By Bint e Aisha
Some tricks shaaytan uses to convince a Muslimah to chat with boys:
1) shaytan says: “Young girl, in our modern age, every girl chat with boys! Don’t be so conservative dear! We are not in the middle age anymore!”
*Dear sister, don’t listen to shaytan! To chat/to sit with a non Mahram is Haram in Islam! If that becomes the norm, does that mean it is the right thing to do? If the majority of Ummah drink Alcohol (for example) does that mean that other Muslims should drink it too? Of course not!
A scholar said once:“Take the way of the righteous, do not be fooled by the lack of its followers…And be aware of the path of misguidance, do not be fooled by the high numbers of the lost ones who followed it"
2) shaytan says: “This is boy is just like a brother to you! So why don’t you chat with him?”
*Brother?!! Did your mother give birth to him?!! Dear sister, please beware of feeling safe from the tricks of shaytan. Beware of trusting your own feelings, thinking that you don’t feel anything for this boy and that it’s ok to talk to him..Remember that shaytan is always the third person and he will surely drag you to do things you’ve never thought you would do!
3) shaytan says: “Dear, look how pious this Muslim brother is! why don’t you give him a chance to talk to you so you can benefit from his Islamic knowledge?”
*This trick works with many sisters, especially the pious ones! The shaytaan deceives people and opens the way that leads them to sin. He mixes things that are acceptable with things that are not acceptable, and mixes truth with falsehood. He comes to each person through something that is suited to him. So, for pious sisters, he would come to them with "religious" arguments! shaytan will make sure that the woman who loves Islam and is religiously committed, will be attracted to pious men, just like her, If a sister wants to know more about Islam, she should have friendship with righteous sisters who can help her in increasing her Islamic knowledge and not have chat with a brother for that reason?
Remember dear sister, with shaytan, there is always a trick for everything! Don't let him deceive you & beautify sins in your eyes so that you commit them with no regret or guilt .. Beat him! He is weak, so be a strong Muslimah.
By Bint e Aisha
Following is taken from http://www.ummati.blogspot.com/
Intermingling of the sexes I
I begin in the name of Allah Most Gracious Most Merciful.
The topic in discussion is one that will surely create some controversy amongst the minds of many. Some of you may read the first paragraph and decide you would like to read no further. Others may read the entire post and quietly dismiss what is said. However I place a small request before you: please do ponder upon what is said. Jazakallah.
You may all agree that having a physical relationship with a non-mehram is totally forbidden in Islam. And if one was to trangress these boundaries then punishment would be the inevitable consequence. However, if one was to put it simply then we would agree that any form of communication that is likely to lead to ones carnal desires being aroused, is strictly forbidden. One does not know whether one's desires will be aroused or not- though there is always a possibility, hence such communication is forbidden.
By communication I mean conversations between a non mehram man and a woman in person, or via the phone, even by a mere look and yes, let me utter the deadly words, the most common form of communication amongst non-mehrams is taking place on the internet. It is the most easiest form and sadly it is succeeding beyond measure in corrupting our minds and leading us astray.
(Let me stress, this form of contact I am referring to is one that is keptunnecessarily, there are instances where non-mehrams can communicate, these shall me mentioned later on inshallah)
One specific ploy used by people who want to make an excuse to chat to the opposite sex, is to refer to them as their 'brother' and 'sister.' Does this really convince you that what you are doing is islamically acceptable? Yes, every muslim is a brother and sister to one another, but these so called brothers and sisters of ours are people who we can marry, hence the ruling of it being forbidden.
Neither does the excuse of being 'friends' work because such a thing as friends between a non-mehram man and a woman exist in Islam.
I would like to end by asking, what do we derive from an hours long conversation or even merely keeping in contact with a guy/girl? Yes, it is a form of pass-time, or maybe we think it to be 'fun' and lastly, and most definitely we derive pleasure out of it. I ask you, what is our pleasure in comparison to that of the displeasure of Allah (swt)? What is our comfort in comparison to that of the discomfort and pain of the Blessed Prophet (saw)?
Is it fair, that this very Prophet who experienced such hardhship and pain for the sake of his ummah to remain strong on his/her Imaan, so that Allah may grant his ummah salvation from hell, this very Prophet's teachings are being torn to shreads. Do we feel even the slightest bit of remorse?
In conclusion I would like to say that this post is not directed at a specific individual, but rather to the entire ummah as a whole. I would like to apologize if I may have said anything that has caused any one of you readers to feel offended. This is not my attempt to be judgemental but rather I am placing a genuine concern before you, I pray that this entry creates an awareness of the evils of men and women chatting online. I pray that Allah gives me and all you readers the hidayah to practice upon what has been said.
Jazakallah for reading.
Fatimah bintu Nasr ibn Al 'Attar Al Baghdadiyyah
There is a narration about the modesty of a pious woman who had such haya, that she never left her house except on three occasions (Her birth, when she got married and her janazah)
I am unsure about her name, if it was Fatimah Al Baghdadiyyah or another person
What is the source of this report and the identity of the righteous woman?
This was indeed Fatimah bintu Nasr ibn Al 'Attar Al Baghdadiyyah. She was known to be extremely pious. 'Allamah Dhahabi (rahimahullah) writes, 'Her brother said: 'She only left the house thrice in her entire lifetime'
(Tarikhul Islam, vol. 23 pg. 526, Al Bidayah Wan Nihayah, vol. 14 pg. 284/285)
And Allah Ta'ala Knows best.
Answered by: Moulana Suhail Motala
Approved by: Moulana Muhammad Abasoomar