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Nikaah Q&A

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Part 1)

Questions:

1. What status does Nikaah hold in Islam?

2. Is it advisable for one who has the need to get married to delay his marriage on account of studying further?

Speaker: Ml. Ebrahim Salajee

Duration: 00:02:42

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      ANY DUA TO AVOID DISPUTES WITH MY HUSBAND?
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      Is there good easy Duaa/wazeefa to prevent fights? And ease of mind of my husband as well as to move forward from repeated thoughts?
       
      In the Name of Allah, the Most Gracious, the Most Merciful.
      As-salāmu ‘alaykum wa-rahmatullāhi wa-barakātuh.
       
      You have referred to three issues,
      a.   Dua to prevent fights
      b.   Ease of mind
      c.   Move forward from repeated thoughts
       
      Fights are the consequence of one not expressing restraint and controlling one’s anger. In order, to prevent fights one should learn how to exercise restraint and control one’s anger. Dua alone is not sufficient to control one’s anger. If there is a raging fire, one needs to put off the fire. One cannot sit back and simply make dua without the aid of water or fire extinguisher. In fact, when there is fear of fire, arrangement is made for a water hose or fire extinguisher within one’s reach. Likewise, one needs to equip oneself with the necessary skills to overcome and combat anger. This requires spiritual and internal training by oneself or through a spiritual guide.
       
      A Sahabi requested Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam for advice. Rasulullah Sallallahu Alayhi Wasallam said, لَا تَغْضَبْ . He repeated this advice three times. If one does not exercise restraint and control ones anger, he will be forced to tolerate more than the discomfort of anger later. We advise you to inculcate skills of containing your anger. This would be achieved by a spiritual guide.
       
      Also make dua to Allah for tolerance.
      رَبَّنَا أَفْرِغْ عَلَيْنَا صَبْرًا وَثَبِّتْ أَقْدَامَنَا وَانْصُرْنَا عَلَى الْقَوْمِ الْكَافِرِينَ
      Our Lord, pour upon us patience and plant firmly our feet and give us victory over the disbelieving people.” [2:250]
       
      The following marriage recipe of 10 points will be useful.
       
      1.   Fear Allah:
      It was the noble practice of Nabi (SAW) to conscientise the spouses about the fear for Allah before performing a Nikah by reciting the verses (Nisa v14, Ahzab v69, Aali-Imraan v101) from the Qur’aan. All the verses are common in the message of Taqwa (fear of Allah). The spouses will be first committed to Allah before being committed to their partner. There can be no doubt in the success of a marriage governed by the fear of Allah.
      2.   Never be angry at the same time:
      Anger is the root cause for all marital disputes. One Sahabi came to Rasulullah (SAW) and sought some advice.
      Rasulullah (SAW) replied, control your anger. The same advice was rendered three times. (Mishkaat pg.433; HM Saeed)
      3.   If one has to win an argument, let it be the other:
      Nabi (SAW) said: “Whoever discards an argument despite being correct shall earn a palace in the centre of Jannah. (Ibid pg.412)
      4.   Never shout at each other unless the house is on fire:
       Luqman (AS) while offering advice to his son said:” and lower your voice for verily the most disliked voice is that of a donkey”. (Surah Luqman v19)
      5.   If you have to criticize, do it lovingly:
      Rasulullah (SAW) said, ‘A Mu’ min is a mirror for a Mu’min.’ (Abu Dawood vol.2 pg.325; Imdadiyah) Advise with dignity and silently.
      6.   Never bring up mistakes of the past:
      Nabi (SAW) said: “Whoever conceals the faults of others, Allah shall conceal his faults on the day of Qiyaamah.” (Mishkaat pg.429; HM Saeed)
      7.   Neglect the whole world rather than your marriage partner:
      Nabi (SAW) confirmed the advice of Salman to Abu-Darda [RA] for neglecting his wife. “Verily there is a right of your wife over you.” (Nasai Hadith2391)
      8.   Never sleep with an argument unsettled:
      Abu Bakr [RA] resolved his dispute with his wife over-feeding the guests before going to bed. (Bukhari Hadith 602)
      9.   At least, once everyday, express your gratitude to your partner:
      Nabi [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] said, ‘Whoever does not show gratitude to the people has not shown gratitude to Allah.’ (Abu Dawud pg.662; Karachi)
      10.                When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it and ask for forgiveness:
       Nabi [sallallaahu alayhi wasallam] said, ‘All the sons of Aadam commit error, and the best of those who err are those who seek forgiveness.’ (Tirmidhi Hadith 2499)
       
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      Huzaifah Deedat
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      Lusaka, Zambia
      Checked and Approved by,
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      Distributing dates after nikaah
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      A: At the time of nikaah, distributing dates by giving it to people or by throwing it towards people is permissible and established in the Hadith of Sunanul Kubra of Imaam Bayhaqi. However, in the case where one throws the dates towards the people, one should ensure that the respect of the musjid is not compromised and one does not hurt anyone.
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      عن عائشة رضى الله عنها أن رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم تزوج بعض نسائه فنثر عليه التمر (سنن الكبرى للبيهقي #15078)
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