars in past didnt have titles.

This is an excerpt from one of Mawlana Umar Palanpuri’s (Rahimahullah) speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. A great spectacle will come on Day of Reckoning in which good and bad will be decided. The Prophets would deliver this message from Allah. To prepare for that is this current life. After death, man will not be able to prepare anything. When man enters his grave, his conditions will intensify whether good or bad. On the other hand his ‘ability’ to prepare (to face those conditions) will be taken away from him. Suppose in this world if snake appears, man can either utilize a stick to strike (defend himself) or run away (protect himself from harm). If fire starts he can extinguish it using water. If daylight disappears, man can light a torch. If man experiences hunger here, he will be satiated by eating food. If experiences thirst, he will fetch water & drink it to quench his thirst. Here any condition man experiences, he possesses ‘ability’ to prepare for that. And what is meaning of death? Meaning of death is man’s ability to prepare will diminish. In the grave, snake appears the ability to repel it will be gone, darkness appears ability to bring about light will be gone, harm is being inflicted the ability to defend oneself will be gone. Even if relatives leave sticks in someone’s grave the sticks of this world cannot be used to defend oneself against the snakes in the grave. Water of this world cannot extinguish the fire in the grave. Torches of this world cannot eliminate the darkness in the grave. Means of this world will not be able to facilitate ease in the grave. There when man will see that there is no alternative. He will ask Allah “Oh My Allah please return me”. He will realize that in grave he has no ability (to alter his condition). Here I cannot pray, here I cannot fast, cannot engage in remembrance or read Quran. “Oh my Allah please return me back”. What invaluable treasure was the life of this world that I didn’t avail! Now I have realized had I glorified Allah once, there would be tree for me in heaven. Had I praised Allah a tree would be created (in heaven). In this world had I given in charity I would receive its recompense. In this world had I engaged in inviting to Allah, all human beings to whom message would be delivered and all human beings that adopted righteous life due to it. Equivalent to their actions O’ Allah I would be rewarded as such. Now please return me. Now I have understood. Now I will go into the world and perform righteous actions. Allah will say “No!” (23:100) https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/04/25/value-of-life-umar-palanpuri/

Yes its Mufti Tariq Masood.

This is an excerpt from one of Mufti Tariq Masood’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. One man he lost his children. He got divorced and his wife took the children. The event left him grief stricken. He was severely depressed. Off course he longs for his children. I advised him take legal action and go to court. He said going to court is not going to help. I suggested several other alternatives. He said he already tried all of them & wasn’t successful. Then I told him let it go & put it behind you. (5) What is not within your control, to grieve over it is foolish. And get married and have another family. When you will have other children, your focus will shift. He said people will taunt me I forgot my previous children. I told him people have lot of time to waste & will continue to taunt you. Ignore them. What is not in your control what is the benefit to keep examining it! This is great lesson. What is not in your control let go of thinking over it. Throughout his life, Nuh (as) tried to guide his son but he turned out to be disbeliever. In last moment, one can imagine what love & compassion Nuh (as) had while asking his son to board his ship. “O my son, come aboard with us” (11:42) “He said, I shall take shelter on a mountain which will save me from the water.” (11:43) A Prophet has intense love for his children. Similar to how Yaqub (as) had for his son (Yusuf). What pain Nuh (as) must have experienced but his son never changed. “And the waves rose high between the two, and he was among those who were drowned.” (11:43) Nuh (as) supplicated to Allah “My Lord, indeed my son is of my family; and indeed, Your promise is true” (11:45) Allah replied “O NūH, in fact, he is not a part of your family. Indeed, he is (a man of) bad deeds. So do not ask Me something of which you have no knowledge. “(11:46) Its not that Nuh (as) fell in despair “Oh what has happened with me” or start thinking “why did this happen”. Immediately Nuh (as) prayed “My Lord, I seek refuge with You that I should ask You something of which I have no knowledge. (11:47) Its not that he(as) started wailing in pain. What is not in your control relinquish it! We take lot of stress on those things that are not within our control. https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/05/09/dont-stress-yourself-part-3/

This is an excerpt from one of Mufti Tariq Masood’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. When I say don’t stress yourself, that doesn’t mean one will never get stressed. There is no individual in this world with whom all things are going according to how he planned. No one in this world fulfills all that they desire. This is impossible that whatever you desire it happens. Today person in position of authority then tomorrow comes where they are in jail. This happens. So not all of your desires are going to be fulfilled here. What then is the solution? Should you then fulfill everyone of your desires? That is impossible. Wouldn’t it be better if you compromise? What do you think? (#1) Firstly one should prevent themselves to fall into difficult situation. Don’t put yourself into a predicament. Having (unnecessary) friendships with opposite gender this will increase stress not decrease. This is reality. One is doing drugs, his social activities are with other drug users. Doing drugs will not decrease stress rather increase it. When he is not able to have drugs, wouldn’t this individual not get anxious! You are person with modest means but you choose to live in an affluent area. This will increase stress and make person victim of having inferior complex. Look he has a fancy car while I only possess this. Rather you should have lived in an area where everyone is driving similar car as yourself. I witness people living in an affluent area who live with anxiety. They own mansion and earning millions. Why then are they stressed? Because neighbor is making more. These stresses are not from God rather they are self inflicted. https://sheikhonderun.wordpress.com/2021/04/19/dont-stress-yourself-part-1/

This is an excerpt from one of Ibrahim Dewla’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. No one should despair from Allah. No one should complain. People who make effort for this faith should have good opinion of Allah. My Allah is doing good for me. My Allah has provided me in an excellent manner. And Allah will continue to do good for me. Allah will continue to create ease in my circumstances. Allah will continue to facilitate me. Allah will accept me. This is necessary! Its one of the etiquettes. Jabir (rad) said: Three days before he died, I heard Prophet (saw) say: None of you should die except while he is having good thoughts about Allah. (Muslim) My Allah will deal with me with good circumstances. My Allah will assist me. My Allah will make me successful. How your opinion is will dictate how Allah deals with you. It’s in hadith. The Prophet (saw) said, “Allah says: ‘I am just as My slave thinks I am, (i.e. I am able to do for him what he thinks I can do for him). (Bukhari) Allah’s grandeur is great. Allah’s rights cannot be fulfilled by anyone. (Due to which) Allah made way out for us. So based on your opinion decisions will be made. How easy it has become? To have good opinion is this really difficult? To have hope in Allah is this difficult? Because Allah’s grandeur is great and his power is immense. Allah’s rights can never be fulfilled by anyone. Allah’s favors on his creation are many. Allah’s blessings are many. This has been explained to you that do the work of this faith with having good opinion of Allah. Reason for this is that in this world circumstances come to man, undesirable circumstances, pain comes, illness come, restrictions come. So man feels anxious and constricted due to difficulties and devil makes this man hopeless. (This occurs) because man is unmindful of Allah’s greatness. What is Allah’s greatness? This is what man is distracted from. Its blessings of propagation of this faith through which Prophets explain greatness of Allah. The Provider to whom you are going, the Provider to whom you are inviting others to, Provider to whom you worship, what is His greatness! Reflect on His greatness so circumstances are alleviated. Prophets in their message explain greatness of Allah comprehensively. And with people they (Prophets) make them hopeful. Don’t be afraid. Do (good) work. Your sustainer is such & such. “then ask forgiveness of Him and turn to Him in repentance. Certainly, my Lord is Near (to all by His Knowledge), Responsive.” (11:61)

This is an excerpt from one of Tariq Masood’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. To maintain relations with your relatives is an important principle in our faith. If one doesn’t have the hereafter as objective to maintain relations during these times is impossible. Because people are self interested. As long as you are meeting someone else’s interest, then things are good. The day you are not meeting the other person’s interest, nothing for the other person to benefit from, the relation is no more. Brothers not on talking terms. Sisters not on talking terms. Fathers don’t appreciate their children if they are not earning and providing. Is there relationship stronger than between father & son? But today the strongest relationship today is based on money. Son doesn’t address his father with the right etiquette, doesn’t serve him but to he is fortune has wealth. He continues to provide money to his father. Father proclaims ‘really good son.’ What is he? ‘He is pious child of mine.’ If that son doesn’t pray & lacks etiquette with his father. That is of no concern to the father. In the end, what matters is the child possess wealth. On the other hand the same father has another son who is pious but to his fate not successful in business. Whichever business he makes an effort towards, it becomes unsuccessful. He makes sincere effort but not able to find work. To gain his father’s approval he attempts to massage his father’s feet. But father still disapprove him. Father keeps taunting him ‘this useless doesn’t earn anything’. This happens in society. Infact the son is still your child. If that individual is not able to earn money despite his sincere efforts, what is big deal? Son, my relationship is not with you that you only earn and feed me. Even if you don’t feed me you are still my child. Thus, to maintain relations during these times without possessing fear of Allah its impossible.

This is an excerpt from one of Tariq Masood’s speeches. Its translated more or less meaning. Questioner asks to obtain girl I made lots of prayer in latter parts of night. I didn’t have an unlawful relationship. Despite my sincere efforts I wasn’t able to obtain her. But I believe that Allah will provide me someone better. Sheikh replies this happens quite a bit. Truly difficult situation. You prayed all this time despite your efforts in the end you are not able to obtain her. In the Quran Allah says “Or shall man have what he wishes?” (53:24) This is rhetorical question. Answer to which is what man wishes doesn’t happen all the time. Truly whatever prayers you have made in night we hope Allah out of his mercy accepts them. If that individual was not meant for you, you will get someone better. Did I not say we should think positive? Firstly we should have positive opinion of Allah. The Prophet (saw) said, “Allah says: ‘I am just as My slave thinks I am, (i.e. I am able to do for him what he thinks I can do for him).” Allah forbid that you think Allah intended bad for me because of your perspective it will be bad. Rather have positive thought that whatever happened is for my best. It could be that you got married to her. Rather than being source of happiness she tortures you. Allah will provide you someone better. And it could be that the one you do get married to, she is not better and is torturing you. So one will ask has Allah truly provided me someone better? We have to believe Allah knowledge is perfect and our intellect is deficient. “it may be that you dislike a thing which is good for you and that you like a thing which is bad for you. Allah knows but you do not know.”(2:216) Meaning of having faith is to believe whatever occurring in my life is nothing but good. My other advice or request in late parts of night avail opportunity to pray for forgiveness. Wouldn’t that be better? Focus on obtaining forgiveness of Allah.